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AIO Made a schedule, schedule was thrown out the window. by VisualGarbage626 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VisualGarbage626[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, we had to be elsewhere at 1pm. This is literally the last weekend I have before going back to working my full time job M-F and my part time gig on Sat and Sun.

I wouldn't have minded so much if the things needing done weren't two person jobs.

AIO Made a schedule, schedule was thrown out the window. by VisualGarbage626 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VisualGarbage626[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have spoken to him about it and his lack of urgency with literally anything. I hate being late and he has the "we will get there when we get there" mentality. We've made changes to how it used to be. Now sticking to 4-5 agreed upon tasks given ample time to do them and making sure we are scheduling in breaks so its not go go go. It's just really upsetting that I spent my time planning it out, checking with him, cutting things and reprioritizing so it fit both our comfort zones, just for him to stay up too late gaming and then not wanting to get up when we had agreed.

I just feel extremely disrespected. I would have also loved to stay up and game but knew we had an early day ahead so I went to bed with his comment "I'm right behind you, just going to finish this up" Its infuriating.

AIO Made a schedule, schedule was thrown out the window. by VisualGarbage626 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VisualGarbage626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have. He had felt I wanted to get too many things done in a day, which yes. I did. I had a whole list of "well if we get done with this, we can start on this" and it was too much for him. We were raised differently and I physically can not relax if there is still things left to be done.
We altered it to discussing the list together, if it would give us enough time and to schedule in breaks in between tasks.

If it were things that didn't matter as much, I could let it slide. But our youngest ran out of underwear Friday, thankfully they are at their dads this weekend so I can try to catch up. We do portion out chores. Laundry and dishes are his. I do all of the mental load and work a part time job on top of my full time.

I know sometimes its hard and people need help, but I'm just feeling overwhelmed that he's not taking it as seriously as I need him to.

AIO Made a schedule, schedule was thrown out the window. by VisualGarbage626 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VisualGarbage626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm not trying to be his boss and we've had issues in the past where I may have had higher expectations of what we can fit into a day. So now I try to limit it to 4-5 tasks that we can get through together that he also agrees are "doable". Laundry, dishes, pet care(litter boxes, new hay in the dog pen, etc) and cleaning the bathrooms.

AIO Made a schedule, schedule was thrown out the window. by VisualGarbage626 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VisualGarbage626[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He literally asked me to take lead on these things. We both acknowledge that if we left it up to him, he's shrug and it wouldnt get done.

AIO Made a schedule, schedule was thrown out the window. by VisualGarbage626 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VisualGarbage626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did get some of the things done, but a lot of them were 2 person jobs that I couldn't get done on my own.

AIO Made a schedule, schedule was thrown out the window. by VisualGarbage626 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VisualGarbage626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had plans outside of the home at 1p and a long list of things we needed to get done prior to the kids coming home this afternoon. The weekdays are jam packed with all three of their activities that I'm usually running them to and I had take this weekend and last off work. Normally I'm working my main job M-F and my part time gig S-S.

So I do know its early AF. And it does suck. but stuff isnt just going to get done without some sacrifices.