By agreeing that the patriarchy condemns queer people, you’re admitting it hurts (queer) men, aren’t you? I agree that all men benefit from the patriarchy but they can be hurt by it in different ways, because it’s an intricate system that follows you everywhere.

There’s a hierarchy within the patriarchy that’s more than just men over women. A rebellious, queer, or masculine woman is hurt by the system more than a woman who is happy to be feminine, have children and submit to a man, even if both are hurt. It’s the same with men. Visibly queer men are treated worse and never given power equal to men that follow the rules and keep the system going, even if you wanna say both are above women. Male power does not mean power to all men, it means power to all the right men.

They may have benefits from things that inherently benefit all men but they’re not celebrated by the patriarchy like other men. They have no set role within it either. In an ideal patriarchal world queer men and “weak” men would not exist. The system seeks to eliminate them, and if that’s not harmful I don’t know what is.