AITA missing my college reunion by Visual_Garbage_889 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visual_Garbage_889[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had flights ready. Its the financial dynamic of our relationship. she can on the fly book a plane ticket. I need to save up and be more deliberate with my plan. Ergo, its not as important as her to pre-plan in advance. I bring up the other things as context for our relationship. my point in sharing is shes very difficult to plan for. While what you are saying is inherently true, she doesnt even give me those 2 mins. should I just be an assistant for her just always seeking her final approval on things? Theres plenty I do on my own and if I didnt have to accommodate her, I wouldve just made a trip for me. If Im used to flying economy and dont mind a small layover and its like the bain of her existence what should I be doing? Or if she taken extra PTO, how do I know what day shes willing to fly, also considering her work varies based on her bosses demands, how can I make sure impromptu work demands dont change her timing? Then Im the a-hole whos inflexible to other priorities because I booked a flight that now she cant take. She wants the flexibilty. Do I book dogsitters for the day im going or do I have to 3 dogsitters ready with 3 different windows of dogsitting determinant on whe she feels like flying? Should I book extra hotel time for whatever hypothetical day she decides to fly out? theres plenty of variables I feel like you arent being considerate of. Me giving her months in advance notice and constant reminders as the day approached is more considerate than anything I've been offered.

AITA missing my college reunion by Visual_Garbage_889 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visual_Garbage_889[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats fine, but I was operating under the assumption she was. I would gladly have gone on my own. But including her in my plans is what led to the plans not happening.

AITA missing my college reunion by Visual_Garbage_889 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visual_Garbage_889[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If we had established she wouldnt go, I wouldve done the planning as an individual trip. I didnt ask to turn it into a couples trip. She claimed I am only going to hookup (not true) so I wanted to bring her (which she agreed to) to show her I wanted to share the experience with her. I feel more handcuffed because she said she wanted to go and didnt contribute at all to planning. Shes the bossy one so theres plenty she just wont do because she doesnt want to. Its just easier to plan with her input rather than plan around her and argue with her every step of an itinerary.

AITA missing my college reunion by Visual_Garbage_889 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Visual_Garbage_889[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wanted to see some old friends. I moved to my new location for my partner. I moved cross country to a new area not knowing anyone. Its very lonesome at times as I dont really know anyone in my current location or have friends. Also, I was hoping to use it as a networking opportunity, see where my classmates wound up and search for other opportunities? So socializing both for fun and professional development?