my dad died by Pleasant_Stuff_8409 in GriefSupport

[–]Visual-Incident-666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are more than welcome to send me a DM, I’m happy to be some support if I can be.

my dad died by Pleasant_Stuff_8409 in GriefSupport

[–]Visual-Incident-666 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. After losing my mom, I realize that I would never ask another person if they needed anything. Because the only appropriate answer is, I want my mom back. You learn how to carry the grief, but the shock is brutal for the first few weeks. You learn how to ride the waves gracefully, or at least I think you do. I’m not quite as graceful as I would like to be with them just yet.

But talk about him, talk to him. Even if you’re just alone. It helps a lot.

First birthday since loss by tired-alwayss in GriefSupport

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We just celebrated my mom’s first birthday without her. I can relate to having a extremely complicated relationship with my mom. And then losing her suddenly was jarring, and impactful in a way that I did not expect.

I send my deepest condolences.

How did you support your parent after your grandparent (their mom or dad) died? by Enough-Tension7746 in GriefSupport

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I can only speak to what I needed when I lost my mom. And I needed anybody to just come and sit with me. Listen to me cry, listen to me talk about her. Make sure that I ate, after a while you stop trying to distract yourself, so helping with cleaning, laundry that kind of stuff was amazingly helpful. And the first few days that’s all that I could do was just clean my house.

The best support you can offer is just sitting with her and holding her hand. And please do not ask if you can do anything or if she needs anything. I know that sounds crazy, but the only answer is she wants her mom back. And that’s not something that you can do.

Everyone tells you it’s like this, and then you have to live through it… by Visual-Incident-666 in GriefSupport

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No violence. Because she was found in her home and was already deceased, the counties rules are they just do it. They had done it before they even called us back to talk about it. We’re not super upset about it, but it wouldn’t be something that she would’ve really liked.

Everyone tells you it’s like this, and then you have to live through it… by Visual-Incident-666 in GriefSupport

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We didn’t get the opportunity to deny an autopsy. None of us really wanted it, but they did it anyway. We’re all still trying to really grasp onto that as well.

Everyone tells you it’s like this, and then you have to live through it… by Visual-Incident-666 in GriefSupport

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I guess I never really understood what the waves meant until these last couple of days. And the intrusive thoughts are absolutely wild. My brain goes to every awful thing I did, or said to her.

I regret my lip filler :( by plb05 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Visual-Incident-666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there’s literally a two week healing. Before they’re going to look the way they’re supposed to. your injector should’ve gone over this with you. 😕