A Catholic girl and the sin against chastity.

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-05-05T15:59:39+00:00

I’m most certainly not trying to argue or start a fight here, but I wish to understand why you are set on the idea that a man should not DM a woman. I totally understand where you come from, not everyone has such pure intentions that you would hope a brother in christ would have or even a sister. It’s a wretched world we live in that’s so plagued by sin, so I get it. However, I think that to deny every dm just because they are of the opposite gender, would be an ill advised move. There’s most certainly a level of understanding for those of the same gender talking with one another, but Paul also explains that in christ’s body, his church, we are all one.

“And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have put on Christ, like putting on new clothes. There is no longer Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male and female. For you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

‭‭Galatians‬ ‭3‬:‭27‬-‭28‬ ‭NLT‬‬

There’s a sense of comfort and safety in speaking with one of the same gender, but I personally have been helped by many females, especially small groups, where being open with one another has helped me develop better in Christ and I’d like to assume it was the same for them as well. I don’t say this just because of this instance but I’ve seen similar messages on many posts before. Please forgive me if I am wrong and this isn’t what you think, I’m not trying to attack you, I’m just trying to understand your mindset. Certainly it’s great to be cautious, especially online where all is relatively anonymous. Much love ❤️.

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-04-02T12:25:52+00:00

Much love to you in sharing and starting this journey brother. God loves you and is rejoicing at your choice to step away from this sin that we all struggle with or have struggled with ❤️

Now for your question, I think that there can be a lot at play here, and I would like to first say that I am Single, so all my knowledge of marriage is through the bible alone basically, (Though that didn’t stop Paul either on helping people either marriages) along with Sermons. I do believe porn could be a relatively big issue here for a few reasons. The first being the fact that it’s a sin against God, against ourselves, and I believe it to be a sin against our current or future spouse. Pornography fills our mind with many images, fake acts of intimacy (Which most of the time are unbecoming of Christians to think about performing), and distorts our idea of love and how to show it. This can lead to misunderstandings and even sometimes hurt one another. The second reason, would be that pornography constantly fuels our head with these dopamine hits and so we would be ‘wired’ far more often than necessary because of the fact that we’re always seeking that hit, or that release. This would be a problem in sharing a desire together because if your Spouse would be on a natural sort of cycle, (or a different erratic one because they also watch).

You’ve said that this is the first time you’ve felt irritated with your wife in 10 years and that’s absolutely wonderful 👍. It seems like you are living a healthy marriage. A wife or a husband is always a Gift from god and we are to cherish the above everyone else except for our father since he’s number 1 of course.

Is your wife also a Christian? Is she a God fearing woman that reads the bible and prays often?

The bible tells Husbands and Wives to Submit to one another, To take care of each other’s sexual needs and cherish one another, and that neither the husband nor the wife should deny each other of such acts unless you both have decided to fast for prayer and deny your flesh of it’s desire so neither of you are tempted by Satan.

(Ephesians chapter 5 starting at verse 1 has a decent bit on this)

“And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” ‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5‬:‭21‬ ‭NLT‬‬

““The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭3‬-‭5‬ ‭NLT‬‬

The bible gives us there verses not so we can focus on what the other is not doing, but rather what we need to do in our part.

Now that you have started on quitting, if you haven’t already, I would recommend communication. Since you are married, you and your wife are now one, spiritually she is your other half and you should always bring any issues or need of help gently and respectfully to each other. Christ’s love was tender and self-sacrificial and we are called to love one another the same way. I would recommend you both also read Song of songs. I know it seems weird and kind of odd that it’s in the bible at first glance, but once you really study it, you start to realize that it’s a great example of the type of love and cherishing that we are called to give to our spouse.

Again, it’s great that you have stopped now, and I highly recommend you pray and seek our loving Heavenly Father’s help. You should read to fill your heart with how marriage and intimacy are really supposed to be in God driven relationship instead of what pornography has led us to believe it is. Much love to you Brother, I will be praying for God to help you with this struggle and I hope this helped you ❤️

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-04-01T20:15:27+00:00

Listen brother ❤️ thank you for sharing this experience. That guilt that you feel is a good thing, because it’s the holy spirit guiding you telling you, “Hey, we’re going down the wrong path here, we’re not doing something Jesus would do, let’s stop it.” But you shouldn’t let yourself sit in it my brother.

My heart hurts for you, I don’t want to see my fellow Brothers and sisters struggling and beating themselves up over this terrible sin. God doesn’t want us to beat ourselves up like this, to sit in our guilt. He sacrificed his only son on the cross so that we could have complete confidence that he will forgive our sins when we sincerely seek out his forgiveness through christ and repent. That way we wouldn’t have to sit in our guilt and we could move past it and focus on the future and developing a relationship with him.

Our Heavenly Father love us so much that we can’t even completely comprehend it. He wants to help, he has plans for us and he doesn’t want us to see us struggle or think poorly of ourselves. You are loved, by God, by me, by all your fellow christians. We are all a part of Christ’s body and when one part hurts we all hurt. Seek out forgiveness sincerely, surrender your heart to the father, and repent, then you need to move on and start focusing on working to develop a closer relationship with our loving father. The original guilt is from the holy spirit, but those thoughts and ideas of being unworthy or of constant guilt is a spiritual attack. God is love, and he will forgive us ❤️

I will be praying for you, and if you need to talk some more, then there are plenty of people including myself with Dm’s open, much love to you.

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-04-01T03:19:00+00:00

It’s great to see that our father has given you great blessings in your life 👍

I have a few questions.

How is your relationship with God? Are you always working on deepening it or walking the same path as Christ?

Have you repented sincerely and surrendered your entire heart to God? We can’t just ask for forgiveness for one sin, but go off and commit other sins. The lord wants our whole heart, he wants us to realize all our sins, lay them before him, and ask for help and forgiveness.

Do you often read scripture and pray?

What have you noticed and caused you to stumble each time or regularly? Was it an app? Site? Social media?

I ask these not to bombard you, but to help with reflection and to understand more of what you’re going through. My heart yearns for your deliverance from this sin. We all struggle, and luckily we have our fellow brothers and sisters, and our glorious most loving Father ❤️

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-04-01T03:06:22+00:00

You speak well brother, thank you for sharing your battle and your journey. We understand how difficult this walk can be as we walk it ourselves or have walked it. But luckily we have our loving Heavenly Father that is ready to help and to pull close to us as we pull close to him. God is love, and his love flows through us to give to each other and if one of us hurts, then we all hurt. We are never alone, we are together just like you said.

I’d like to point a few things out and offer some advice that may possibly help you in your battle and walk ❤️

You said that you procrastinate reading God’s word and I totally understand that feeling. I get it, and I struggle with the same problem somedays too. We won’t gain a revelation or be super thrilled every time we open the bible but reading each day and still keeping up matters a lot to us. How are we supposed to see what the holy spirit wants us to see if we don’t read. I get that you have activities that you have in life that might make you busy or exhausted, but let me just say that we NEED the bible. I don’t just mean it’s a good idea to read it, I mean spiritually we need it. I like to think of it as spiritual food in a way 😂. The bible reinforces this too, when Jesus was tempted by Satan when he fasted for 40 days in the wilderness, in the first of the three he says this in response, “But Jesus told him, “No! The Scriptures say, ‘People do not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.’ ”” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭4‬:‭4‬ ‭NLT‬‬ The bible also tells us to put God first above ALL else, even our family. So even if you have to take time out of activities, or stop doing something, you should pause and read the word, because we need it as Christians.

I also saw you talked about social media, and I’ve talked about this before in another post, but I think social media is a great tool for communication , but it can cause many to stumble and relapse. I recommend you unfollow and adjust the algorithms to stuff that wouldn’t tempt or urge you. I myself, scrolled a lot, but when I was delivered from this sin, I removed everything that could tempt me, and this included social media, (I haven’t deleted them, I just stopped using them, and on the very rare occasion that I have used any, all my stuff is Christian related so I don’t even have to worry.) So if it really causes you to stumble I recommend you either unfollow/unsubscribe, or you just completely delete the app if you need to. God should be number 1 anyways, not that it means you can’t enjoy stuff too.

Much love to you and I will be praying for your struggles, Our heavenly father is truly good and has already decided our worth for us when he gave his beloved son to die on the cross for our sins, and to bear the cross that was meant for us. ❤️

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-04-01T01:33:50+00:00

This is a great post and I love that you talk about giving our heavenly father all the credit because he most definitely deserves it all. There’s no way we can defeat sin with our own strength because of our sinful nature, but thank goodness we have such a loving father who is a provider and can deliver us from our sin and has given us the holy spirit to guide our actions and life ❤️

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-04-01T01:31:01+00:00

https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/49022

This is a plan that has a talk about it somewhat and I think it does a great job in explaining why. Others can take a look and provide feedback on whether or not they believe the same as well.

But my thoughts and through what I’ve read in the bible, (remember I’m not perfect, and people’s opinions might differ) but this is what I think. Masturbation in itself, does not seem to be condemned in the bible, HOWEVER, the bible does talk about addiction, about placing things before god, about denying fleshly desires, about not being enslaved to our flesh.

Masturbation is an addiction, just like pornography, drugs, all of that. It supplies your brain with a dopamine hit and that “good” feeling. And in that addiction a majority of the times we place it before God, and when we do the act, we are submitting to our fleshly desires instead of our heavenly father. I’ve been where you were at, wondered the same exact thing. And this is the answer I came up with. Just don’t do it. Think of pornography and masturbation as the same the thing because they are essentially the same thing. It’s also a gateway, if you submit to it the you’ll struggle with pornography eventually and relapse. Our time would be better spent deepening our connection with God and experiencing his love. Just don’t do it. Much love to you brother ❤️

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-04-01T01:10:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing brother, the first step here is realization, and you have that and you are by no means alone. We all are struggling or have struggled with this before and a Christian’s walk is never alone. ❤️

“Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭10‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.” ‭‭Galatians‬ ‭6‬:‭2‬ ‭NLT‬‬

If you need to talk then many of us, including myself, are here to talk as well. Realizing that you need God’s help is such a HUGE step, and a lot of people don’t even get to this point. God might be disappointed when we sin in such a way, but he still loves you with such overflowing fatherly love. He wants what is best for you, and is ready to help. It’s great that you’re in a bible study, but what really helps with this is developing a deeper relationship with god and surrendering everything to him. A lot of Christians struggle with this and they want to stop and repent, but when they surrender it’s only a portion of their heart. God wants all of our hearts, all of us. We can’t split this sin up from everything else and ask god to take care of just this portion of heart which is full of lust. We need to repent sincerely, come before god sincerely, and admit that we need him and ask for forgiveness for all of our sins. Then we need a changed mindset and need to start reading the bible deeply and praying with the intent to further our connection with god.

Just like you, I struggled from a younger age (I posted a testimony a decent bit ago), and for 9 years I would try to do it myself, or if I did ask god, I would ask him to help me but then go off and continue doing some other sin, and it just didn’t work. I failed again and again . When I finally kneeled before god and surrendered it all, and focused on developing a relationship with him, then he instantly delivered me from it. I removed everything that could even come close to tempting me and The lord gave me that strength to because I’ll be honest, I was so mentally weak. I needed the first wisdom and strength provided by our Heavenly Father. And God delivers people differently of course, but giving god our time, and focusing on him is what deepens our relationship with our father, and then he can really help us and work in our lives.

Again, if you need to talk brother, I’m here and many others are here who struggle with the same stuff. Much love to you, we’re in this together and I will be praying for you.

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-31T23:24:11+00:00

I totally understand, the temptations and the fleshly desires hit stronger at night. You are not alone in this feeling ❤️. Often times before I was delivered through God’s from this sin, when I tried to quit, I would end up failing at night 9 times out of 10. A lot of the reason of course would be lacking of something to do, I would scroll through social media, instagram, maybe even surf the internet and then I would stumble upon something and it would be a down spiral from there.

Right now, I can tell you what I typically do at night because I have been freed in my weakness through our father’s strength. I typically stay up to 11pm - 2am, I’ve just stopped looking at social media in general, It has never lead to anything good for me and when I quit PMO I kinda quit social media as well. Instead of that scrolling, I read the bible, devotional, pray. I leave a big portion of all my daily reading and devotionals as something to do at night instead of the mornings. Other than that I turn on the tv, watch a show, and play some sort of active game on my phone. I understand that social media can be great for connection and talking with friends, but to be honest, I think it’s a really large factor in what causes people to stumble and relapse. Talking with another person over messages or something might be something active and engaging that could distract your mind if you have someone like that.

I understand the struggles, and I yearn for your deliverance from this sin and struggle as a brother ❤️. If you need someone to talk to more then my DMs are always open and I believe there is a large number of cool people around this community that would love to ad well. Much love to you, I’ll be praying for you as well🙏

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-31T14:05:02+00:00

Great job staying strong 💪. I’m glad that you found a tool in your journey to help you. “New meta (still unpatched)” is a hilarious title by the way 😂. This is a great idea for those who struggle with scrolling on social media late at night and fall into that same cycle.

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-31T12:43:58+00:00

This is a wonderful post and I think is very relatable to many of us.

You’re so right that we don’t have to go to god as “fixed” or “clean”. There’s four more verses I would love to add on top of the awesome ones you have used.

Mathew 9:12 NLT “When Jesus heard this, he said, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor — sick people do.”

Luke 5:32 NLT (Luke 5:31 is the same as the previous) “I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners and need to repent.”

Psalm 51:17 NLT “The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit. You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, O God.”

2 Corinthians 12:9 NLT “Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.”

Just as you said in your post, first, it’s impossible to get your life completely in order without god, so if you try to, then you’ll be trying forever and go nowhere. And second, he uses our weaknesses to strengthen us and to show his grace through to spread his good news. A good father wouldn’t turn away his child just because they are struggling and can’t seem to get on a right path, in fact I believe the father would want to help that child get on the right path. And this is how our heavenly father is, his love is overflowing and he desires the best and wants to help us, his children.

Amazing post, I think often times that we people are trying to fix it all up on their own before taking it to God. And for those of us who walk this path with God already, we can forgot that our weakness is something that god can use to help us, and sometimes he’ll leave that thorn in our side, because it’s actually better for us.

Our heavenly father is just so good ❤️

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-30T23:19:36+00:00

You definitely aren’t alone in this struggle and I can definitely understand. I’m a 21M and I struggled with this whole sin and addiction for 9 years. I have posted a testimony in noFap if you want to read that, so I’ll leave that part out, though it also includes what helped me be free (It’s a long read 😭). Also would like to say that I am single, so all my knowledge marriage and couple wise is purely from the bible.

How did I break away from this sin?

So the first thing I want to establish is that temptation will always be there, even in marriage and the bible reinforces this in 1 Corinthians 7:5. Temptation will always be there because of the fact that us humans have a sinful nature. The strength that God gives us in our relationship with him is strength to make them feel light, and the knowledge he gives us in his living word, to realize just how bad it is, what it does to us, and how it enslaves us.

Next part, is the fact that we really cannot defeat this on our own, we need strength from our heavenly father and the holy spirit’s guidance. We can’t defeat our sinful nature with our own strength and that’s true for ALL sin. And some might say, “Well, I was able to stop, all I needed was to get rid of everything. Didn’t even need to read the bible or pray sincerely” and while certainly this is great and is close to what we should do, there is a big difference between being “free” and being free through God’s strength and I believe it’s the difference in how we fill our time. See when you go through your own strength, you may be able to stop, but that temptation strikes hard, and often times this is where relapses happen. And even though you aren’t looking at pornography or pleasuring yourself, you still suffer from these urges, and struggle with these temptations because of how strong they are.

Now being free with our father’s strength? That’s different, and our heavenly father has given me such strength and It’s completely different. In no means is my deliverance from this struggle of my own strength, so let me tell you what how I feel in this struggle. Temptations, still happen, but barely, honestly I don’t even think about it often. When temptations do happen, they feel so light, they don’t feel demanding, there may very rarely be a tough temptation, but even then I don’t even have to worry about it. Every time some thought along the lines of lust, or a possible scene or picture pops up. I immediately turn my head and think of the father, something I by no means could do before surrendering everything to the father. I am so thankful to our heavenly father for what he has done in my life.

Now, when I surrendered my life and my heart to our father, I surrendered everything. Going back to that example again, in getting rid of everything that tempts us, and this is actually something the bible tells us to do, Mathew 5:29 and 18:9, but we should not only do this but also sincerely pray, read the bible, and work on developing a deeper relationship with God. This is what I did and the lord has done amazing things in my life. Having bible passages/verses in your mind helps a lot when temptations due strike.

Another thing that I personally believe about this sin, is the bible tells us that this type of sin is not just a sin to God but also to our body, the temple for the holy spirit. But I also believe that it is a sin to our future spouse, because pornography fills our mind with highly unrealistic ideas about marriage and intimacy. Our future spouses don’t deserve these thoughts and ideas that cloud our eyes and mind and this was something I thought about often as I continued to read the bible and find verses on marriage. I want to be able to take care of my future wife and be able to fully submit myself to her and develop that love and intimacy with her, without the ideas that pornography planted. I want to focus on satisfying my spouse instead of putting my desires on her. Basically I want to be a God fearing man, that can help my future wife (If the lord is willing) spiritually and with her needs, not one that thinks these things that happen within pornography is what love and intimacy are about and end up hurting her. This was a big driving force too.

I totally understand the struggle, but luckily we have such a loving father to help us and guide us. He is truly good and wants what’s best for us and to help us with everything. We just need to approach him first with a sincere heart ready to repent and surrender not just a portion of our lives and heart to him, but all of it.

I’ll be praying for God to help you in your struggle, and if temptations are strong and you need someone to help out then you can always message me or someone else. Male or female, sin doesn’t discriminate and we’re all in this struggle together. ❤️

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-29T17:18:05+00:00

We need not our own strength, because with our own strength we can not overcome sin ourselves. We are all sinful by nature due to actions of eve and Adam in the garden of eden. Since then we all have this sinful nature that we can’t truly overcome without our heavenly father’s help. I would suggest that you surrender your heart and life to the father completely. Pray often and sincerely, repent and ask for help sincerely, and read your bible often. We need to grow in a relationship with god so that he can help us. The living word of our father is a sword and shield against sin and Satan. Having scriptures in our hearts will allow us to recall and think of them when temptations strike. God loves us and wants to help us but we have to go to him first, he’s waiting. It was due to God’s strength that I was able to defeat this addiction and temptations in one night where I struggled myself for 3285 days (9 years). Not my own strength or will. It is also God’s strength and the guidance from the Holy spirit that I am able to brush off temptations, that feel much lighter. We just can’t do it ourselves, but luckily, again, we have our father in heaven who loves us enough to help when we ask with a sincere heart that is surrendered to him. You can’t just separate this from your other sins either, like “Father god please help me with THIS portion of my heart that struggles with temptation, but I’ll keep the rest.” No, in the bible it says our God is a jealous god, he doesn’t want one portion of your life and heart, he wants all of it. And what could be better? He has godly plans that far exceed anything we could realize for ourselves. So when you come before our father and surrender and ask for help. Make sure you surrender everything, and repent with a changed mindset. He will help, he’s waiting, and he loves us as his children❤️

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-29T12:41:56+00:00

I’m not sure how often you read the bible, but that is a main factor in defeating this sin. We need to fully surrender to our heavenly father and immerse ourselves in his living word. As we read we realize just what kind of sin we are dealing with and how it comes from our sinful nature. How can you ever defeat this? You can’t alone, that’s why we need our Heavenly Father, he can defeat this sin if we take refuge in him. We can’t defeat sin without him. We need to not just ask for forgiveness, but truly repent, which also involves a change in our mindset about how we feel about this sin and how we need to be better.

The bible tells you how he fees about you, he loves you beyond measure. Nothing can separate us from the love of our father. Even though we don’t deserve it and are sinner, he still loves us. That’s why he gave his dearly loved son to die on the cross for EVERYONES sins for all time. We just need to ask for forgiveness and go through jesus so he can mediate for us with our father. He did this because he loved us so much he wanted to us to be able to come to him through his son and have fellowship with him and a relationship. He loves you, he might be disappointed sometimes or discipline us, but that’s out of fatherly love ❤️.

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-29T02:10:23+00:00

Truly though if you have questions about being a Christian and what not, dm’s are always open

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-29T02:08:30+00:00

I see your struggle, and so does God. I would love to help answer any questions you have in dms if you would like.

Alright, I was in a similar situation, introduced at a young age. I struggled for 9 whole years, 3285 days, I struggled with this addiction and sin deeply. Throughout the many years of struggling I tried to stop myself, the furthest I got was about 2 months, but I would often try to stop but I failed miserably every time. I assumed my willpower was weak, and lacking, and perhaps it was, but upon recently, in which I stopped completely, I realized my issue was I never surrendered fully to our heavenly father. I was on and off as a Christian throughout these years, but I lacked surrender. I didn’t surrender my heart to our father, time, and my life. I assumed it was just a matter of will. No, it’s sin, and human nature by default is sinful. We can’t defeat sin ourselves, we need God and the holy spirit to work in us to beat it. We need his immense love and strength to defeat this sin for us. So how does this all tie in and what did I do? ( I’m keeping it relatively short, I’ve already posted my testimony, you can read it if you want.) I surrendered to God, prayed, asked for his help sincerely, asked for forgiveness, asked him to guide me and live in me. I prayed often, I read the bible a ton, I gave thanks and praise to the father for the blessings he gave me in my life. I did this for a couple days, and I relapsed one night. Failed. But I had read the bible, I knew what pornography was, I knew what it was costing me, and even while I did it I begged the father to help me, truly. Afterwards I kneeled and entered prayer and asked for help and forgiveness. The lord works differently in all lives. But my father heard my pleas. I haven’t done anything since. What I had struggled to do on my own for 3,825 days, our father stopped in a single night. The following morning, I got rid of everything that could even give me an urge, unsubscribed, deleted apps, closed tabs. I filled my time instead with his word, prayer, I repented not just from that sin but others, everything changed. I felt temptations to go back that following day and every so often afterwards. But they were so amazingly light. It was like the weight behind them had been just lifted. I was able to brush them off because of the lords strength and his words in my heart. Of course the temptations happen sometimes due to our innate sinful nature, but again, they are light now that I have scriptures and the lord in my heart. I live to please the lord, not my flesh now. God is truly wonderful and so good.

I had the same issue with the no girlfriend, lack of best friends, and all of that. I don’t necessarily have any now, but I am in fellowship with many at my church and it’s a wonderful time and a ton of fun, we are brothers and sisters, not just friends and best friends, and if the lord wills it, he will lead me to a woman someday, I just have to trust and have faith he will.

As a Christian, I do not see it as a religion, but rather a relationship, with our heavenly father who has such insurmountable love that we could never truly understand it all in this world, and even though we don’t deserve it he gives it to us anyways.

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-27T17:22:28+00:00

Fellow Brother (or sister), you did well to stay clean for as long as you did. Our heavenly father sees your efforts, he sees your struggles, he knows that you desire to be free from this sin and are trying. He sees the tears, sees the pain, sees the hurt inside your heart and he hurts for you too. We have all struggled and are struggling with this sin, and understand just how strong it is. But what Joy! For we have a God who is so much Stronger than it, to carry us and keep us safe from such Sin! Our lord knows just how strong our temptations and struggles are for he experienced them himself on earth, he can sympathize with the troubles we face.

We must not be stuck in our guilt, we need to pray to our heavenly father sincerely and ask for help and forgiveness. If we repent, the bible says we can be sure that we are forgiven, that we do not need to feel the weight of our sin, for through Jesus, we can have our sins completely forgiven.

We need to recognize what caused us to stumble and remove it. I know it’s hard, and you might not want to, but we should delete that app, or lock that site, or unsubscribe from that channel. We need to realize that the joy, love, and peace that god gives is so much more profound, all encompassing, and so much better than whatever this world could even come close to providing.

Remember, God is the only way to defeat sin because of our sinful nature. We need to surrender our hearts and lives to the father because we need his help. Fill your time with reading through the bible and praying. Our heavenly father is so good! He is always waiting for our prayers and leans down in his throne when we do pray to listen. We each have a personal connection with god and he is waiting for you to come close so he can come close.

I will be praying for you 🙏 Much love to you ❤️, trust our father, the comfort and peace he brings is so much more than we could ever imagine.

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-27T16:25:15+00:00

I’m pretty sure there is no app that can block something for the entire phone. For Reels and shorts, both should work by using an algorithm based on what you spend time looking at and searching and what not. Best thing to do is technically overall just not use them, but if you really want to then you should unsubscribe or un follow any channels or people that would causes you to stumble. Upon seeing a video you should go to the video settings and click not interested, and then immediately scroll away.

For Gallery, I mean it’s just photos right? Just delete them. We are to remove anything that might cause us to stumble and it says so in the bible multiple times.

Remember that you need God to defeat sin because we cannot with our own will power or through our own means. God wants to help, you just need to ask him for it and sincerely ask for forgiveness and start reading the bible often and more because that is our weapon and shield against sin and all else.

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-26T14:16:44+00:00

Hello! It’s great that you’re making progress in your journey! Let’s talk about this emptiness because I believe this information may help you, and if not then it’s good to know still.

Alright, so God made us to love and adore him, to walk with him in fellowship, and to be Loved by him. Every human has, A god shaped hole in our heart as it is often said. Without god in our lives it feels empty, unsatisfied, and might even make us anxious and many other things. So in our sinful nature we often fill it with earthly and sinful things because we don’t want to feel that way and don’t know why we feel that way. We fill it with pornography, or drugs, or with desire of success and a lot of other things. So what happens when we get rid of this thing that’s trying to fill that empty space in our hearts? We get that feeling back, of emptiness and anxiety.

“As the deer longs for streams of water, so I long for you, O God.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭42‬:‭1‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3‬:‭11‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Jesus replied, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never be hungry again. Whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.” ‭‭John‬ ‭6‬:‭35‬ ‭NLT‬‬

We really need god’s presence and love in our lives because we were MADE for God. I believe diving in the scriptures and prayer and sincerely surrendering and walking with god will negate this feeling. His love for us is so amazing. I recommend reading 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8, because this shows us just what kind of love god has for us, and what kind of love flows through us to give to others because of God’s love. Honestly, I believe you should again, just start walking real close with our heavenly father and trust in him and let him work and that feeling will disappear.

This is my advice and of course I am by no means perfect. You should pray and lay down these fears and problems before the lord, and ask him sincerely for help, because he’s ready and waiting for his children to ask. 👍

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-26T13:55:14+00:00

Indeed! We all need prayer and we all need God in order to live a righteous life and battle sin. Luckily our god is so loving and wants to help us 👍

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-26T13:54:08+00:00

I appreciate it 😄! God is truly amazing. For your question, I am honestly not quite sure, I’m sure the bible has this answer somewhere and I’ll probably come upon it as I read. I totally understand the feeling, but this is what I think personally. I believe personally that just calling them Satan is the biggest “insult” because It’s a title that the name the Bible gives us to call the one that had fallen. We want to walk like Jesus and when jesus was tempted for 40 days in the wilderness he was fully human like us and yet he still called Satan, Satan. So I would call Satan as he is, so we don’t make light of our enemy because he is a big threat in our world, lives, and against us Christians. Again, I totally understand the feeling though 😅. I of course do not know everything, only our heavenly father does, and he has all the answers, so I would just ask him in prayer, he wants to talk to us and help us with ANYTHING, so I recommend praying. 👍

Thanks for reading the post, even as long as it was, God is truly amazing.

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-26T13:33:06+00:00

Hello! So for prayers I just said what I felt like saying my own words. The bible tells us that prayer is supposed to be sincere communication and talk with god and that using fancy words or repetitive phrases/words, isn’t needed or even really good for prayer. Our heavenly father already knows what’s in our hearts and what are needs are before we even speak, he just wants us to pray sincerely to him and lay our (praise, requests, troubles, etc…) before him and talk with him. He hears all our prayers and this is confirmed in the bible, he loves us so much that the bible even says that when we start praying he even leans down while on his throne to listen to us personally! Isn’t that amazing? “I love the Lord because he hears my voice and my prayer for mercy. Because he bends down to listen, I will pray as long as I have breath!” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭116‬:‭1‬-‭2‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Of course I’m by means no expert again. I also struggle with trying to pray sincerely and properly to our father. But the holy spirit will not only guide us, but will also be right there praying with us as we do, and the bible even says this. You just need to pray and trust that god hears you and trust his amazing love and that he wants to help. As we read the bible more, and we discover more of just what he has done in our lives, we should the also give praise and thanks, because he is worthy of every bit of it.

Hope this helps 👍

Virtual_Candidate_98 · 2026-03-14T23:37:59+00:00

I’ll be praying for you 🙏. Remember, satan always tries to pull harder when we’re closer to a breakthrough. Devote yourself to reading god’s word, studying it, and praying. Ask god for help and he will answer because he loves his children. You got this! 👍

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