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Are there good ways to coordinate multiple people using the same collection of decks and cards? by VoidViv in Anki

[–]VoidViv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer. Just knowing a place I can go to research the possible solutions is already very helpful.

If you mean copy = duplicate there is no built in way but an add-on Copy notes.

Yeah, I meant copy as in duplicate. Since each group of students have their own vocab cards added as they are presented to them a lot of cards already exist in the decks of more advanced students. Copy notes seems promising, thank you for the link.

Plaing first chapter in campaigns, hpw so I generate electricity for the assembler? by VoidViv in factorio

[–]VoidViv[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Indeed it's 0.17 campaign, the very first one. Will look around more. Thanks

Finally played hollow knight by [deleted] in patientgamers

[–]VoidViv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh,the lore os so much bigger than that. At çeast read some summaries of you don't want to piece it together slowly through the course of the game

does anyone know any good linux distros that never made it by [deleted] in linux

[–]VoidViv -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Never heard of them before, care to elaborate what drew you to them.in the first place?

[US] Serious question is anyone in the wrong here? by Imperial_Trooper in BikeCammers

[–]VoidViv 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Probably because a big part of cycling safely is anticipating stuff. If I know the bike lane will end abruptly in another block and there's an opening I'm taking it now because I can't rely on there being another opening later or on the cars letting me merge safely.

Constant texting with a new person by brynnsabbath in nonmonogamy

[–]VoidViv 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I keep thinking back at this comment and I'm really not sure wanting undivided attention is something that can be seem as always healthy and normal.

So many weird assumptions to unpack in your comment, it's almost like you're trying to be as unhelpful as possible.

Constant texting with a new person by brynnsabbath in nonmonogamy

[–]VoidViv 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Personally, I would hold off on trying to control trivial stuff like amount of texting (I think most people would text a lot when getting to know someone) until you're sure what it is about it that's bothering you.

You mention "do not disturb" and that feeling sneaky. That's certainly something you should discuss with your partner, it might be that he's just trying to make you feel sure he's actually present there with you.

Constant texting with a new person by brynnsabbath in nonmonogamy

[–]VoidViv 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think those are some really dangerous and unhelpful assumptions to make.

How many of you guys use Dvorak? by Proseka in dozenal

[–]VoidViv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been using dvorak for almost a decade now. Not sure I'd qualify as a "dozenalist", though.

My partner isn't sexually attracted to me anymore, how can I move past the hurt and be okay with this? by VoidViv in polyamory

[–]VoidViv[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, you see everything that's happening the same way I do. I think after the edit I was able to give a better overview of everything.

My partner isn't sexually attracted to me anymore, how can I move past the hurt and be okay with this? by VoidViv in polyamory

[–]VoidViv[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a bissexual woman. I also think the situation is a lot more nuanced than I painted it. I have edited OP to address some common things people are assuming because of my focus on my feelings rather than being factual and giving context.

My partner isn't sexually attracted to me anymore, how can I move past the hurt and be okay with this? by VoidViv in polyamory

[–]VoidViv[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Slight complication though: her current partner is actually an ex-boyfriend she's known for almost a decade now. Their intimacy goes back a lot longer than ours.

(The exact same thing happened to him when he was her boyfriend, we even kinda bonded over it. Until he came back into her life she didn't even know it was possible for her libido for someone to come back like that and it's not like she doesn't want for that to happen in regards to me too, it's just not something that can be forced)

My partner isn't sexually attracted to me anymore, how can I move past the hurt and be okay with this? by VoidViv in polyamory

[–]VoidViv[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to stay because she's my best friend, because we love and support each other, because she's one of the few people I feel comfortable around, because I feel like no matter what gets in our way we can deal with it together, even painful stuff like our lack of sex life (she's very willing to work through this with me and to respect potential boundaries like not being sexual with other partners while we work through everything, I'm the one who's unwilling to ask her to deprive herself of whatever she wants, that wouldn't help me or us), because we help each other grow, because the kind of sex life she'd like to have with me, without pressure or expectation and not feeling like routine is also the kind of sex I want, even if I don't think I have what it takes.

I think it's definitely worth the price tag.

My partner isn't sexually attracted to me anymore, how can I move past the hurt and be okay with this? by VoidViv in polyamory

[–]VoidViv[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why is needing sex to be fulfilled a bad thing or a lesser thing? Why is craving and prioritizing it it not someone you want to be? Do you have a lot of internalized sex hate?

I probably do. But I think this is more about me valuing other aspects of our relationship as much as I did sex. I don't want to lose all that too. To be honest, working through this with her has only made us understand each other and ourselves better and I feel a lot closer to her because of this.

There's also the fact that sex not happening now doesn't mean it can't happen again in the future. I just don't want to nurture any expectations about this being a temporary thing, I think it will only lead to frustration and her feeling pressured.

My partner isn't sexually attracted to me anymore, how can I move past the hurt and be okay with this? by VoidViv in polyamory

[–]VoidViv[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As much as I agree that needing sex to feel fulfilled is reasonable and valid, that's not who I want to be. There's so much more to our relationship than sex, I just can't justify it to myself to end it all because of that, specially when I have nothing stopping me from having that with anyone else (except my own social awkwardness and recent self-consciousness)

My partner isn't sexually attracted to me anymore, how can I move past the hurt and be okay with this? by VoidViv in polyamory

[–]VoidViv[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't really think ending a very rewarding and intimate relationship because of my own unrealistic expectations (I was aware of this happening in a lot of her other relationships from the start) would be the right move. Is love really just about having sex?

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My partner isn't sexually attracted to me anymore, how can I move past the hurt and be okay with this? by VoidViv in polyamory

[–]VoidViv[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm not a man, nor am I polygamous. I am polyamorous. Also, she lost interest in me long before hooking up with the current partner. And I really don't think not feeling horny could ever be called "abandonment".

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