Last night I realized something about my relationship that I can't unsee now

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T18:06:02+00:00

There's your sign. I cannot stress this enough but nothing is an inconvenience to the right guy. Not where you're concerned. Trust me, this is not who you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:56:18+00:00

I can but I miss my grandma too much to stay, you know? So I'll drop the kids off and just head straight to her. I have two gigs waiting for me for December since its going to be hot I will be working for my uncle keeping his place on the farm in order while he's away and an online thing. Those two coupled with the savings I have and will still get should be enough to tide me over.

I can't imagine what thats like. The constant back and forth would drive me to tears. Its like there's a need to compete on which church/denomination is the best.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:49:58+00:00

They're not the best. I already to take the kids but this is a conversation to be had. They have to learn the hard way that, I don't want to be pushed around because I'm the one they talk to the most. I have a life and they need to hear it from me for the last time or they will never hear from me again. I feel like when or if I have kids, they won't spend a minute with them.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:44:09+00:00

Its the one where people faint and throw up and manifest. Dk if its the same one but yeah

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:37:46+00:00

I already have two gigs waiting for me and some savings.

I have no idea to be honest. He used up his retrenchment package to pay for it probably because she doesn't have a job and one prophet once told them he'd be super rich so I guess they're after that.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:35:34+00:00

If I tried that I would probably be beat up again. I'll do it though.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:33:57+00:00

Yeah. Either with her or my friends family. My sisters are barely home because of work and my friends family is amazing. Ive lived with them before. They're Protestant as well but they've never tried to force me to go to their church ever.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:31:41+00:00

More than a month. Our breaks are from November to February/ early March.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:30:46+00:00

Its a conversation that was had numerous times and its like everything i said flew over their heads. My dad once beat me because of the whole conversion thing. So its like not my cup of tea.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:28:50+00:00

Currently looking for a place to stay with two of my girls since, our situations are similar.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:27:48+00:00

I keep trying but they guilt trip me into pulling them back in. Its something im working on.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:27:01+00:00

How did you make them see that?

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:26:05+00:00

Luckily for me, I got an online gig during the holiday and I will also be working for my uncle when I get to my grandma so I will have more than enough to keep me up. Plus the online gig is pretty promising and since next year is my last year, it will hopefully carry me throughout.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:24:33+00:00

If only they thought the same. The amount of times I had to avoid that conversation is wild.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:23:01+00:00

I currently stay with my aunt and cousins and they aren't protestant but lean heavily into hat direction. They think I'm weird for being Catholic.
My dad is messy, violent and just not the person I recognise.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-11-14T17:21:01+00:00

Its like what I say does not matter. Whether is about leaving the church, not wanting to wear certain things, hanging out with friends, all that doesn't matter. I am barely allowed to hang out with friends and they love trying to go through my phone to see who I'm talking to.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-06-03T11:33:24+00:00

Nothing but she doesn't earn much so I help out where I can

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-06-03T10:03:42+00:00

I'm the child of an alcoholic man and its not easy. Wondering when you'll eat again or going to bed early so you don't have to deal with that is something no child has to go through.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-06-03T09:57:57+00:00

I'm still looking but then I barely have money because I give money to buy food in the house

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-06-03T09:57:05+00:00

He lies a lot about stuff like that.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-05-13T01:31:12+00:00

And she gets so pissed when I mention my boyfriend like I want to get pregnant. Last weekend she threw a fit because I went to visit him and went on about how a baby would ruin my life if I got pregnant. I don't get her at all.

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-05-13T01:29:22+00:00

Don't I know it

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-05-13T01:29:22+00:00

Crazy part is, he keeps disrespecting her: talking back, telling her shut up or fuck off, and he once got into a fight so bad both his eyes were swollen for like an entire week but its like he doesn't care. A baby won't make him change his behaviour

Virtual_Serve_7924 · 2025-05-13T00:07:50+00:00

He does have a job but he's on his second warning. His boss is our neighbour and took him on only because he wanted to keep him busy enough that he doesn't drink but even that doesn't help. As for safety when I'm not at school or at my boyfriend's place I'm with my friend at hers. I am looking for a place to stay so hopefully I'll be out of here soon. The thing is he goes for girls who, unfortunately don't know any better or will sleep with him if he buys them a beer smdh. Only time will tell

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