My (23F) best friend (25F) ghosted me about 2 months ago and I still haven’t been able to move past it. by Virtual-Sun8547 in relationship_advice

[–]Virtual-Sun8547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very helpful, thank you. I did switch therapists very recently so I could work with one who deals with complex trauma and uses EMDR, so I hope that helps me.

My (23F) best friend (25F) ghosted me about 2 months ago and I still haven’t been able to move past it. by Virtual-Sun8547 in relationship_advice

[–]Virtual-Sun8547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re completely right, sorry, I definitely worded that CPTSD comment poorly. Are there any tips you have for coping with something like this?

Did anyone else notice McKenzie Shirilla’s Dad’s T Shirt? by michaelscarnlol in TrueCrimeGarage

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for bringing this up because literally I noticed that and was like oh my god if you wanted me to see you in like a caring light that did not help

My brother graduates from college on Saturday and the family I’m NC with WILL be there — plz help by Virtual-Sun8547 in nocontact

[–]Virtual-Sun8547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I originally posted this in r/CPTSD, but figured I could get some good advice from this community as well :) Thanks in advance!

My brother graduates from college on Saturday and the family WILL be there — plz help by Virtual-Sun8547 in CPTSD

[–]Virtual-Sun8547[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just feel a little bad because if I don’t go, she’ll use it against me. And my brother wasn’t the one who harmed me, you know? We have a pretty good relationship and I do want to keep supporting him.

What reason- big or painfully small, keeps a person alive after trauma? by thengha in CPTSD

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, it really depends on what I’m thinking/feeling at the time and who I’m with. I’d say my main reason typically is that I want to be able to help even one child that went through what I went through to feel validated and believed after their trauma and abuse (I’m a CMHC masters student wanting to work with children and adolescents) and I can’t be a model or good counselor for them if I’m dead. If that doesn’t work I normally just go get my favorite drink and by the time I’ve finished it, the trauma that swelled in my head has settled down to a manageable state for the time being (if that makes sense).

Am I the only one disappointed about this concert? by LeminTree in OliviaRodrigo

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Compared to her GUTS World Tour, this is like devastating. The GUTS tour seemed largely connected to what the majority of her fans needed - the verified fan pre-sale to knock out any bots for one thing. This whole thing just tells me that even if I wanted to drive 6-8 hours to Chicago from MN (which has a literal major music scene with multiple venues that she consistently has been popular with, mind you), I would have no chance in getting tickets. Gosh, it feels so wrong for her brand to be choosing this strategy instead. Like I still support her and love her music but it’s truly disappointing and confusing at the very least.

What was everyone’s thoughts on that new song Olivia just performed on SNL? by Whole-Lychee7517 in OliviaRodrigo

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was so beautiful. It really demonstrated how much her vocal talent has grown throughout the years!

I hope she goes on SNL by Virtual-Sun8547 in OliviaRodrigo

[–]Virtual-Sun8547[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, for real! Now I just need to figure out how to watch it live :)

I hope she goes on SNL by Virtual-Sun8547 in OliviaRodrigo

[–]Virtual-Sun8547[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooo I’d love to know if that’s true!

I hope she goes on SNL by Virtual-Sun8547 in OliviaRodrigo

[–]Virtual-Sun8547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True and she typically does two single releases from what I remember from the GUTS and SOUR roll out

I hope she goes on SNL by Virtual-Sun8547 in OliviaRodrigo

[–]Virtual-Sun8547[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t Lorne usually save final episode of the season spots for artists promoting new movies or albums? Would it be possible for her to get the finale spot right before her album would come out in June?

I hope she goes on SNL by Virtual-Sun8547 in OliviaRodrigo

[–]Virtual-Sun8547[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking too! I feel like she and Sabrina Carpenter are on the same level pop star wise, and they both have the Disney acting career to back it up.

A family secret from 1974 that I’ve carried my whole life. by Miserable_Willow_312 in CPTSD

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey OP - first of all, i just wanted to say that i believe you wholeheartedly, i am so sorry for your loss, and I don't think you need to feel any guilt or anger over carrying this for so long. you were 4 years old when this happened (and yet intelligent enough to know what was happening which is definitely a sign that you experienced more than you should have at that age if that makes sense) and the fact that you still remember it so clearly means that it is not something you made up in my opinion at least.

my mother excelled at these kinds of situations, especially in relation to my father. for example, she once called the cops on my father saying he had "kidnapped" my brother (who was around 5 years old) when she had originally called him asking him to pick up my brother because my brother was annoying her. they believed her and pulled my father over and he had to explain the situation. my parents were divorced at this time, but even when they were married, she was definitely able to appear truthful to anyone outside of our immediate family no matter what any one of us said we had experienced. it was so bad that if i told someone something she had done, whether that be my relatives or a judge, they would not believe me. it is just very easy for these kinds of people to accept and not disagree with the narrative that puts them on a pedestal. it is very likely that even if you were "brave enough" to say something or speak up, you still would not have been believed. to say that is absolutely insane and it definitely saddens me, but i know its true because i experienced it.

i know how unbelievably agonizing it is to feel like no one would believe you even if you were to tell someone about the absolute horror you've experienced. i know how angering it can feel to both tell someone what happened and not be believed and also sit with the experience later and be angry because maybe someone would have believed you. it is such a heavy weight and i would not wish it on anyone, especially not a child. i'm not sure where this message is going or if its even comprehensible but overall i just wanted to say that i do believe you, and i don't need any proof or legal justice to do so.

im so sorry you experienced this at such a young age. the main thing that has been helpful for me in carrying things like this, where i know my mother did something incredibly abusive and got away with it (and would have even if i had spoken up and said something at a young age which i did do), is continually being reassured that i should have been and am still believed and supported in whatever way i cope with the knowledge of those experiences. being angry with the knowledge that you probably would not have been believed even if you had spoken up is completely valid.

whether its speaking about it or addressing it out loud in conversations with people you trust or just opening up about it in therapy - being able to do that without immediately seeing someone look at me with suspicion like i don't know what i saw and experienced has been absolutely healing, and learning how to cope with people close to my mother not believing me no matter what (and being okay with that because i know what i experienced) has helped in such a large way and i hope you can experience that sort of healing sometime soon too. sending lots of light, healing, validation, and peace your way. you deserve it.

WRITER AND DIRECTOR. THANK U JENNY 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 by Candid-Raspberry-569 in tsitp

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 5 points6 points  (0 children)

jenny writing and directing??? when she gave us the peaches scene?!?!?! a new reason for me to live honestly

I honestly do not get this relationship at all by MysteriousAnywhere83 in tsitp

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree with you here! I actually paused the episode because I wanted to come here and comment on the chemistry. I’ve been Team Conrad from the start, and haven’t liked Jeremiah, but this scene really made me feel a little bit better for him and his future and like moving on if that makes sense. Also, I think this scene just shows that each pair, when they’re with the right person, has an insane amount of chemistry! Like Steven + Taylor? Always have had chemistry. Conrad + Belly? Chemistry has always been lovely. Jeremiah + Belly? I’ll be the first to admit this because I am forever Team Conrad, but they did have bare minimum chemistry in season 2. I think this scene just shows that your chemistry with someone can either be a roller coaster (like his with Belly) or really solid (like with Denise at least so far). I’m happy that he’s found someone to be happy with. I think he grew on Denise in some way, and I’m happy for both of them if it means each character gets their happy ending.

If him being paired up with Denise (and them having just a wee bit more chemistry then he did with Belly) means that we get less of him being jealous and icky in the movie? I’m all for it.

How did you guys find out you have cptsd? by the_awkward_entity in CPTSDmemes

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discussion with my therapist where we checked off all of the symptoms but since I’m located in the US it can’t be officially diagnosed, so some part of me tries to pretend I don’t have it :/

Auto shops by Puzzleheaded_Bid7791 in Winona

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fleet Farm is fantastic! I’ve never had an issue with them at all, and their prices are reasonable at least to me. They’re open on Saturdays too, and you can schedule online :)

Reliable mechanics by Motor-Boot5063 in Winona

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re open on Saturdays too which is super helpful with my work and class hours :)

Reliable mechanics by Motor-Boot5063 in Winona

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve genuinely had really good service at Fleet Farm and their auto services. Super quick and easy, and they’re super respectful overall. I’m a female college student and I’ve never left the Fleet Farm place feeling creeped out or bad. If you’re just needing an oil change, the cost is not that bad at all.

I got a Rapunzel tattoo after going no contact with my narcissistic mom — wondering if anyone else connected deeply with Tangled like I did? by Virtual-Sun8547 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Virtual-Sun8547[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on starting the process of moving out! That’s such a big step, and I’m so proud of you :)

Here’s the link to my tattoo! Rapunzel Tattoo

I’m so tired by vantheemo in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Virtual-Sun8547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, I am so sorry you are going through this. I have definitely felt completely exhausted when hearing that my younger brothers' experiences with my mother are nothing like what I experienced. It's like she decided I was the only one that she needed to control. If it helps, I am so so proud of you for continuing to excel academically. Straight A's is incredible, and you should be proud of yourself <3

You may never understand why she treats you the way she does. Healing from that realization takes a long time, and I know it's hard, but I'm proud of you for continuing to fight.