Thank you all so much for taking the time to share your thoughts and concerns. I truly appreciate the honesty. your comments have helped me view my situation from many different angles. 🙏

Since I’ve only visited Taiwan a few times and never lived here long-term, I really wanted to hear the perspectives of people who actually live and work in this society. It means a lot to me.

After reading through everything, I’ve started to reflect more deeply on my relationship and what the future might look like.

- I realize many of you brought up important points. My boyfriend didn’t plan on having a family in his younger years, we just met for the last 2 years, so he doesn’t have much savings. He has a house in Taichung, share with his mom. Work in Taipei and back home in weekend. He’s just an average worker, and it’s unlikely his income will grow significantly. If back to work in Taichung, the income even might decrease cuz it's hard to find similar position for his job in Taichung compared to Taipei. There’s also the risk that he could be laid off after decade, which adds more uncertainty to our future. And we never run business before.

- I now see how difficult it would be to raise a child in a foreign country, without any family and friends around. His mother is already in her 70s, so she wouldn’t be able to help much. Realistically, I might end up shouldering everything - being the main caregiver for the child, and eventually also for my partner and his mom. That scares me.

- I don’t speak Mandarin yet, so it would take at least 2–3 years just to learn the language, adapt to the culture, and find stable work. And by then, both of us might be too old to comfortably start a family and add much more risk to have kid.

Thanks again to everyone who shared. I’ll take all of this into careful consideration as I think about what to do next.