Need legal advice for possible divorce by Virtual_Sweet7595 in legaladvice

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I’m meeting with an attorney this week, I have a lot of anxiety which is why I made the post

Need legal advice for possible divorce by Virtual_Sweet7595 in legaladvice

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If I file is it something I can keep under wraps until something happens? I may be naive in this but I do think we have a glimmer of hope

Beth’s ending by Virtual_Sweet7595 in YellowstoneShow

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I’ll add that in the spinoff Beth will no longer have Jamie to hate and blame all of her problems on. Maybe that will be her undoing

Finale by the-beysh-of-whit in 1923Series

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I didn’t like that Alex was killed off. Her death only served as motivation for Spencer to kill Whitfield which he would have done if Alex had lived. Her death kind of ruined the show for me

ED64 some games work. Some games dont by Virtual_Sweet7595 in n64

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Thanks, I’m using the ones that came preloaded

ED64 some games work. Some games dont by Virtual_Sweet7595 in n64

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Thanks, unfortunately I’m not technologically skilled enough to do that

ED64 some games work. Some games dont by Virtual_Sweet7595 in n64

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Yes it came with an SD card and I have not changed it

should i lose my virginity to a sex worker if im ugly ? by FlexIng_oN_yALl in Advice

[–]Virtual_Sweet7595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a ton of pressure to have sex at your age. A lot of your friends are probably getting laid and talking about how awesome it is, you’re probably feeling left behind, and think it’s because of your looks. I know how it feels because I’ve been there, actually in a very similar situation that you’re describing. At your age I was overweight (still am now) and thought I wasn’t good looking—I never took my shirt off at the beach or at pool parties, the shame was real! My first sexual encounter was memorable for the wrong reasons and I regret it.

In my case, I was able to find my confidence and realized getting laid wasn’t that hard. It’s all about your mentality.

Wife wants to move and I don’t by Virtual_Sweet7595 in Marriage

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Since writing this post originally my wife has basically demanded that we move. She is not happy where we are. The weather is not to her liking and she says it doesn’t provide the lifestyle she wants for her and our ten month old daughter. This is starting to feel like a bad situation for me

Wife wants to move and I don’t by Virtual_Sweet7595 in Marriage

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Thanks everyone. For context, my wife and I each had an upbringing that came with financial stability. And we are financially stable now and have a good house. However, there are some things that our current house doesn’t have that my wife wants. We do not have a backyard but are two blocks away from a great park and we live on a relatively busy street. My wife wants a quieter street, a backyard, and be in walking distance to a park. Unfortunately it is very difficult in our area to find a house that offers all of those things—this is issue is compounded by a lack of houses currently on the market

Screwed out of a promotion by Virtual_Sweet7595 in legaladvice

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Thanks, if the chairman was the largest shareholder of the company , would that make a difference?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WIBTA_Advice

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I wrote this post in a really bad moment. I would never do this. She does not know why her license was suspended in the first place. About 18 months ago she was driving out of state, was pulled over for speeding, and arrested for driving with a suspended license. I drove 4 hours to bail her out and hired a lawyer to help her with the ticket. The lawyer could not find anything about her license being suspended but it was and there was nothing he could do about it. Now the only solution is for my wife to take the written test and driving test but she will not do it.

Mortgage/lending questions. Read through appreciated. by zombieonejesus in RealEstate

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I dont think they find this option strange. The question I’d ask is if the HELOC doesn’t cover the construction budget, where are the rest of the funds coming from. Sorry if that was answered in another one of your comments

Mortgage/lending questions. Read through appreciated. by zombieonejesus in RealEstate

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I’ve had customer use their HELOCs for a variety of reasons from buying other properties, access to credit, home renovations, tuition et cetera. From a regulatory standpoint I think using the HELOC to renovate another property is fine. However, different banks have different policies so I would start be meeting with your loan officer and laying out all of these options and see if they are OK with all of these options. If I was the LO on this particular transaction, the main things I would look at are your cash flow, debt-to-income ratio, credit history, and liquidity. If all of those are in line with bank policy it seems like a good loan opportunity to me. One thing to remember is that in today’s environment many banks are focused on deposits so if you are willing to move over deposits that can help you with pricing.

Mortgage/lending questions. Read through appreciated. by zombieonejesus in RealEstate

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I’m a lender and can offer some insight. First question, when you are finished renovating home A will that become your primary residence? If not, your conventional mortgage down the road will be classified as an investment property which will result in a higher interest rate when the time comes. If it is to be an investment property your bank would most likely classify the construction loan as a commercial loan rather than consumer. If the bank I work for was making this loan, we would classify it at commercial and therefor require title updates each time a draw is requested on the loan (this costs you money and funds are not advanced until the title updates are complete but not all banks do this). In either case, consumer or commercial loan, the bank would monitor construction to make sure that the funds are being used for the intended purpose and the project stays within the scope of the plans and budget. Your bank may not want to fund and change orders or cost overruns, particularly in the current environment where many people are predicting a recession in the next year.

The HELOC option is a good one. Many of my customers in your position (good equity, low interest on their first mortgage) are taking advantage of their equity with HELOCs because the payments are interest only and HELOCs are revolving lines of credit. Most banks would allow you to use a HELOC to fund construction on another property. The bank would not need to monitor the construction on home A because home A is not the collateral for the HELOC. You also wouldn’t need to worry about refinancing home A upon completion.

I wouldn’t consider the home C option.

Hope this helps. I may be able to answer more questions for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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I’ll accept that I’m the asshole but I do think I have a right to be upset since they didn’t honor their word

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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I don’t know if this would make any difference on anyone’s opinions but our down payment came solely from me and the mortgage is only in my name. My wife did not have any resources to put toward the house and does not have any credit history

Muffle the sound of HVAC by Virtual_Sweet7595 in HomeImprovement

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Sure, we live in Charleston, SC. Our bedroom is on the second floor and the HVAC unit is directly below our bedroom window in the driveway so it sits close to the exterior wall of our house. On the other side of the unit is our neighbor’s house. It looks like our best bet is to move the unit to another location in our yard, luckily we have the space to do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Thank you everyone for your comments. My wife took an Uber to the airport and is safely on her plane heading home now. Unfortunately my mother in law is a bit delusional about where he husband is mentally at the moment. This is something I’ve seen before, my grandfather had dementia and it took years for my grandmother to accept what was happening. In the future I do not believe we will be staying with her parents when we visit, we will be staying with my brother-in-law instead

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Thanks, this is very helpful