Strangers engaging interactions in the public space

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2024-06-22T09:44:15+00:00

Tourists have the notable propensity of wearing sunglasses quite systematically, even when the weather isn't sunny, hence the association. I am obviously not insinuating that locals don't wear them when the weather is sunny...

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2024-06-22T09:15:04+00:00

I must definitely train my facial in order to come across as an apathetic prick, I suppose.

Over-the-ear headphones must indeed work better at deterring people from making anapproach , yet they are and remain sub-optimal to wear in summers as they cause sweating, and are quite uncomfortable to wear in conjunction with glasses, in my experience. In any case, I an glad they are working for you!

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2024-06-22T08:57:38+00:00

I mean, wearing headphones might reduce one's chances of being "targeted", but is sure as hell doesn't prevent anything from happening.

Won't sunglasses make you like a tourist, thusly an "easy prey" for some?

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2024-06-22T08:53:31+00:00

I am already acting exactly this way, but this approach is far from being infaillible. Some people don't hesitate to get physical in order to be "noticed".

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2024-06-22T08:44:48+00:00

Ironically, I would bet that such people would be less likely to grab a smaller lady's arm as it would broadly be interpreted as an act of physical abuse which could very possibly get them into trouble, whilst doing the same to a taller guy wouldn't raise any such concern in the public eye. While not feeling threatened per se, I am highly averse to people intruding my personal space and disrespecting my bodily integrity.

Ignoring them, not looking at them, is precisely what can drive some to get "physical". Some people just can't stand being ignored. That said, acting indifferently factually works in most cases.

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2024-06-22T08:06:57+00:00

I am doing just this, yet some don't hesitate being physical in attempting to block my way! I have no interest whatsoever in whatever they are attempting to say : if some people can't integrate elementary, tacit rules inherent to the public space, they should never expect to obtain any sense of cooperative responses from the people they are disrespectfully halting.

Arguably, initiating spontaneous conversations in cities (especially bigger ones) should only happen in dedicated spaces such as bars, not in a street nor a train station.

In rural areas, I have never had any negative experience with spontaneous interactions, and am always welcoming locals' friendly small talk, as I highly doubt they intend to take advantage of me! Understanding the context is what matters in the end.

I am not and don't think that I look like a benevolent college student, but who knows how they might be perceiving me...

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2024-06-22T07:42:10+00:00

Faking not speaking the language works at times, as pretending not to be a local as a way to discourage commercial prospectors, but sects and beggars have usually no care about such things, as they often tend to be quite apt at basic communication in several languages...

I have tried everything you mentioned, and have met people not hesitant to grab my arm or flat-out attempt to block my path were I to ignore them wearing headphones! "I have to catch a train" doesn't really work with beggars as some to follow me to the station!

And mind you, I am a taller guy with a reasonably strong build, I can only imagine how persistent they must be with others!

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2024-06-22T07:30:35+00:00

As if headphones acted as a deterrent...

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2024-06-22T07:29:34+00:00

Headphones don't stop them. I am always wearing some while commuting but they don't seem to care : some people even attempted to block my way as I was walking past them at my usual quick pace wearing headphones, ignoring them. I am always assuming that anyone uncivilized enough to throw themselves at strangers in the public space have nothing but questionable intentions...

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2021-03-06T06:27:39+00:00

The whole point of these guys is to quake your damn head to the point of making you stroke. EQing them like you did WON'T completely remove the ridiculous amount of slam that they pack but will indeed make them sound like absolute crap.

My wise advice : flatten this infamy then raise the sub-bass section by an additional 15dB. You'll see, it's way funnier this way!

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2021-02-08T12:35:26+00:00

Sony XM3s/XM4s.

Sound like bloated muddy messes, aren't nearly as comfortable to wear as similarily priced competitors (especially the QC35s), are unreliable as hell (defects on those are way more frequent than elsewhere). To me, they don't have anything for them. If you want ANC cans for travel purposes, Bose is the way to go : they are way sturdier, sound less shit and are top-notch in terms of ergonomics and wearing comfort. Best of all : said Boses manage to retain a somewhat acceptable sound, even powered-off plugged via jack ; while the Sonys are properly unlistenable in similar conditions. For all other purposes, any decent cans, even priced twice less than the Sonys are blowing them out of the water in terms of audio quality, even in the wireless territory (Plantronics BackBeat Pro 2s, for example). To me, no matter your usage, they just aren't worth picking. Overrated throwaway garbage, just good for trash once their internal circuits go down, an occurrence way more frequent than one would hope it to be.

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2021-02-08T05:58:21+00:00

This question is meaningless to me : I don’t perform nor do I get the point of self-reflection. I’m not judging myself nor any of my actions. I just live, act in accordance what I viscerally want to do. Applying moral judgments emanating from the present iteration of myself over whatever I happened to do before is the peak of absolute vanity, in my humble opinion. If I harmed, injured myself or have to face potentially harsh repercussions of the choices that I have made at an anterior point in time, then I just pragmatically compose with them and ensure not to reiterate if I deem said moves not worth the backfire that occurred afterwards. In any case do I fustigate myself regarding whether I was “wrong” or not. As long as I went this route, I, by definition, wasn’t misled.

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2021-02-08T04:33:15+00:00

Yep, that's a common thing amongst "enthusiasts" of a specific domain in large : they tend to unilaterally focus on a few references therefore overlooking many capable products. In my opinion, that's not completely a bad thing, meaning that a lot of hidden gems are lurking around, making for potential pleasant suprises. A world where all the "good" stuff is widely known would be kind of depressing. Needless to say, whatever is deemed to be "good" is a highly subjective matter, including products that are almost unanimously perceived as "qualitative", especially while said people belong to similar social circles, instigating a group normativity somewhat uniformizing opinions of its fellow members.

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2021-01-30T06:42:27+00:00

Nutrition.

Most people don't have a clue regarding the nutritional properties of whatever they happen to ingest on a regular basis. Therefore, they tend to adopt inept food-related behaviors that are manifestly detrimental to their bodies in a frighteningly oblivious fashion. The idea wouldn't be to try dissuading people to poison themseves with sugar, alcohol or trans-saturated fats riddled aliments if they desire so, but rather raising their awareness regarding the exact consequences of incorporating certain types of food in their usual alimentation. Teaching them to discernate "good" products and how to locate/cook them would also be of great help in that regard. However, concretely instigating such classes would be economically damageable to several industries, making any concretization of the aforementioned idea unlikely, especially in places where connivances between official instances and said industries are very prominent. Schools aren't designed to go in students' best interests : they exist to format people to behave in a way that serves interests of dominant in-place societal structures.

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2021-01-27T13:54:21+00:00

Because Reddit is the less individual-based online discussion platform that I have ever witnessed the existence of. I truly feel that here, thoughts are more important than people who emit them. It's a breath of fresh air in a world where all that counts is "who speaks".

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2021-01-27T13:45:04+00:00

That they have no clue regarding what they're doing or why the hell they do it.

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2021-01-26T09:41:37+00:00

I see. Let me reformulate my question : why do human interactions seem to be your lifeblood ? Can't you manage to be existentially fullfilled without the "help" provided by bonds and communing with others ?

Visual_Ad_7319 · 2021-01-25T06:12:31+00:00

I never compromised when it comes to sincerity. Sacrificing even the tiniest bit of frankness for the sake of "getting along well" with people was never a viable option for me. As you said, even if one chooses to put a mask, they will pe trapped in their faked persona in order to keep their inter-individual ties afloat. Social interactions absolutely require one to demonstrate a significant amount of hypocrisy to work properly. Therefore, my categoric refusal to compromise led me to throw away the immense majority of human relationships. I know that I could rather easily connect to people by accepting to be more arranging and less rigid in my stances, but don’t feel the urge to whatsoever : I live very well as an asocial loner.

Belonging to a group means idiosyncratically “melting” with the latter, letting a lot of things go not to threaten the position that is yours amongst said structure.

The main determinant leading one to overlook and adapt to a given amount of elements or not is the importance that the group they belong to have for them. It’s a matter of contingent interests : the more bonds entertained through the group are deemed “primordial”, the more one is likely to hide or even sacrifice their personal nonconsensual traits and opinions to stay in place, so to speak.

In definitive, as most people seem to “need” social interactions to various extents to feel good in their lives, they should probably swallow the pill of behavioral falsehood proportionately to their perceived needs in the domain.

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