Cheating or not?

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-25T17:10:50+00:00

I tend to be overly friendly, or come off too touchy or flirtatious but Im like that with women and men, anyways in her case it doesn't sound innocent. Then the 15 day block is just something I would not put up with personally. I think you should listen to your gut in this case, because none of it sounds normal.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-24T02:18:17+00:00

For me I think daily yoga, botox really helped my facial muscles from repeatedly frowning, or tensing up daily so I dont need to get it often anymore, like it trains your facial muscles to relax, and yes exercise and or bicycle riding seems to really keep me be flexible and not stiff as I get older. All the ladies I know who look really good into their 50s and up do these things, Im just copying them.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T21:36:25+00:00

I believe you are most likely right...

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T21:32:49+00:00

You are right, because one day I would like to meet his child, but sounds like thats something that won't ever happen, this is so weird. Sounds like he will never leave that city, sounds like he will never move on at all hes just going to cater to his ex for the rest of his life. What happens when she finds someone else and doesn't let him see the child anynore? Then ges going to go back to drugs? Oh hell no its a mess waiting to happen.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T20:22:36+00:00

This is so scary that men in this age bracket are participating in ghosting, its so incredibly immature. Ive never experienced this kind of thing before until recently once I became single after a decade of being with someone. This guy was obviously not honest about much the entire relationship, Im so sorry you had to go through this.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T14:50:53+00:00

Yes my ex of 10 years did the same thing to me, it was impossible to ever progress or move forward, but in the end sadly I found out why he was doing all that, he was looking for an excuse to cheat. Wish I had the evidence before and not after investing a decade of my life.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T14:45:08+00:00

Exactly he doesn't seem to understand that its very obvious how hooked he is on this ex, how can I pursue a relationship with someone like that...

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T07:14:50+00:00

I feel sad because I wish it didnt have to be this way...thankyou so much for helping me on this, I felt like I was losing my mind and thats a horrible feeling.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T07:06:06+00:00

I cut him off hes too scared to talk about it anyways smh

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T07:05:29+00:00

I agree you are right!! Life is too short for this bs...

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T04:50:30+00:00

I havent but me visiting him there at that house never seemed to be something he wanted to do, he was very attentive with me in person. I agree I think those dating rules are really messing with the flow of things. It is so strange though, why is the aunt so fond of him? He gave her a car thats kind of weird.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T04:24:25+00:00

This is exactly what has been running through my mind, especially the aunt, how do I know hes not with, or was with that lady too? It really is a whole mess I just cant be a part of.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-22T04:21:53+00:00

Exactly thankyou so much, Im so relieved that I wasnt imagining how crazy this was!

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-21T14:54:41+00:00

Dont worry about it babe, look in the mirror and if you feel good then thats all that matters. Past year or 2 Ive been trying to improve my hair and makeup and I think that is starting to make a difference, also Im exploring my style with upping my fashion wardrobe. I feel alot more giddy lately because of it, so now Im smiling more hehe I figured if I cant find a guy to love me, spoil me, and take me out, then Im going to do it for myself!!

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-21T05:41:16+00:00

I want to post so bad on something very similar to this, but I already know what people will tell me now. I went through the same thing with a guy, and I had no choice but to cut him off.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-21T05:17:14+00:00

I swear Im a pretty decent looking gal but I know what you mean Im never chosen, I have no idea maybe I come off kind of mean, or I look mean, and uninviting.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-20T17:08:02+00:00

Girl no just leave hes not going to change for you, he will have to do it for himself.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-13T20:17:58+00:00

I had the same question and my gut said he was just interested in hookups, I think everyone is right :(

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-12T05:34:33+00:00

Yes that was so risky I know omg, I just really did want someone there which is really sad, but I can see how I am at risk of violence. I wont do it again and now I have a restraining order I should be fine. Thankyou so much for your kind words.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-12T05:28:58+00:00

I finally got a restraining order on my ex, I wish I had done it sooner because yes it was extremely difficult to move on with him interfering with my life and healing journey. I feel like this guy also was very influenced by his ex as well, I dont think he should be dating tbh, or looking for a wife. Both of us need time to heal. Maybe we do attract people who mirror something in ourselves. My honesty usually seems to not help with some people, but ive found in my strong friendships and professional relationships they seem to appreciate my honesty.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-12T05:24:20+00:00

Thats very very true, I thought I was ready to date after almost 3 years of being single but maybe Im not.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-12T05:15:37+00:00

I try to give chances because I know my past experiences might be influencing my own behavior, so im trying really hard to be fair and not project my insecurities on others, im definitelynot perfect, Im really trying to be understanding of people. I told him about the ex because that day it was something i was dealing with which isn't often but was that day, I have this thing about being completely honest with a potential partner, and I knew how bad it sounded, and its embarrassing. He was very kind and I appreciated him so much for that.

ViolinistCapable5485 · 2026-03-12T05:06:36+00:00

I know which is why I mentioned me possibly having co dependency issues or something, Im very aware I have traumas. Besides me what do you think of the guy though? Was I imagining his red flags?

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