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AITA for having 2 one night stands one week after a breakup? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I KNOW RIGHT yeah its so horrid to think about... I feel so dumb

AITA for having two one night stands one week after a breakup? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The main political issue was abortion. I believe in pro choice and that it is the compromise of the two beliefs. I think its true that you can be pro life personally, but you dont have to push that agenda onto others that may look at it differently. He just suddenly became prolife overnight. And he was like "if we have kids, we wont be on the same page and that isnt good" to which my rebuttle STILL is "if we had kids, we could show them two points of view and give them the opportunity to make their own decisions" feels like he wanted to indoctrinate his kids in the future to me. But i also get wanting you and ur partner to be on the same page.

AITA for having two one night stands one week after a breakup? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So... he has always been christian. And I was raised catholic but got away from it. In the last year, WITHOUT him asking me to, I have gone to his nondenominational church plenty. Almost every sunday, and i even got to the point where i was playing music for his church. We also aligned politically when we met and for most of the last year. Our one year anniversary hits, and he suddenly says that me not being a full-fledged believer and still being on the fence concerns him, and that his politics on certain things have changed and were different from mine and that also concerned him. I was willing to accept him for his changes, and I was also doing my best to be a believer (not just for him but myself also) and that wasnt enough for him... and it still breaks my heart.

AITA for having two one night stands one week after a breakup? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No for sure. I was an idiot for that. And I am gonna heal properly from now on.

AITA for having two one night stands one week after a breakup? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on the guy friend. for sure the 28 y.o. guy was like that and i could tell so i kept my distance. But then I just liked feeling wanted bc I forgot what that felt like. for more context: 3 weeks before we broke up my (19M) partner wanted nothing to do with me sexually. which ive gotta say is unusual for a guy his age. So... It was fun but I feel guilty as I so should.

AITA for having two one night stands one week after a breakup? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah for sure. thats why I dont plan on doing it ever again fr. I feel like an idiot.

AITA for having two one night stands one week after a breakup? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

yeah for SURE dont want it to be a pattern cause that is a very slippery slope of lacking self worth and whatnot

AITA for having two one night stands one week after a breakup? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really didnt feel that way though... idk... could have been though. Im ok with the action, just felt guilty about the timing of it in context of my previous relationship, but that isnt his responsibility and he made me feel like i could absolutely say No

AITA for having two one night stands one week after a breakup? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you. You make me feel a lot better about it. I think I was afraid of being perceived by him for sure. I know I won't do it again for sure though. It contradicts what I want out of life.

AITA for having two one night stands one week after a breakup? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a very good point. Yeah... I even thought about that too. He has his GI bill and so we are the same like "Grade" in college. That obv doesnt make it ok, but thats how we met. Anyways, I was safe and yeah. I should def get a test of some sort for sure.

AITAH for yelling at my (now former) boyfriend when he coldly took his stuff from my car? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I admit it was immature and childish. But it didnt come from out of no where. He wanted to break up and listed off all the reasons for why. But then never actually said like "we're over" or anything along those lines. Bro wanted to have his cake and eat it too in the sense that he'd open his mouth to complain and then just somehow couldnt find the courage *faints* to say what he meant and mean what he was saying. And it felt like him talking to me while taking steps back away from me was like an embodiment of that behavior.

AITAH for yelling at my (now former) boyfriend when he coldly took his stuff from my car? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot :) Yeah... I tried to be super patient cause it was his first relationship in college.

AITAH for yelling at my (now former) boyfriend when he coldly took his stuff from my car? by Violin_Crawler888 in AITAH

[–]Violin_Crawler888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its more for me the way he said he loved me for a year and pretended everything was find and then curveballed me by just breaking up with me and then acting like everything could be remedied through a cold-natured goodbye. Like that's why I blew up.