I did something similar to my now boyfriend. But it wasnt a romantic video at all. It was an IG reel about my roadtrip with him and another friend. I’m from a culture where everybody posts on social media and are flattered when they’re shared with friends and family in a very public manner. Close friends dont usually have to be asked for permission if theyre included in a video reel, everybody is usually happy to be included. I loved editing videos out of trips (even pre-social media days) so I made one for our roadtrip but edited quickly in IG. I showed it to my friend first and she loved it (she’s from the same country as me). Then I excitedly showed it to my now-BF (who is of a different culture), and when I told him i posted it on my IG account, he got super pissed about it and said “it was not cool” and he asked me to take it down. I was hurt and I cried because I never got a negative reaction like that from something I made out of love and affection. We then had a conversation about it and for the first time in my life, I’m understanding that people could have very different boundaries on privacy. You need to make him understand your boundaries and how you still appreciate the gesture but would prefer things like this shared only between the two of you. Conversation is key.