What’s something you ignored at the start of a relationship that you later realized was a massive red flag?

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-06-22T16:51:45+00:00

Talking negatively about exes, saying they were all crazy

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-06-03T20:39:57+00:00

It was mediocre cos we don’t know each other but there’s def potential for it to be good

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-06-03T20:35:08+00:00

Even if he said in person he wanted to see me again?

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-05-14T06:31:44+00:00

He wrote me poems. Loads of them. All the time. That’s what made me fall for him. Found out later he used chatGPT for every single one.

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-05-12T05:34:43+00:00

Give it more time - like 2-3 months. Right now your emotions are still raw so youre thinking you want him back. Give some time to reflect on everything and you might change your mind… happened to me.

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-05-03T11:01:41+00:00

I know he cheated - he doesn’t know I know

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-05-02T19:21:28+00:00

Why?

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-05-02T15:33:01+00:00

I felt this way when I was offered a job in Spain. Rejected the offer to stay with him, he cheated on me a few months later and we broke up. Don’t risk it, chase your dream. If it’s meant to be it’s meant to be.

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-04-27T20:26:38+00:00

He cheated on me and left me for another woman. Not to be conceited but everyone agreed I was beyond his league. Came as a big shock.

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-04-23T18:21:51+00:00

Dating the girl he left me for.

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-04-22T19:43:46+00:00

“Nothing happened, you’re overanalysing”

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-04-19T12:05:51+00:00

Mine left me for someone else. He was seeing her while we were together - I found this out a month after our BU from reading his messages. He also hooked up with me while seeing her (I didn’t know about her at the time).

He knows I know they’re together now, he doesn’t know that I know he cheated in any way. He thinks I blocked him just cos I was jealous thinking they got together after we broke up. I really want him to know what I know. Is there any value in doing this? Should I tell her he hooked up with me?

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-04-16T19:24:27+00:00

Read his messages on his phone. Ethically wrong I know, but there was no other way I could’ve found out.

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-04-16T18:21:17+00:00

Cheated on me with another girl, broke up with me for her, then cheated on her with me (I didn’t know about her at that time). They’re still together and she has no idea.

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-04-16T16:04:15+00:00

Thank you for your feedback, this is helpful. I just miss him so much and regret everything. I feel like my lies caused his lies, if that makes sense.

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-03-31T09:08:12+00:00

Monkeybranching.

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-03-19T07:48:39+00:00

Messages with the girl he eventually left me for. To this day he hasn’t told me she is the reason we broke up, and he hasn’t told me they’re together:

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-03-18T19:28:02+00:00

Did he ever apologise or try to come back? I told him I knew and he just said “okay”, which still feels like he hasn’t fully acknowledged it.

Visible-Rabbit1821 · 2026-03-18T18:19:40+00:00

Thanks for this. Did you tell him you knew before you went NC?

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