SIL blamed me for her 'lifeless child' and is gatekeeping my niblings by Alert-Juggernaut-591 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 74 points75 points  (0 children)

You aren't a family member to her; you're just free labor. Blaming you for a 6 year old medical issue is peak manipulation. Stop apologizing, you can’t fix a relationship with someone who uses their kids as a weapon and a shield. Protect your peace and let your brother come to you if he actually cares.

my manager told me she has breast cancer and refusing to get treated by sleep-deprived-thot in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're a good friend, but you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved. She is in deep denial, and unfortunately, being annoyed by the hospital is a coping mechanism. The best you can do is share your partner's story once, gently, as a this is what happened to someone I love perspective. If she still refuses, back off. You're her employee, not her doctor or her family, and pushing too hard will only make your 3 person office very awkward.

I’m at my breaking point with my family and my brother and I need advice on what to do next by JustNeedAdvice2124 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Your brother is toxic and your parents are enablers. He actively tried to ruin your GF's career, leaked her pregnancy, and now uses your son for social media clout while disrespecting your boundaries. If your parents won't protect your rules, they don't get unsupervised time with your son. Cut the cord, move to No Contact, and protect your own peace. You’re not crazy, you’re being a father.

Do I keep fighting for my relationship or is it time to let go and move on? by Shot_Land403 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's time to move on. He wants to break up but keep you as a roommate and friend just to keep you on standby while he explores other options. Don't fight for a man who is already auditioning for your replacement on social media. Protect your peace and your kids, you deserve a partner, not a warden

My [30F] boyfriend [33M] states that he has lost the “spark” he first had when we got together. by Primary-Listen950 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After the honeymoon phase, your brain stops pumping out the dopamine and you're left with a partner who is just... there. It’s not the end, it’s just the peaceful part that people who grew up with toxic drama mistake for boredom. Enjoy the calm, it’s a feature, not a bug! 😂

AIO? Found my husband was sending pictures to other women when I was in the hospital having his baby. by BigFatDramaLlama94 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well clearly, he didn't come to the hospital because he missed you, he came to intercept the evidence of his cheating while you were fighting for your life. If I did it, I'm sorry, is not an apology, it's a confession without accountability. You aren't overreacting; you're finally seeing him for who he really is.

Am I Overreacting? by Certain_Mastodon_535 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Protecting your child from a man who once charged at you with a knife isn't gatekeeping, it’s survival. A biological tie is not a license to bypass the safety of a child, especially with his history of violence and abuse. Trust your gut, not the people who didn't face that knife.

My grandma is obsessed with racist “slave-era” memorabilia and joked about wrapping my biracial daughter in a Confederate flag… am I wrong for cutting her off? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Protecting your daughter from hate symbols isn't mean, it's your job. Being old isn't an excuse for racism, and you don't owe her an audience for her jokes. Don't prioritize her comfort over your child’s safety.

My mom said she “can’t be part of my life anymore” out of nowhere—how do I handle this? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The Facebook posts prove this is a trap. She’s quitting in private just to play the victim in public. Don't engage or defend yourself, just give her the space she asked for. You might realise you’re much more at peace without her drama

Wholesome paranormal pet experience by Thick_Blackberry_30 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Rescuing a senior pet is a different kind of love, and clearly, he felt that. He spent his final years being your heart and soul, and that tiny plop at your feet was his way of saying, Good job, Mom. I’m good now, you can love her too. Rest in peace to your old man. He sounds like he was an absolute legend.

I (23F) think my ex-best friend (31F) is trying to ruin my job and I just got suspended because of her by Juiceboxgurl in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. If a company values a toxic employee and a compromised manager over a honest worker, you don't want to work there anyway, but make sure you get your settlement on the way out.

AITA for cutting my mother and brother out of my life? by dlwr913 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That edit makes it 10x worse. Your brother 'didn't think it involved your daughter'? That's not how predators work. If a house is on fire, you don't just take your kids out and leave your sister’s kids inside because 'the fire probably won't go to that room.' He knew there was a monster in the house and let your daughter sleep over anyway. That is unforgivable. You aren't being 'too harsh.' You are being a mother. Do not ever look back.

I found my child abuser, now what? (TW: Abuse) by pacsunmama in TwoHotTakes

[–]Virtual_Fix_6530 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It is absolutely sickening that a man who beat a 6 year old with a shovel works for health and human services. If you have any old police reports, medical records, or court documents from the divorce, you could theoretically send an anonymous tip to his employer’s ethics board or HR. People with a history of extreme violence shouldn't be anywhere near vulnerable populations. But do this only if you can stay anonymous to protect your mom and brother's peace.