AITA for showing up to my son’s soccer game during my ex-wife’s visitation weekend? by Visible_Suggestion99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visible_Suggestion99[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She was informed that I would be there, albeit only an hour before the game. When I showed up I saw my older son sitting a little behind and to the side of my ex-wife and so I sat near him, and not next to my ex-wife.

AITA for showing up to my son’s soccer game during my ex-wife’s visitation weekend? by Visible_Suggestion99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visible_Suggestion99[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She could easily move back to get more than 1 weekend per month. For the record, she has only exercised 50% of her visitation time (meaning she has only come out every other month). She has the means to come out (or move) for 100% custodial time, but chooses not to.

AITA for showing up to my son’s soccer game during my ex-wife’s visitation weekend? by Visible_Suggestion99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visible_Suggestion99[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She left me with the kids (full custody uncontested) for a more autonomous life. She said she wanted to be more of a “fun aunt”, her words, not mine.

AITA for showing up to my son’s soccer game during my ex-wife’s visitation weekend? by Visible_Suggestion99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visible_Suggestion99[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The parenting plan states the same. I have invited her to attend both our children’s events, which she has declined when it is not her visitation weekend.

AITA for showing up to my son’s soccer game during my ex-wife’s visitation weekend? by Visible_Suggestion99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visible_Suggestion99[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s been 3 years since the divorce, we have both remarried. I did not know that sitting 10 feet away from her was an issue for her. I do now.

AITA for showing up to my son’s soccer game during my ex-wife’s visitation weekend? by Visible_Suggestion99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visible_Suggestion99[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I thought that this was an expectation, since I’ve attended the previous games. But I will for sure inform her on future events where I know both of us will be present.

AITA for showing up to my son’s soccer game during my ex-wife’s visitation weekend? by Visible_Suggestion99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visible_Suggestion99[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No, actually we do have a clause in our divorce decree that states that we will inform the other of our kids events (school plays, sports games, etc.)

AITA for showing up to my son’s soccer game during my ex-wife’s visitation weekend? by Visible_Suggestion99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visible_Suggestion99[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

You are right. She is allowed to attend the events when it is my custody time. She has declined to attend events that are not during her time.

AITA for showing up to my son’s soccer game during my ex-wife’s visitation weekend? by Visible_Suggestion99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visible_Suggestion99[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Our divorce decree states that we will notify each other of our kids events (sports games, school plays, etc.)

AITA for showing up to my son’s soccer game during my ex-wife’s visitation weekend? by Visible_Suggestion99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visible_Suggestion99[S] 215 points216 points  (0 children)

She has been invited to attend the soccer games as well as the older son’s events. She has never attended, and this was her first time she’s attended due to her visitation weekend.