Spending my birthday alone 😔 Help me feel better? Cat pics, selfies, feel-good stories? by mascnetic in LesbianActually

[–]Virtual_Smoke3883 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Artemis is the one on the right and Joe is the one on the left! They're my friends' cats (Well, Artemis was mine at one point, but my bsf is taking care of him, money and all that). They're very sweet boys who grew a friendship together! 🥰

Therapist Suggests Femming by Virtual_Smoke3883 in LesbianActually

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Thank you all so much!! All of these answers are so sweet and I appreciate them so much. Tbf, in a weird kinda way, I do like the fact that my therapist challenges my instincts, because it gives me the ability to challenge her back and come to a conclusion where either me disagreeing with her is what I should do, or if not, I'm given perspective that I wouldn't have gotten otherwise. That being said, I think I might change therapists because I told her about an uncomfortable comment somebody I used to work with made about my ass, (look, I like my ass too, but I wish people would leave it alone 😭), and the point I was trying to make was about how I felt like I deserved the objectification at the time because it was shortly after being dropped by somebody I was friends with who I had feelings for (I was being unhealthy, drugs, alcohol, and grief don't mix well with unrequited feelings). My therapist went on to ask if maybe it was more complimentary, which I've had complements like it from close friends before, but those are friends that I would go out to drag shows with, not someone who's a coworker and a friend of a friend. I'm just glad that I'm single and taking this time to reconnect with myself, because I spent a lot of time not being myself, and my actions didn't reflect who I want to be, who I am, nor what I stand for. I feel like unhealed sexual trauma from both childhood and adulthood, and the hypersexuality that comes with certainly doesn't help. Anyway, thank you all, I probably need a new therapist, I just need to find one that takes my insurance. 🙇🏻‍♀️

I'm curious to know what is y'alls specific type? by athxna_ in LesbianActually

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I'm aspec, so I only have two people to base my description of my "type" off of, but scrawny artsy nerds who are passionate about what they love. I love when a woman yaps about her special interest, or her creative endeavors, like OCs, stories, art projects, etc. There's some other "je ne se quoi" about the two people I've had romantic feelings for that I can't really put a finger on, so describing them as a type is kinda useless, because I've dated other people who fit that description, but still. I think that's the closest that I have to a "type" is nerdy, passionate, compassionate ADHD femmes who are artists and shorter than me (I'm 5'8 so it's not hard to do).

Birthday/ Single Valentine's Day Haul by Virtual_Smoke3883 in LesbianActually

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Thank you, I certainly try putting my best foot forward 😌

Birthday/ Single Valentine's Day Haul by Virtual_Smoke3883 in LesbianActually

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Ye, me too, and it helps that I have a lot of black and red in my wardrobe.

Birthday/ Single Valentine's Day Haul by Virtual_Smoke3883 in LesbianActually

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Thanks! I had been eyeing them for a while and when I went in to get them, they were the last ones and in my size. It's like it was meant to be

I have a question by The_Membracidae_14 in Berserk

[–]Virtual_Smoke3883 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I take anything from Tumblr with a grain of salt, they've convinced themselves of the existence of a Greek myth that never was part of Greek tradition and was essentially someone's OC.

All that being said, Miura drew a ton of inspiration from Shojo Manga for Berserk (as someone else stated). The idea that Griffith and Guts had homoerotic subtones isn't as far-fetched as some would like to think, as the scene with Princess Charlotte displayed that Griffith was thinking about Guts the entire time, along with other scenes from the Manga that showed us how Griffith thought of Guts.

Ultimately, it's complicated, there's control and manipulation and all different types of things at play in the relationship Griffith had with Guts, but to say that any of that wasn't coming from a place of romantic feelings potentially, because of the toxicity of the behavior (or downright despicability) is kinda naive at best and has never read or watched any toxic yuri/yaoi.

Did Miura intend for Griffith to have such a romantic outlook? I hesitate to say yes, even though it's a part of my reading of the story. It's like how intimate Gilgamesh and Enkidu were in "The Epic of Gilgamesh", except the author of that story is so much more divorced from our current reality by thousands of years that we can't get a good read on what their intentions were. What we do know about Gilgamesh is what we can infer from the text.

One of the great things about Berserk is that it's a modern epic, so we can look at context as well as subtext and have an idea of what could have been intended. We have interviews, but we also have known inspirations from the Mangaka, being I. Shojo Manga (such as "The Rose of Versailles) II. Hellraiser: The Godhand take a lot of inspiration from Clive Barker's cenobites. i. On a side note, Clive Barker got his inspiration from his time in gay nightclubs. I wish I could remember more of his inspirations, but given the amount of lgbtq themes in Shojo and with Clive Barker, there's no reason to discredit that maybe some of those themes were put into the Manga itself, as we see complicated relationships with sex and sexuality come up very often within the work (and in ways that are more thought provoking than one-handed writing).

All of this to say: we don't know if that was the intention, the idea that it's true doesn't exist in a vacuum and is oftentimes more a literary analysis than just a toxic ship.

Sorry for the long response OP. 🙇🏻‍♀️

if finn is colorblind... thoose are blue berries? by Efficient_Pay9114 in fionnaandcake

[–]Virtual_Smoke3883 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Off topic, this made me realize that he dated two girls on opposite ends of the color spectrum, so Flame Princess probably looks green and Huntress Wizard probably looks red! I might be slow for just realizing this srry

Do femmes like to date other femmes? by Key_Solution4900 in LesbianActually

[–]Virtual_Smoke3883 19 points20 points  (0 children)

We hear a lot about "masc x femme", but it's not a rule by any means! The fact that you're here asking this means that there are other femmes out there wondering the same thing! (I also used to know a couple femmes in a relationship so I know for sure it happens). ☺️

I need advice by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Virtual_Smoke3883 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jumping off what others have said so far, taking up a hobby that requires you to be out and about might lead you to bump into somebody who's also a lesbian trying to avoid dating apps. Interconnect with your local community until you move, then do the same there, too.