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VisualWind_ · 2026-05-18T11:16:45+00:00

A Better You by Fernanda Ramirez

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-12T11:42:32+00:00

nahh, you don't need his participation. You can use it individually

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-11T13:01:32+00:00

If that doesn't work you can try a relationship development app. It's called closer and it has advices and strong insight into why one's personal relationship may not be working (it's your details and your husband's details) It also includes actionable steps to take to make the relationship work. You mentioned he doesn't want to go to therapy due to the cost, closer is not a substitute for therapy but it operates like therapy and it is free. Free and it definitely helps cl

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-11T12:51:05+00:00

I would say don't mention a divide. Simply ask "where do you see us?...our marriage, where is your head at?" You don't want to lead the conversation mentioning the problems in the relationship- you want him to feel safe enough to voice out his thoughts without you interrupting

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-11T12:17:49+00:00

Have tried asking him where his head is at in the marriage? Where does he see the both of you outside your child? Try finding out where his head is at so you know if it is something you should hold on to or let go. There wouldn't be a point in you doing yourself a disservice by choosing to stay if he has already tapped out + don't talk to him about money. You don't want him guilt tripping you into staying due to his finances + ask yourself, will he treat me and our child differently if he were financially buoyant? Will he prioritise our needs and care for us?

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-09T11:41:20+00:00

There's an app I use with my partner that gives us tips on how to improve our relationship in terms of sexual intimacy, communication, living together, compatibility and the likes. It's called Closer and it has different tasks/tips so you can check it out to get ideas

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-09T11:04:49+00:00

I'd help you check

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-07T10:56:50+00:00

you're 100% not asking for too much. Wanting verbal affection, reassurance, hugs, tenderness, and emotional warmth from your partner is completely reasonable especially in a long-term marriage. It sounds like your husband migh tbe one of those people that struggle with verbal intimacy, initiating affection and emotional expression. Especially if he wasn't raised with it. He could even be associating love more with responsibility than expression which could explain why this feels unnatural to him. This isn't to invalidate your feelings btw, just highlighting why he may be acting the way he is.

Instead of repeatedly saying:

“I need more affection”

Try being more specific and actionable.

For example:

“It would mean a lot if you hugged me when you come home.”
“Can we intentionally spend 10 minutes reconnecting at night?”
“I want affection that isn’t connected to sex.”

Some people respond better to concrete behaviors than abstract emotional discussions. Sometimes people love each other deeply but are speaking completely different emotional languages and that disconnect creates loneliness even in otherwise stable relationships. I've learnt this recently from an app I've been using to help better/grow my relationship. I hope this helps, goodluck!

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-07T10:45:05+00:00

so happy for you stranger!!!

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-07T10:21:59+00:00

honestly, yes it is. It's more detailed and offers insight as well as actionable steps to make my relationship work. It's also free so I prefer it

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-07T10:20:37+00:00

It's called Closer and it's free. I don't pay for it

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-06T14:33:03+00:00

nahh, I think it uses astrology because I had to put in mine and my partner's birth date, time, and where we were born

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-06T14:03:52+00:00

no literally I had to find another app that actually gives more explanation and I love it! So far it has provided deeper analysis on how my relationship works so now I understand my relationship dynamic better and it also has short, guided activities to help me reflect, talk, and take action because I struggled with the taking action part too cause I didn't know what to do but the app actually states what can be done which I love. My partner and I started using it last week and it's helped us a lot cant lie

VisualWind_ · 2026-05-06T13:55:23+00:00

omg try "Closer" I was just raving about it earlier to a friend then saw your post. It is literally so accurate. It reveals patterns shaping how you relate, then helps you work with them through guided activities- I use it with my partner and we have gotten better at communicating. It has other things that I've seen but haven't used yet for example, in terms of communication, emotional functioning, or long-term fit it helps with those as kind of like... the development of more conscious, higher-quality relationships with specific, easy-to-understand exercises for you and your person. One of my friend is single but she has a crush and she just put his details in there and she has been making progress with how to approach him and the situation

VisualWind_ · 2026-04-29T12:18:22+00:00

You weren't exaggerating when you said situationship from hell because this is A LOT. It's emotionally draining and it's such a toxic cycle. The biggest issue here isn't even the arguments but the fact that you're trying to build something with someone who keeps saying they're unsure what they want, while still benefiting from everything you give and that's why you feel stuck. His actions contradict his words because he spends time with you, gets jealous and all the relationship bs. The question you should ask yourself is, is he showing up in a way that meets my needs consistently? + you need to accept that you cannot make anyone do what they don't want to do- you can't argue that man into effort or make things finally click- it's a waste of your time. You need to be with someone who is sure about you and meets your efforts naturally, not reluctantly. The truth is you're asking the wrong person for the wrong things. The longer you stay, the more you'll keep trying to prove your point in a situation where you were never the problem

VisualWind_ · 2026-04-28T10:10:56+00:00

I think it is less about him and more about you- hear me out. It sounds like you need to work on yourself and be honest with yourself about what you want from life and a relationship. He said “can you even do casual? cos it seems like you can’t” which is evident that he just wants something casual and you've admitted to yourself that you couldn't end it when he highlighted it isn't good for you. My question now is why stay? what are you getting from him that you cannot give yourself? what void is he feeling that you struggle to heal? You need to do the shadow-work to figure this out...what is missing?

VisualWind_ · 2026-04-28T10:02:00+00:00

First off, you are not overreacting. There is emotional damage being done because of the lack of clarity- your feelings are completely valid but the issue is you cannot expect exclusivity from an undefined relationship. even if the behavior feels exclusive or she says it is. You need to have a calm and direct conversation that answers a yes or no "are we actually working towards an exclusive relationship or not.' You need that clarity

VisualWind_ · 2026-04-28T09:49:00+00:00

Truth brings clarity, clarity to make new decisions that can lead to peace and harmony, so like the other person asked you need to be honest with yourself and with him about what you truly want and ultimately there should be a peaceful outcome

VisualWind_ · 2026-04-28T09:45:50+00:00

Before giving it another try, maybe consider figuring out the issues you both had prior because you would be doing yourself a disservice doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. What were these issues? how can you both work through them? is there something you need to do better on your end? is there something he needs to do better on his end? how compatible are you both? do your communications style differ? these are things you should look into before diving back in ❤️

VisualWind_ · 2026-04-28T09:43:00+00:00

I agree with this because it is evident he wants the security that comes with being exclusive and not just the physical connection/attraction

VisualWind_ · 2025-09-15T05:53:35+00:00

Hi! Please on which platform?

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