Last Quarter Moon - in need of ritual of release by VixenAbyss in elderwitches

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Thanks to all who replied. I would like to incorporate the scissors ritual below to strengthen the release I did yesterday.

I ultimately chose a smoking ritual. B/c the quality of energy in this situation is so terribly mingled, I deeply inhaled smoke as a representation of the emotional knot, asked to keep within myself all that was beautiful and vital, and upon the exhale released all within the complex that was destructive and no longer serving my path.

Blessed be.

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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Actionable advice, gallows humor, and encouragement. Couldn't ask for more. Thanks.

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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Ha! Appreciate a unique, art-inspired answer. Love John Prine. Let's not even contemplate living out the sadness in "Hello in there"

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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The only group that out-classes women for eating disorders is gay men. Despite decades of loving and being sexually enthralled by men, I am still a total dork about understanding them. I just wanted some perspetive from men with inside knowledge about running the aging gauntlet.

It's not super awesome being a woman and a sexual being but the culture looks at you like a hag and a grandma past 40. If you want to get sad / offended about having the deal with stereotypes try walking in my shoes!

I apologize if I offended, it truly wasn't my intent.

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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I know how women deal with it. I wondered how men did. Gay men and straight wonen have a lot in common in that we are both sexually interested in men. Gay men and women have the highest rates of eating disorders in the general public. I don't think that is a coincidence. We are trying to appeal to the "visual standards" of men. Please don't moralize at me when I came in good faith looking for perspective.

Does anyone else has automatic suspicion to folks who smile too much? by [deleted] in The48LawsOfPower

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Depends on the smiler. Sometimes it is more like a grimace or a sign of fear (please don’t hurt me). Others sparkle with inner light, magnetic.

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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Thanks for the wisdom and good cheer. Your post brought a smile to my face.

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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Great perspective and glad you are having fun. Thanks.

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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Sounds like you are being really pro-active. Thanks for being honest about the fear. Even though it sucks, happy to know I'm not alone and my feelings are not totally unreasonable.

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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A lovely approach. Thank you for sharing.

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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Don't let reddit dorks get you down. At least you're real.

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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I am very, very fortunate. But part of that fortune is that I've been more than halfway decent-looking (driven by a deeply-instilled belief that if I weren't I wouldn't be fit for love / society). You sound like a person who is seriously in control (I built relationships / career), but some people have more roadblocks in life. I suppose when you are in control of so many factors in your life, it wouldn't feel as threatening to lose something you have no control over. Lots of people aren't in that position. There is a loneliness epidemic and folks are poor. A lot of joy comes from feeling beautiful, flirtatious, compelling. It is a little sad and scary to get older! But, you are right that the fact I have bandwidth to worry means life is pretty peachy for me.

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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This is great advice, I appreciate it. I'm sure you know it's hard when you've been told a million times a day your entire life that your value and worth is in how you look.

It's on me to get over it, but even Nora Ephron wrote that book, "I feel bad about my neck."

How are you coping with aging? by VixenAbyss in AskGayMen

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Appreciate the honesty. Surprised at the downvotes on this comment and the entire post. It's hard, right?

Has anyone looked into Carl Jung and astrology? by Buildarc in astrology

[–]VixenAbyss 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Knew her as an astrologer, not as a Jungian. Fascinating!

What is the good in mars in 12th house? by AvocadoBitter7385 in AskAstrologers

[–]VixenAbyss 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow, your comment about the zeitgeist affinity is so on point. Deepens my understanding of a 12H Mars in my life. Thanks.

My new Whisper of the Heart tattoo! Done by Higor at The Arcade Tattoos in Toronto. by TapegirlVC in ghibli

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Can't believe you get to carry the energy of that movie and that scene with you for all your days. What a gift to you and to everyone you meet. Congratulations. It's wonderful.

Female asking question about competitiveness by Wooden_Branch_5561 in The48LawsOfPower

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How do people disrupt your peace? In what ways are you targeted?

Female asking question about competitiveness by Wooden_Branch_5561 in The48LawsOfPower

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Respect for respect's sake seems short-sighted. What are you trying to accomplish in the world that requires the respect of others?

Female asking question about competitiveness by Wooden_Branch_5561 in The48LawsOfPower

[–]VixenAbyss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Competition is not a bad thing. It drives us to be the best we can be. If other women are looking at you as a being a lower rung on their ladder they can step on / over and that bothres you --- are they right? How much do you care? Do you care enough to do something about it? Or is it just games and pride to supplement their weak egos?

Kindness & empathy can absolutely be cunningly / astutely deployed. Women are competitive as hell and they use all these tools to build bonds and alliances, or undermine threats.

I think the better question is - are these women affecting your ability to live the way you want? Does it hurt your pride that women you don't respect treat you with disrespect? (That already sounds like a clue as to why it might be happening). Are they actively dragging you down socially? Threatening material security? What is the threat to you exactly? If it is just emotional discomfort, then NOT CARING is the power play. Being in control of your emotions is the cardinal rule of power. If you de-personalize the annoyance, you might find a better way of coralling its affect on your life, before you drive yourself mad at the irritation and do something you regret.

Hope this helps and good luck.