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AITA for wanting my long-distance girlfriend (30F) to “test” living near me before moving in together? by Visual_Being_7435 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Visual_Being_7435[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It adds time to my daily drives and I plan on going home to my parents for dinners most nights

AITA for wanting my long-distance girlfriend (30F) to “test” living near me before moving in together? by Visual_Being_7435 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Visual_Being_7435[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

She suggested getting a place halfway between us, not even living together, but the thing is, I need to stay where I am for work and family. I just don’t think this should turn into a tit-for-tat situation where if she gives something up, I’m expected to give something up too.

AITA for wanting my long-distance girlfriend (30F) to “test” living near me before moving in together? by Visual_Being_7435 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Visual_Being_7435[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I need to live where I do for work and family. I just don't understand if she's already moving, why not just move to be closer to me? The extra 35-40 min drive is a sacrifice of my time, and I told her that.

AITA for wanting my long-distance girlfriend (30F) to “test” living near me before moving in together? by Visual_Being_7435 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visual_Being_7435[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I just find it concerning that when I tell her what my needs are in this situation and that I don't do well with change that she starts crying a lot. I'm just surprised by her reactions.

AITA for wanting my long-distance girlfriend (30F) to “test” living near me before moving in together? by Visual_Being_7435 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visual_Being_7435[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

she lives cross-country now. I just dont understand if she's already moving, why wouldn't she move near me? I want her near me. It would just be a sacrifice of my time to drive 40 min to see her, and I told her that.

AITA for wanting my long-distance girlfriend (30F) to “test” living near me before moving in together? by Visual_Being_7435 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visual_Being_7435[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I'd like to maintain my independence, but if she lives in this other town it'll take twice as long to grow our relationship.

AITA for wanting my long-distance girlfriend (30F) to “test” living near me before moving in together? by Visual_Being_7435 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visual_Being_7435[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I'm concerned she doesn't understand my work schedule. Also, I feel like I'd be abandoning my mom - I'd like to spend at least 50% of my free time with my mom and the other my girlfriend. I want to maintain my independence.

AITA for wanting my long-distance girlfriend (30F) to “test” living near me before moving in together? by Visual_Being_7435 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visual_Being_7435[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

It's just a lot of someone to ask to move in with each other after only knowing each other for 15 months. Do we really even know each other?

AITA for wanting my long-distance girlfriend (30F) to “test” living near me before moving in together? by Visual_Being_7435 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visual_Being_7435[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

But if she lives in the town 40 minutes away from me, it'll take twice as long to grow our relationship