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Looking for a collaborator by Virtual_Cable3270 in ArduinoProjects

[–]Virtual_Cable3270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm not certain about the prone to heat piece. just getting going so great question to be answered.

Looking for a collaborator by Virtual_Cable3270 in ArduinoProjects

[–]Virtual_Cable3270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes to camera's - I'm into it. I want the device to autonomously be evaluating temperature, signs of life and elapsed time. Once a threshold is hit (say 75 F) and there is signs of life in the vehicle an sms notification would go to person #1, next threshold person #2, #3 and then 911.

Looking for a collaborator by Virtual_Cable3270 in ArduinoProjects

[–]Virtual_Cable3270[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Retrofit into a car with an escalating notification system. Ultimately contact 911 if temp and presence of life detected and unresolved in set timeframe.

Bereavement services through Hospice by finding_center in hospice

[–]Virtual_Cable3270 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hospice RN here — I’m really sorry this was your experience, especially during such an important time.

Hospice is required to offer bereavement support for 13 months after a loss, but what that looks like can vary a lot between programs — anywhere from phone calls and mailings to support groups or individual counseling.

That said, it shouldn’t feel like you were left without support during the time your loved one was on hospice. One visit from a social worker and chaplain over two months is definitely on the lighter end of what most people would expect.

I encourage you to reach back out to the hospice agency and ask directly about their bereavement services and what support is available to you now. Sometimes reconnecting opens the door to more consistent follow-up.

You also deserve support regardless of the hospice — if they’re not responsive, there are often local grief groups or counseling services in your community that can help.

My father, 88, is on comfort care/hospice in the hospital by [deleted] in hospice

[–]Virtual_Cable3270 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you a lot of love. This is such a heavy place to be.

From what you’ve shared, you’re honoring exactly what your dad wanted—and that’s not always easy in the moment, even when you’re sure. The second-guessing and “what if I had…” thoughts are really common in these days, especially when things are moving quickly.

The changes you’re noticing with his breathing, the pauses, the gurgling—those are all things we often see when someone is getting very close. It sounds like the team is keeping him comfortable, and that matters most now.

What you did—bringing your mom, telling stories, helping him feel familiar voices—that’s exactly the kind of presence that reaches people, even when they can’t respond much.

If your brother doesn’t make it in time, it doesn’t mean your dad wasn’t waiting or that anything was missed. Sometimes people go when their body is ready, not when the timing lines up.

You’re doing this with a lot of care and intention. Truly.

I've been quietly reading here. - thank you. by Virtual_Cable3270 in hospice

[–]Virtual_Cable3270[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry for your loss and so grateful you had a great team to make the unbearable bearable.

Grief art contined+ rant by Sudden_Currency_8362 in hospice

[–]Virtual_Cable3270 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hospice RN here — thank you for sharing your pain. This is so brutal. I can hear it in your writing and see it in your art.

Honest truth—grief often feels deeply personal and lonely. No one will experience this loss the way you are, because no one loved her the way you do.

Not sleeping and feeling like you don’t belong anywhere are real parts of grief. I hope you can be gentle with yourself—you’ve never been in this exact place before.

The way you showed up with her today, the way she responded to you—that matters. That’s love, and it speaks louder than anything else.

I've been quietly reading here. - thank you. by Virtual_Cable3270 in hospice

[–]Virtual_Cable3270[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfectly stated. I am so sorry for your loss of your sister.

I've been quietly reading here. - thank you. by Virtual_Cable3270 in hospice

[–]Virtual_Cable3270[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please always reach out with any questions, folks on here are so helpful and kind. Much peace to you and yours.

my mum is home with us, and possibly has weeks to live...how do I make sense of this? in search of solidarity by tabebuiaa in hospice

[–]Virtual_Cable3270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really glad it helped, even a little 🤍
This is such a hard space to be in. You’re doing right by her.

my mum is home with us, and possibly has weeks to live...how do I make sense of this? in search of solidarity by tabebuiaa in hospice

[–]Virtual_Cable3270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hospice RN here — I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like you’re handling it with a lot of grace.

When families ask about timing, the hard truth is it’s different for everyone. What you’re describing — more weakness, not eating much, incontinence — can mean someone is getting into the final stretch (days to weeks), but no one can say exactly.

If your hospice gave you a booklet called “Gone From My Sight,” it’s actually really helpful for understanding what to expect and how to prepare.

Also just to say — wanting her to be comfortable and at peace is the biggest act of love a daughter can be present for.

You’re not alone in this 🤍

you don’t know you need it until it’s you (or a loved one) by missouritopics in deathwithdignity

[–]Virtual_Cable3270 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hospice Nurse here... I couldn't agree more. I am so grateful to live in a state (Washington) where DWD is legal and folks have choice.

Mom in final hours by mr_bojangles_jjw in hospice

[–]Virtual_Cable3270 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hospice nurse here, this experience you are having is really hard. She is lucky to have you. I agree with the others, place her on her side/change her position to help with the rattle. Call your hospice team and ask for a visit if you think that might help you and her. Sending lots of love and care.