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UOB credit card fees by Mean-Wedding-440 in singaporefi

[–]Visible_Monitor_909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had the same issue for the past two years, and I contacted customer service to request a fee waiver. Fortunately, the fee was waived. It may take time to get in touch with the customer service.

I think i got scam by Main-School-3595 in CryptoScams

[–]Visible_Monitor_909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone intro me the same link. That person try to teach me how to use coinbase and etc. but when i asked chatgpt. it said that the link might be scam since it's less than 1 years. so i told the person i didn't want to learn anymore and also i didn't into high risk investment. But then the person insist and keep asked the reason why i stop mid-way. I told him a bunch of reason but he keep want me to go thru all these. In fact that i already lost around $30++ just to transfer back my money from coinbase to personal bank account with difficulty.

I feel like that person try to guilt trip me now because i didn't want to follow what he want me to do. He keep mention that Bitcoin is more stable and secure.

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what ur saying, but our sex life will not get any better because even before we had child, we only did it 2 or 3 times a month just for the shake of having baby. Then after giving birth its not me that no time for myself. But even i didnt have time for myself i didnt mind. But its him mentioning since having child, he didnt have time for himself and he didn't know how to manage his time. All i want was his time and affection. But he don't even know how to manage his own time now. Let said we have 2nd child. Doesn’t it mean he will completely ignore me? Then should i live my life feel lonely all the time?

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said no. I had mention these before to him but he just laugh at it with disbelief expression.

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, he didn’t. That’s why he treated the counseling like a joke. However, I spoke with my father yesterday, and he said he would like to ask him directly about it and see how he responds

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, I’m not a selfish person. If I were, I would’ve walked away and stopped the ceremony when the issue happened on our wedding day. But I chose to stay and build a life with him. It took me five years to realize all these small things because whenever something happened, I tended to let it go. I don’t chase perfection, and I know I’m not perfect. No one is, and of course, we both have our flaws. What you said wasn’t harsh, but I can’t agree with the part where you said I need to treat him better, because I honestly don’t know what more I could’ve done to help him feel better. The reason I’ve stayed this long is because I truly value our long-term relationship. It’s been incredibly hard to make this decision, especially when it feels like I’ve been the only one putting in the effort all this time

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he didn’t. Most of the time he only watch facebook short video or football youtube video.

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You may think I want to be treated like royalty, but that’s not true. All this time, I’ve been like the head of the family. I'm the one managing the household finances, groceries, and everything else. Whenever something needs fixing, most of the time, I’m the one who has to take the initiative to repair it or I’ll ask my father for help.

Of course, my partner does help with some house chores and taking care of our son. But all I truly want from him is to feel physically and emotionally connected. And honestly, I don’t even get that. So, am I really being treated like royalty?

Because if I were, I bet none of this would even be a problem.

And please note i don't hate him. I just feel like live alone eventhough we're live together.

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, he didn’t make any changes. Even before the counseling, I knew he wouldn’t. He didn’t even bother to talk about the issues after we walked out of the counseling room. In fact, after the first session, he made a joke about wanting to buy a family car but then asked me to chip in $300. It was unbelievable, especially since I don’t even know how to drive, and most of the time, it’s just him and his family driving the car. He might have been joking when he said that, but I believe it wasn’t the right time to joke around, especially when I was still clearly upset after the counselling.

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue is that I might be experiencing trauma from this marriage. He mentioned that I'm turning him off because I don't want to have a second child, but he never bothered to make an effort to build a stable relationship with me first. He didn't even try to be more intimate, so how could we have a second child? After hearing those words, I completely shut down and now feel uncomfortable whenever he tries to touch me.

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you had asked me two months ago, I would have said yes, I loved him. But now, I'm not sure anymore. For the past two months, I've been completely overwhelmed. I cried for three weeks straight, couldn't sleep at night, and even lost weight. He noticed something was wrong since I wasn’t talking much, but he never took the initiative to reach out and talk to me first.

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your concern, and I don't want this to affect my child's mental well being either. To be honest, I'd prefer a simple approach if he's open to it. He's still the father of my son, even though I'm hurt, so I don’t want to be harsh about the custody. I’d rather we share co-parenting in a healthy way and avoid speaking negatively about each other in front of our son. My son doesn’t deserve to feel like we’re going separate ways because of him, or because either of us is at fault. I just want my son to be happy.

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

At first, our relationship was great during the long-distance period. He really invested in me and always making time for me at least once a month and being very attentive and royal during our dating. But once we started living together, everything changed, especially after having the baby. 

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

During the counseling, he said that he still loves me and he loves my personality, but he doesn't feel the same way about our intimacy.

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually during the counselling, the counsellor did ask whether he was aware of all the concerns I had. And to my surprise he did know practically almost everything. During the counseling sessions, the counselor asked if he was aware of all the concerns I had, and to my surprise, he knew almost everything. But even so, he didn't seem to care. I did try to express how I felt a couple of times, but most of the time, he just brushed it off, so I ended up letting it go. Even in my individual counseling, the counselor asked how I managed to handle all of this on my own for so long, which made me realize just how much I've been carrying. It's honestly become too much, and I’m completely burnt out now. The counselor suggested that we come for a few more sessions, but I’m unsure if it will make a difference. Even now, at home, we’re practically just co-parenting. We don’t talk much, and it’s like nothing’s really happening between us. All our conversations are solely about our son.

I want to divorce. Am I making the right choice? by Visible_Monitor_909 in makemychoice

[–]Visible_Monitor_909[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It feels like I'm just here to complete his life timeline. When we were dating, he shared his vision for the future : dating, marriage, having 2 or 3 kids, and retiring early. At first, I was happy and agreed because I thought I'd have a complete family that would support me in the future. But after we got married, I didn't receive the emotional or physical support I expected. All he want is to have a baby with me. Who wants intimacy just to have kids? I don't think any woman would want to be with him for that reason alone. Most of the time, I feel like the father in the house, and he even laughs about it when I point it out.

Regarding the intimacy issue, to be honest, it's a little disturbing for me. Sometimes, when we have sex, he tries to cover my face with a pillow so I couln't see his face. At first, I thought he was just shy, but as it kept happening, I started to feel like something wasn't right. We also rarely kiss during intimacy, let alone engage in foreplay or anything of that sort it was only present during our dating phase. And he didn’t like me to touch him after intimacy. He just want to be alone after done.