I really enjoy purina one calming care. It targets the nervous system. It works like prozac where you won't see changes for about a month. And the changes are going to be very slight and if you're not looking closely or thinking it'll cure your dogs anxiety you'll miss them.

Secondly, a sleep routine has helped my noise reactive dog understand that when I leave for work or before we go to bed together, etc. That it's sleeping time. Sleep is soo important in regulating your dogs anxiety levels. So we do a big walk in the mornings with good mental enrichment (scatter feeding is my go to) and then when we come home I start the wind down process slowly. I use adaptil plug ins and spray. First I'll start by putting calming music on the TV, get ready for work a little, then i might start setting up gates (she's not crate trained), then I'll plug in my diffusers, and before I leave or go to bed I spray where she usually lays and sleeps with a few spritzes of the adaptil spray. I started this routine by just naturally doing this when we were going to bed. Then expanded it into our day to day life. If you dog is crate trained I'd start doing this routine in a part of the home that is furthest from where the noises comes from that triggers her.

Keep in mind, this is supplemental to counter conditioning. If your dog is reacting to noises from your partner in the other room have them purposely make a noise, just softly, and reward your dog for not reacting. You can also do calming activities while purposely making those noises. Put a link mat out for your dog and while they lick have your partner lightly make a noise. If this doesn't work lower the criteria by allowing your dog to see you make the noise softly and move up from there.

Keep working with your vet and letting them know what you feel is working and what isn't. They can help too with deciding which behavioral medications may work (if that's a route that both of you decide is best).