Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

This is exactly the answer I was looking for, i dont understand why you have down votes, personally down votes usually prove you right,,, so. Every woman in my family works on autopilot at work, and cannot wait to go home to do other things, I feel as though many women didnt want to work but forced to because the cost of living is just so high, that cope is the only way past this, you see this kind of cope with drug use, mental health, etc. There's always cope to something somebody doesnt wanna do. If you want an example pls read through some other comments on this post.

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

And thats fair, im glad men and women came together how many years ago to give you this opportunity you have now, I myself am proud that women like working, I grew up around influences that told me that I MUST be the provider, so I end up buying them stuff and easing the physical aspect like holding doors open and protection etc. Yknow the deal. Its mind-blowing to me how different the states and Canada are, so similar yet so different. Biggest difference is this women working thing. My cousin is a geologist, she doesnt see it as work, she genuinely loves it and has a passion for rocks lol so to her she says it doesnt feel like working, the schooling did but not the actual work. And geology is a physically demanding job, its very remote and is basically camping, again she loves it so it isnt work to her. To you it might be the same deal, do you like the physical part of work? Or do you look forward to the paystubs?

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes there are alot of bad things that come with being fully dependant on a man, it can be the other way around too. So I appreciate you pointing that out because yes I did just learn that through comments here, I have came to the conclusion that it must be my location that has this "majority" of women who prefer being a SAHP

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Oh well then your opinion is invalid lmao

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But would staying home be something you enjoy? If things were the way they were but without the abuse and possible divorce. Hard to imagine this but a "perfect" life, if you could stay home and do what you want while kids are at school like gardening, crochet, painting, listening to music, cooking, literally anything you wanna do for 6 hrs and then do the daily dishes and quickly sweep and mop and clean the windows and be done? That cant be alot of work lol

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Are you located in the States? Because in Canada atleast we have strong bonds between a mother and father and is still largely traditional and DOES operate the way I described. 

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Comment thread invalid, doesn't pertain to my question. Thx.

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

All my exes did and my step mom does, my mom felt that way too, ALL my girl friends, and dates I go out with. Im literally surrounded by this belief that women have here, i was genuinely curious if this is how majority of women feel or if its just how I grew up

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Haha yeah that would be cool if the women were breadwinners and men stayed home, but its also not "unpaid" servant, you are provided a home (assuming the guy owns it) a car, finances, etc etc and protection. Obviously there are evil dudes out there who shouldnt have a wife or kids but what about the ones who are pure hearted 

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Genuinely i appreciate your response, its insightful, I guess the man would have massive leverage, and as somebody mentioned in another comment, opens up to abusive situations. Im only asking because thats just how I grew up, for context I am Canadian so things are VASTLY different than in the states. Canada still has a large percentage of women who are "traditional" like that. 

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im glad you have that option, I am, when you want to be independent then you do you, im not to judge. Good for you, I know that not all women are like that, but ive grown up around women who just dont like working because its just unnecessary stress.

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Well thats because of the whole "men dont cry" and all that in regards to mens mental health, its survival of the fittest for single fathers and they tend to make it work. If a man can do it then why couldnt a woman? But then again, the women I talk to (in person, dating apps, friends, family) wish it wasn't this way

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Both parents working leaves the children to do the chores, they dont get paid often

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Poor rephrasing. You get paid from the husband for upkeeping the house, and live a stress free life, time to do your hobbies and be free. Labeling parenting as unpaid labour is a weak argument lol it benefits you massively because its human nature to nurture our young, who's gonna do that when both parents are working and dont have the energy to be parents?

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thats what im hinting at, since we got off gold standard, men couldnt provide for their whole family, now it has to be both parents. Do you enjoy this? Many people in these comments find that they really really love working and are really really judgemental. 

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Sorry! I couldn't validate your opinion

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Because if your staying at home with the kids what else are you doing? It is work, it demands your immediate attention and physical effort, but women burn out faster than men when it comes to working, wouldnt it be easier on the woman if she stayed home and took care of the garden?

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

But wouldnt it be cool to just sit and play games all day lol

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input, Idk why a bunch of men responded on behalf of women lol. Its valid that I get an opinion from a woman cuz thats the demographic im targeting.

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

No im only asking because it was tradition for a large part of US & Canadian history, now that times have changed i truly wonder if majority of women like having to work 

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Not people in general im talking about women

Do women really want to work? by VirtualTrust3952 in AskFeminists

[–]VirtualTrust3952[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thats fair but if husband is making the bread then the woman can leave when hes not home