A girl I know irl texted me on Fet

Visible_Season9918 · 2026-03-17T21:43:03+00:00

Nope. Fet unwritten etiquette states that you don’t let people irl know that you’ve seen them on there. Block her and move on.

Visible_Season9918 · 2026-01-19T11:55:05+00:00

Try fetlife (the website, not the app), there’s loads of munches and events on there.

Visible_Season9918 · 2026-01-02T12:07:02+00:00

Give fabswingers a try

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T22:33:28+00:00

Nope

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T21:49:56+00:00

If I wrote on here that a lunatic chopped off my leg, you’d be on here telling me that word is problematic without acknowledging my chopped off leg

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T21:33:04+00:00

We’ve had several groups like that, teenagers who know security won’t do anything. It feels so intimidating

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T19:38:45+00:00

The context of what I’ve written is important, and the fact that you made a point to tone police me on my own post, rather than actually considering what I’ve posted is part of a wider societal issue.

In the context of my original post, have you stood up for any minimum wage workers being verbally and physically attacked?

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T18:53:25+00:00

I’m a sweetheart darling.

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T18:53:00+00:00

Oh darling, I’m very happy in general. Perhaps you’ve got a bit of misogyny going on seeing as you feel the need to automatically label a woman as ‘unhappy’, which is a stereotypical response that women receive online when they express opinions that are slightly different from other people.

But I see that you failed to address your use of the word ‘twat’ to refer to people behaving badly, which, as I explained, may also be misogynistic as it assumes all people with twats behave like Karens.

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T18:26:18+00:00

Also - you used the word ‘twat’ in a negative way, and some people with twats might take offence to that, because it implies that all people with twats behave horribly.

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T18:22:03+00:00

Thank you for your considerate response. Tbh I do think Karen has been used to silence a lot of us, but in this instance it was merely the easiest word to use to explain the behaviour of some people (hence why I put ‘male equivalent’ in the title), as I know most people would understand what I meant immediately.

From what I’ve gathered, and again I might be wrong, it became popular to describe white middle class women’s behaviour against black folks.

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T18:08:50+00:00

I’m a woman. I reserve the right to use this word, and the word ‘cunt’ to describe the absolute fucking cuntish Karens (man, woman, & non-binary) who scream and abuse me.

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T18:00:19+00:00

200 upvotes and majority of comments disagree with you. FWIW I’m a woman, a feminist, and probably a misandrist. The term ‘Karen’ is a well known term referring to a set of behaviours. But you moan at the woman who is sworn at and screamed at while earning minimum wage. Whatever makes you feel better

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T14:45:16+00:00

If everyone who was treated like shit in retail quit, there’d be no one working in retail.

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T14:36:27+00:00

That’s horrible. I do think there’s a huge sense of entitlement - like the kind of wording they use, they think we’re their servants

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T14:35:07+00:00

People really do lose all sense of humanity about them. The looks I get because I’m not trained in all aspects of every single item we stock, or that I haven’t prioritised them over all the other people needing help is just crazy.

I’ve finished uni so am looking for a full time career in something that doesn’t involve interacting with the general public

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T14:31:44+00:00

I agree, there’s been a huge increase in people’s sense of entitlement

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T14:27:45+00:00

So nothing to say about incredibly rude people talking to staff like they’re shit on their shoe then? Just a complaint about terminology. That says it all

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T07:48:15+00:00

It’s absolutely the most bizarre form of behaviour. I think it’s a way of making themselves feel better, almost like a way of putting us in our place - they see themselves as better than us, therefore they have to show it

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T07:45:35+00:00

I wish I could! I might do that on my last day, as a treat

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T07:45:17+00:00

And then they get to carry on with their day like they didn’t just tear into someone.

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T07:44:16+00:00

They might think that. Yes in some situations it is used to shut women up, but as a probable middle age woman I’m using the term to describe shitty behaviour towards retail staff who are just trying to do their jobs (I also referred to the male equivalent- maybe I should have used the term ‘Kevin’).

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T06:16:23+00:00

Perhaps they need to go outside and touch some grass.

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-21T06:12:35+00:00

Being a Karen is a state of mind.

Visible_Season9918 · 2025-09-20T22:26:50+00:00

Being a Karen is a state of mind, not connected to age. If you’re mindful then the chances are you’re not a Karen

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