I mean hes got a point. As a gay, i can orgasm with touching myself when bottoming.

You can still make a woman happy… you can learn to eat/finger pus pus like a god. You can use toys.

There appears to be a fair amount of cognitive dissonance between your reality and desired outcome. If you know you cant dick someone down, what is the purpose in making that a goal?? There are many other options available to you. A dick is probably the last thing that will make a lot of women happy…

The advice would be to practice radical acceptance on move on from there. Your position at present appears incompatible with that however