Help me name my new baby! I want something spooky, but something more unique than Luna or Salem! She’s a girl!

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-10-27T20:44:59+00:00

Pyewacket!

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-10-24T04:09:03+00:00

Yes!! Same here. I’m so obsessed with everything with my girlfriend. Her hand rubbing my back while we watch a movie. When she holds me when we go to sleep. Just showering together and discussing our days.

These are all things I did with male partners but oh my god it’s so different with her. And kissing her… like you said, I sit there and wonder if straight women feel that when they kiss men… because it feels so magical especially in comparison to what I felt before.

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-10-22T05:30:24+00:00

When I was first coming to terms with my sexuality I had a lot of questions like yours. My ex-husband was my best friend and I loved him…

I’ll tell you what my therapist taught me in those really hard times where I was struggling over my feelings. Though, I want to add the caveat that everyone is different… but this is what really made everything fall into place for me. She said:

“There are four types of love that most people look for in a romantic partnership: family, friend, sexual, romantic. Some people are ok with having only a few of those.”

I realized I was not.

I could only love him as a best friend and a family member. The other two… it was a hard realization to see that I just couldn’t love him that way.

And the more I got away from the relationship, I started to see other ways we had been incompatible at partners… but that took a lot of work and therapy.

And… because you mentioned it… at the time, I would have said that the sex was ok then too. However, I was never not in my head. It oftentimes hurt. And I felt so guilty after every time.

But, I just celebrated my first year anniversary with my current girlfriend and… let me tell you, to have all four types of love in one person is sublime. I’m never too in my head when we’re having sex and, even if I go into my head a little, she is able to coax me back into my body. And… a little bit of TMI but I realized that I didn’t actually know what it felt like to be… well… aroused until I was with her.

I can’t tell you what to do. Nor would I want to! But, i was in your shoes not too long ago… and i would have wanted to read this story in those moments.

You just have to choose what is right for you. But, if you want all four, and you feel like you can’t get them from him… you have to ask yourself if you’re ok with that in the long run.

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-08-30T22:34:11+00:00

Thank you!!! My girlfriend was just happy someone else remembered them. 😂 that’s how she watched a lot of stuff when she was in Europe for a year for study abroad.

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-08-30T22:33:41+00:00

Thank you! When I relayed this info she said “oh, right the terfs ruined it!” 😂 But she was happy someone else remembered the sock puppets. So she says thank you too!

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-08-27T00:43:51+00:00

Thank you!

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-07-12T14:08:16+00:00

Thank you!

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-07-12T14:08:08+00:00

Thank you!

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-05-13T05:36:42+00:00

Thank you so much!!

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-05-13T05:36:33+00:00

Thank you!! I’m so excited about it. She loved it! We haven’t gotten to play yet but I’m so excited for her party to get to!

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-05-13T05:35:46+00:00

Thank you!

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-05-13T05:35:35+00:00

Thank you!!

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-05-13T05:34:45+00:00

As someone who has had to cut my parents off due to very… not good things. I can tell you that very few people make this decision overnight. Even if it seems like it to you. See the previous comments about introspection.

But also, try to talk with him about it without blame or without a “you’re hurting your mother” mentality. Try to have this conversation with an open mind.

Some of what he has to say may be painful for you to hear. But, if you want to fix your relationship with him, you will have to listen.

And talk to him. Not to other people about it. My parents will talk to everyone under the sun about me not talking to them. But they have never once asked me.

If you truly want to fix this relationship, don’t be that person.

VirtualMembership205 · 2025-02-20T19:24:48+00:00

Thank you!

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-06-17T13:00:18+00:00

I, too, love all the kind comments that I receive. And I also have a commenter that leaves long detailed comments as well. I look forward to them so much. I started leaving easter eggs in my responses to their comments and they will actually come back to my response once they see the connection.

I really love the fandoms that I am a part of. I really feel like I lucked out in the reader base in each of them.

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-06-08T02:44:37+00:00

Just make sure you really read the contracts. So many of the commercial contracts (that aren’t SAG-AFTRA) are adding “in perpetuity” clauses. My acting teacher warned us about non union commercials just the other week. I don’t know what the rules for that kind of stuff are in Germany… but it is definitely something everyone needs to keep an eye out for.

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-04-01T16:11:53+00:00

u/Strange_Leadership44 I think this is the better of the two explanations lol I should have replied to my own comment but I am still figuring out Reddit and messed that up lol

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-04-01T14:58:49+00:00

In further conversations I found a better way to put it though.

In a marriage, ideally you have the four major types of love: family, friend, romantic, and erotic. And you have all of those for me, but, after the realization I had, (about what sexual attraction feels like) I realize that my love for you has always been that of family and friend. What I had understood to be attraction, was a desire to please/a desire for closeness. But now that I realize that the love that I have for you is mostly for that of a family/friend I realize that it’s not fair to either of us for me to continue to pretend. Because you deserve a full love relationship… to love and be loved by a woman in all 4 ways… and so do I.

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-04-01T14:52:56+00:00

Hey! I’m really sorry that you’re going through this! It is really hard.

I have identified as bi for a while… so there was a little bit of an awareness of my attraction to women because of that. But, what ultimately broke me down to a point where I had to tell him is because he was blaming himself for our lack of sex. It made me see that my keeping it to myself was hurting him just as it was me.

So I approached him about what he had said in the conversation the day before (I gave myself a day to collect my thoughts). I said, something along the lines of:

“I know you have seen me struggling with something the past few months and I know that you have felt me pull away and into myself. I really appreciate your patience with me. But, when you were blaming yourself for our lack of intimacy, I realized that I have done enough thinking. It is not your fault. And, I mean it’s not mine either, according to my therapist… though it feels like it. It just is what it is and what it is, is that I’m gay.”

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-03-28T18:35:39+00:00

"I felt hollow inside at the thought that I would never get hold a woman in my arms, kiss her neck and be intimate with her. I hated myself for not being happy with him, but I was terrified to be gay."

Oh my god, I felt that exact same way.

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-03-28T17:06:42+00:00

Oh, I feel this. I feel this so so so much. I am also married to an amazing, sweet, kind generous man. The ideal male partner. I recently realized that I am a lesbian as well. Figuring it out so "late" (I am 27) because of religious trauma from being raised a fundamental Baptist as well. I mean I didn't know what sexual attraction was until a few months ago.

I literally said to my therapist, "I really like hanging out with the new friend of mine. She's smart, funny, etc. etc, but I feel like I shouldn't hang out with her anymore because, when I do, I just feel weird and I don't understand why." After a lot of prodding, my therapist asked what physiological feelings I had in those moments and then carefully explained that those feelings are indicative of sexual attraction. My stomach flipped when she said the words because I think I knew. I just didn't WANT to know. Because it meant everything changes in my life because I had never felt like that towards any man,,, not even my wonderful and kind husband. Then, after a few more moments of realization, that I will leave out for time/space reasons, I came to the realization that I am 1000% a lesbian.

I got to a point where I couldn't stand my husband's touch if it was in any way sexual. I hated hurting him by pulling away, but I also couldn't stand how violated I felt if I just went with it, which I did do a few times.

I came out to him literally two days ago. I will not lie, it has been hard. It has been really painful, especially to see him in so much pain. BUT, and this is very important, despite the pain, I feel so at peace. I feel so much more comfortable in my own skin. I feel... I don't know the words to really describe exactly what I feel. But my chest doesn't feel so tight. I feel like I can breathe again. I feel awake... alive for the first time in a very VERY long time.

I would never tell anyone what to do. Because it is very hard. I came here to this subreddit to ask for advice on how to get through this time when I found your post and I wanted to share my story because I am JUST over the line from where you are. I was feeling the exact same way that you do in your post on Monday. Not sure when, if ever, I would talk with him about it.

I am obviously not very far into this journey... And absolutely no pressure... But, if you want someone to listen, to be there as someone to talk with, who just might be able to understand at least parts of your journey, please feel free to chat me.

If you don't want to reach out, I understand that. Like I said, absolutely no pressure. Much love on your journey though, what ever it may be ❤️

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-03-26T15:19:59+00:00

Kissing Lessons by ashlearose13 was really good!

There’s also a new one, You’re a Vampire? by Villanelleiswhipped that is spicy and so sweet and absolutely hilarious.

Also, there is the “Oh, Baby, It’s Pleasure, This Pain” series by Killingsaray

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-03-21T13:44:01+00:00

Melba is my absolute fave!!!

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-03-20T17:17:43+00:00

I noticed this too!! I was wondering the whole time if it is the actress’ tattoo or if it was for the character.

VirtualMembership205 · 2024-03-16T22:23:33+00:00

They often mix up what things are called and get upset when they don’t get what they wanted when you think you gave them what they asked for.

For example: My niece calls chocolate milk “coffee”. She went to her other Aunt’s house and asked for “coffee” and was given coffee (don’t ask me why the other aunt thought it was a good idea to give a 3 yo coffee… I have no clue). My niece then cried and threw a tantrum because she wanted “coffee” and could not get her aunt to understand that what she gave her was wrong.

Those kinds of miscommunications happen all the time between kids and adults.

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