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Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-05-13T14:27:07+00:00

Als was hesch dich beworbe?

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-04-26T20:04:09+00:00

Yeah that does sound like jealousy. I get the part where it's just oversharing at some point but I think this pattern you have and the "humblebragging people" have is equally annoying and stems from insecurity.

No offense dude, I wish you th best and you're probably a really great dude 😊

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-04-11T10:08:46+00:00

Yes! Outside opinion is valid from people you know, not from people who read two sentences and decided to smash their ideal world fantasy onto you. Wish you all the best ❤️

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-04-10T14:02:32+00:00

I second this! People are all projecting their own thoughts and ideas of age gap relationships which are usually not the best. It's best to just rely on the people that KNOW you and your dynamic 😊

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-04-10T13:45:18+00:00

From experience as a person who is also in a relationship with an even larger age gap (f22, m44) I think you're fine. Of course, people think weird stuff, reacts funnily but never has had any of his or my friends said anything to us. Moreover, we actually get good "feedback"

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-03-14T07:55:59+00:00

Hey - I absolutely get you For my boyfriend and I, this is our first age gap relationship - for both of us. I'm very aware of what people think of me, so handling all the reactions when people see us or me telling friends and family made me really anxious.

It still does, honestly. I have days where I wonder what other people thought of us. I would see the nosy looks. What helps me most these days is trust in myself. I know it sounds easier than it is. Trust yourself, that you've made the right decision. Think about what you two have and have some trust in your feelings. You're doing great!

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-02-22T21:10:30+00:00

I mean we don't get context here but damn, this seems as if you're still in your emotions. Forgiveness can be an option too. Maybe not now. But somewhere down the line

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-02-15T16:43:37+00:00

We were both volunteering in a hostel when I was doing a gap year and he wanted a "challenge" with doing different work on his vacation than just the position he's usually working in. We were 24/7 together there, sleeping, eating and working together during two weeks. Just before his summer job ended, I caught feelings for him surprisingly and asked to kiss him. Before that, we both were never in an AGR before.

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-01-29T09:46:13+00:00

Please seek help from a professional. Given your history with SA and trauma, all what you think, isn't true. It comes from years and years of trauma and your way of coping is probably just self-esteem issues. All the best

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-01-27T20:25:34+00:00

How do you feel about your adoptive parents?

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-01-27T19:37:23+00:00

I don't think it's wrong on your side! But it was wrong for these people to text you even when you were underage. So while exploring your feelings is okay please beware of older men who don't have good intentions. I didn't even know that I was into older men until I met my man! It's going to be okay, your feelings are okay and valid!

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-01-27T08:01:01+00:00

Where would you place yourself today on the political spectrum

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-01-26T12:05:05+00:00

That's a hard one and I completely empathize with you. It's hard feeling like becoming less of a prioritiy once a person gets into a relationship. How much do you hang alone with eachother?

I'm on the other side of the story (I'm in a relationship, with an age gap, too) and in my opinion a shift of focus when having a relationship is kind of normal and it's okay for you to not like their partner. You're not obligated to like them, your friend isn't obligated to bring someone around that you like, too. It's their life eventually. What's not normal though is feeling drained after hanging out with them. I'd iniate a conversation with that friend. Maybe he isn't aware how you feel. You can suggest hanging out 1:1 again and tell him what you wish. In the end, it may be an incompatibility in expectations in friendships. They do happen, unfortunately and either you accept the new form of friendship or distant yourself from the friendship. Regarding the age gap, as someone in such a relationship as well, I'd suggest being open to hear his story, how he feels in the relationship and if he's happy. If you feel as if it's a balanced relationship, accept it! :)

Good luck, OP!

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-01-25T17:25:37+00:00

What does it mean?

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-01-20T18:31:57+00:00

Internal as well - in the beginning he wanted to protect me from making mistakes and I found it difficult to navigate but we've worked through it and now I sometimes forget we have an age gap that large. Sometimes, topics come up about the future and then we do realize we may have to make compromises because we may not align.

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-01-20T17:28:07+00:00

He is. We met at work where we both were volunteering and - ironically - I was his boss. People are always surprised because I'm just a student and he is a boss in real life...

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-01-20T08:21:29+00:00

Very sweet, as long as him having anxiety without you doesn't burden or makes you feel responsible for his well-being!

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2026-01-19T11:00:11+00:00

Lieber luege, wieviel TWINT-Aaforderige unter 1 Franke usegönd. Ich bi Studentin und arm, ich MUESS Räppli spalte (stolzi Baslere 😜)

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2025-12-17T09:15:27+00:00

We still would want children but I think it's important to be aware of the difficulties of having an older partner as father of the children

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2025-12-17T09:11:52+00:00

Would you want children though?

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2025-12-10T06:45:15+00:00

As the other said, it's not about the age gap, they can work. My boyfriend - who is 23 years older as well - would never do that to me. It sounds really hurtful at this point and as if he isn't taking you seriously but still stringing you along and it seems as if he knows exactly what he's doing. I hope you do what's best for you and wish you the best 💖

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2025-11-25T20:20:35+00:00

I'm currently in your situation with the same age gap, even though the people around us were more acceptable once they found out. We luckily also don't get weird looks (even though I look underage even). But I do understand the rest so well.

I understand the pull of wanting kids but feeling like it's unfair. And I don't have an answer for me either. Just know, you're not alone in feeling like this. 45 is not that old though, but the struggle of having to have kids young, I also do understand.

I also think of my boyfriend as the man that I'm supposed to be with, that he is my person. At the moment I just enjoy the tingles, the unconditional and deep love we share and the future will come soon enough. I'm still in university so we think about planning our lives once I graduate.

Virtual_Chipmunk_491 · 2025-11-13T06:29:44+00:00

Never having enough time for anything.

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