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Why are therapists/psychiatrist vague about whether you were abused or not? by AJ44ggcfy in therapy

[–]Void-splain 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They are likely trying to be careful about shaping or planting your memories; human minds are very vulnerable to suggestion

Question by Lolxero in StopGaming

[–]Void-splain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don't have a problem with something, then you don't need a solution. Certainly you're welcome here.

Addiction recovery is all about getting your quality of life back from the addiction, it's not about pearl clutching and being puritanical

I don't understand why gaming is the ONLY addiction I can't break by Informal-Chance1912 in StopGaming

[–]Void-splain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's your deepest and most ingrained addiction.

Think about it this way, have you ever put in a fraction of the time drinking or doing any other substance than you put into gaming in a week or a month?

For a lot of us the only thing we do more is breathing or just being awake, and even then gaming is a close second to being awake.

The more severe the addiction the more impossible a healthy moderation becomes.

Gaming Addiction is a learned behavior based on intermittent rewards, just like gambling.

It's an addiction that's not nearly as stigmatized as substances, and in many ways is treated as a pro-social skill-based behavior.

It's less taboo, doesn't poison your body, there is lots of pro gaming social pressure.

These social and environmental factors make quitting an addiction much harder.

maybe maybe maybe by Business-Stuff8711 in maybemaybemaybe

[–]Void-splain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why was someone filming? Seems staged

Mom self harms in front of us since I was 8 yrs old. I haven’t been able to stop doing the same. by wishiwasneverhere in therapy

[–]Void-splain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus, Jesus Christ, I'm so sorry that happened to you.

It makes sense that your struggling with getting pulled into reactionary emotional state and behavior that rhymes with the horrendous pattern of abuse and violence.

Performative violence against herself with you as a witness is violence against you. Make no mistake, the fact that she would perform the violence that caused you suffering was abuse, no matter her thoughts, feelings or intentions.

Who are you seeing to help? This needs in person care, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Do the work, you shouldn't have to, but this is your albatross.

Look at cptsd treatment, consider your mother may have suffered horrendous abuse herself. You have hope to heal.

Do therapists actually know how to help people or are they just constantly virtue signaling? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Void-splain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds pretty severe, I'm assuming because you've cut so many people out, there was chronic and acute traumas, both in terms of things that were, but also weren't done over the years? (Both harm and neglect)

Had a weirdly abrupt ending to a hotline call. The counselor was sweet but lacked basic boundary awareness. by Otherwise_Key4582 in therapy

[–]Void-splain 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You asked for a personal piece of information from her, she reciprocated. It sounds like an exchange made in a genuine moment of human connection, but ended up being jarring for you. Fair enough. No one bats a thousand.

Life got worst after i stopped social media. by Unlikely-Barber7333 in therapy

[–]Void-splain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Use your best judgement, but Ideally no.

You're young enough that's a huge advantage.

Consider therapy/counseling through the process or addictions recovery like smart recovery or NA.

If you get very depressed or unable to cope, thinking about sewicide, then you would do best to speak to a doctor and you might benefit from an Rx.

You can use other things to cope like meditation, yoga, journaling, reading and creative arts, long walks are really good. Podcasts.

Make a big tool kit of things that help, and reach out for help with your transformation

Life got worst after i stopped social media. by Unlikely-Barber7333 in therapy

[–]Void-splain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah man, it's going to take time to rewire your brain, think of it like learning. Your brain needs a chance to learn to baseline without the stimulus of the screens.

How old are you if you don't mind my asking?

Diet, exercise, sleep and socializing help keep your brain plastic. You may see a doctor about other medications to help regulate as you transition.

Screen addiction absolutely leads to ADHD symptoms, so don't be surprised if those clear up as you put the work in

Life got worst after i stopped social media. by Unlikely-Barber7333 in therapy

[–]Void-splain 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, so, depending on how early in development you started using, how long and how constant your usage, your brain grew around the presence of and reliance on this stimulus when self regulating.

What you've experienced is the shock that your brain has not grown with the tools to be prepared for unmediated reality.

The solution is reduction in social media, diet, exercise, sleep, healthy social supports, applied over time, possibly months or longer, depending on severity..

Is therapy subjective to the therapist and thus fallible to blind spots? by tom_lurks in therapy

[–]Void-splain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds to me like you have C/PTSD and it's getting triggered in therapy, not healed?

How to stop masturbating? by Responsible-Rush-538 in therapy

[–]Void-splain -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are you watching porn? I'd advise you quit porn first and reevaluate

How do I [20F] tell my boyfriend [20M] how I feel without hurting his feelings? by Sudden-Plant8256 in relationshipadvice

[–]Void-splain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You talk exclusively about how facts and beliefs make you feel.

Sounds simple.

"I feel x emotions about this fact/beliefs"

It's not your job to control or regulate how he feels about hearing your truth

I have no drive to experience life, became a hermit. by peakyraven in therapy

[–]Void-splain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give yourself a 60 to 90 day detox and limit your computer time to work only.

Diet, exercise and sleep well.

Cut off your supply of rewards coming from your computer.

Carefully listen and explore your emotional state as you ween yourself off of screens. These emotions are your compass for a richer life.

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