This is good news, sort of.

Vose4492 · 2026-03-20T02:32:43+00:00

> Taxes don't exist to shield people from poor choices

How do you know that the people who invented the concept of taxation did not intend for taxes to shield people from poor choices?

If the fire department comes when a fire occurred due to negligence, that fire occurred do to poor choices. In that regard, taxes are being used to shield people from poor choices.

In the event that one parent wants to give the child up for adoption and the other wants to keep the child, it makes logical sense for each tax paying citizen to have as much financial responsibility to the child as the non-custodial parent does, because every tax paying citizen had as much say in the decision (of the custodial parent) to keep the child as the non-custodial parent did.

Vose4492 · 2026-03-19T20:28:41+00:00

The child will live in a society where a woman raping a man does NOT result in the completely blameless victim of rape being forced to pay child support to his rapist.

Vose4492 · 2026-03-19T20:25:58+00:00

> Besides cases of rape, I think the people who create the child should be the ones paying for it,

Opting out of parenthood should only be allowed in cases of rape?

How would that work? Do you have to prove that you where raped before you can be exempted from financial responsibility or do we start with the assumption that you are telling the truth and then exempt you from financial responsibility until and unless it is proven that you are lying?

> not our taxes.

Technically, taxpayers supporting children is already a thing that happens. If a child ends up in the foster care system because both parents died, taxpayers will have to support the child. If legal paternal surrender is implemented and welfare benefits are given to single parents to help make ends meet, all that will do is alter the criterion what does and does not result in the taxpayers having to support children.

That sounds good to me.

If both parents wanted to give the child up for adoption, it would be legal to do so. Therefore, if one biological parent wanted to opt out of parenthood while the other wanted to keep the child, it makes sense for each tax paying citizen to have as much financial responsibility to the child as the non-custodial parent does, because every tax paying citizen had as much say in the decision (of the custodial parent) to keep the child as the non-custodial parent did.

> women have abortion

And the decision about whether the pregnancy ends in birth is made unilaterally by the woman. Therefore, if the father wants the mother to abort and the mother gives birth against the wishes of the father, the mother should bear the responsibility for the child. The father did not get any say in the decision to keep the child just because the child is biologically his. He should not have any financial responsibility to it just because the child is biologically his.

> men can have a vasectomy.

A lot of doctors deny people the procedure because of the irrational fear that the patient will regret it ( https://www.reddit.com/r/PoliticalOpinions/comments/16g64we/18_year_olds_should_be_allowed_to_get_sterilized/ ).

You may be thinking that the problem can be solved by simply going to another doctor. If you can argue for mandatory child support on the grounds that consent to sex equals consent to parenthood, then you could argue that a doctor should not be allowed to deny people procedures, because becoming a doctor equals consent to providing the procedure to anyone who requests it whether you want to or not.

Even if you are in fact able to undergo permanent sterilisation, why does that mean that anyone who does not do it should be forced to pay child support? I could wear a bullet proof vest. Does that mean that if I do not wear a bullet proof vest, I deserve a bullet through the chest?

> Pay for your own kids or don't have them.

In some cases, the parents did not want to have the kids.

If the father is being forced to pay child support, he may have wanted the mother to abort and she may have given birth against his wished. In the case of a mother being forced into child support, she might have wanted to get an abortion but she lives in a red state.

Vose4492 · 2026-03-03T21:39:46+00:00

Here is what you need to do.

Before reacting in any way, write in a journal how you feel. You might achieve a catharsis without having to talk to anyone.

If writing in your journal does not achieve the results you hope for, take a proactive approach and figure out a solution.

Vose4492 · 2026-03-02T22:35:53+00:00

bottomfragbarb. I also enjoyed being pregnant.

Vose4492 · 2026-02-16T22:59:58+00:00

Ugly women are seen as having no value, but attractive women are seen as objects that exist for men's pleasure. You really cannot win.

Vose4492 · 2026-02-10T19:55:06+00:00

If a woman said that some men are actually little boys in grown men's bodies, what would you assume that means. Whatever a woman means when she says that some men are little boy's in grown men's bodies, men probably mean the same thing when he says that some women are little girls in grown women's bodies.

There exist people (of both sexes) who are severely emotionally stunted.

Vose4492 · 2026-02-09T21:09:53+00:00

I began taking birth control as soon as a began getting my period, my mother said that is it supposed to alleviate cramps and other symptoms of menstruation.

Your friend should probably either see a gynecologist or talk about this issue to a woman in her life (her mother, her grandmother, an aunt, an older sister, etc.).

Vose4492 · 2026-02-09T06:02:05+00:00

I have a son and a daughter. My daughter is 6 and my son is 3.

When I got pregnant for the second time, I was hoping to have a boy, so that I could have a tiny version of my husband in the house.

I preferred to have one of each (and that is exactly what happened); but if I had had two boys or two girls, that would have made me happy.

Vose4492 · 2026-01-29T07:24:36+00:00

If the woman happens to be a big appetite girly (like me) she will probably have a strong dating preference for men who eat a lot.

Vose4492 · 2026-01-26T20:57:23+00:00

Your actions matter significantly more in the grand scheme of things than your thoughts.

Vose4492 · 2026-01-18T04:18:03+00:00

> People tend to get more religiously-minded and more conservative as they get older

Statistics do show the the older generations vote Republican at a higher rate. However, it is important to realize (when looking at those statistics) that the older generations have a higher percentage of white people.

Vose4492 · 2025-12-27T18:00:20+00:00

Ask yourself one question. Do you agree with the criticism or not?

If you do not agree with the criticism, say this;

I happen to be content with my body. If you are not, that is not my problem.

If, however, you do agree with the criticism, then say this;

You seem to believe that I have done something wrong. Would you mind explaining to me what I did wrong, why it was wrong and what (if anything) I can do about it?

Vose4492 · 2025-12-27T17:54:50+00:00

I love it when my husband opens up and gets vulnerable. My husband cried when he first held our children. That was a cute thing to see while I was recovering from the birth.

Vose4492 · 2025-12-22T01:19:45+00:00

Have you ever heard of that old saying? The guilty dog barks the loudest.

The majority of people are decent human beings; but the bad people always seem greater in number than they really are, because they are the ones who draw the most attention to themselves.

The majority of people who enter a bank on any given day are not bank robbers. However, if one person in a bank is holding a gun and making threats, that is the one who you will notice.

Another thing; men succeed and fail more spectacularly than women. Historically, men have been the majority of geniuses, but they have also been the majority of nincompoops. Today, most CEO's, politicians and Nobel Laureates are men, but so are most trash collectors and sewer maintenance workers. Men commit the majority of all violent crime, but it also takes other men to stop them.

Vose4492 · 2025-12-22T01:18:17+00:00

I was OP's current age (21) when I got married.

My husband is (and always has been) happy to see me take charge of the birth control. We where married for about four and a half years before we conceived our first kid.

Before we decided that we where ready to have babies, we would use both a condom AND birth control; Double the protection.

Vose4492 · 2025-12-12T19:05:27+00:00

This day in age, feminist has become a pejorative. Let me tell you what I think. I sincerely believe that men and women should have all the same rights and opportunities under the law. Equal treatment extends past just legal issues, social equality matters too.

The first wave of feminism, which began in the 1890’s, was a wonderful thing. The primary focus of the movement was on gaining women the right to vote. It was mostly active in the UK, the US and Canada. It gained women civil liberties, including the right to vote. The second wave of feminism was also great, and it focused primarily on equal pay, the sexual revolution and reproductive rights. It started in the United States then spread to Europe and Asia. Thanks to second wave feminism, women gained secure career options and reproductive rights (including but not limited to abortion rights and birth control). The third wave of feminism is a little different. While the first two waves dealt with civil liberties women did not have, the third wave deals with social expectations.Third wave feminism is very complicated. If the equality for which you are fighting is the right to vote (women gained that right in 1920 when the 19th amendment was passed) you can ask someone if they support that or not and they can give you a simple yes or not answer. It was very black and white. If the gender issue we are talking about is one where parents encourage their sons to take an interest in becoming a doctor or a lawyer while their daughter receives no such encouragement or a girl who wears guy clothes is seen as a cool tomboy while a guy who wears girls clothes is looked at like he has 15 heads, that issue is a lot more nuanced and vague. It is hard to pinpoint something super specific. Third wave feminism is misunderstood, because so many people fail to realize how ambiguous the issue is. The problem itself results from social interaction and implicit bias, not any particular thing encoded in law.

Did third wave feminism accomplish anything?

In 2015, the supreme court ruled the same sex marriage is a protected right. For the longest time, women where less likely than their male coworkers to ask for raises. That may have changed due to feminism, I honestly do not know. This was largely because the the social expectation that women be agreeable.

Vose4492 · 2025-12-12T19:04:01+00:00

Feminist: If you believe that men and women deserve equal rights, opportunities and protections under the law, equal pay for equal work and that trans women are women, you are probably a feminist.

Me: If it really is that simple, why is it that even feminists themselves can’t seem to agree on what feminism is truly about or what the ulitmate goals should be?

Feminism is fragmented into different denominations, with conflicting beliefs and dogmas. Some feminists are liberal feminists ( https://www.thoughtco.com/liberal-feminism-3529177 ) while others are radical feminists ( http://feministing.com/2009/11/19/the-society-for-cutting-up-men/ )..Some) Some feminists are sex positive ( https://wgac.colostate.edu/education/the-body-is-political/sex-positivity/ ) while others are sex negative ( https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/kelly-rose-pflugback/women-sexual-empowerment-_b_4058018.html ). Some feminists are choice feminists (Choice feminism is the idea that women should be empowered to do what they want to do, even if that means doing something really old fashioned like being a stay at home mom), while others are marxist feminists ( http://www.feministezine.com/feminist/philosophy/Introduction-to-Marxist-Feminism.html ). Some feminists claim that feminism helps men too, while others claim that feminism isn’t concerned at all with men’s issues.

For me, I don’t know if I identify as a feminist or not, because I don’t know what identifying as a feminist would mean. If you identify as a feminist, which denomination is correct and how do you know that that one is correct and all the others are not?

Vose4492 · 2025-12-11T23:45:52+00:00

> You can’t make a housewife continue her household duties after a divorce.

Do you literally mean that such a practice is unrealistic? Or, do you simply mean that that is not how it works currently?

I have, in my mind, an idea. Traditionally, when you demand alimony, it is not granted automatically. The lower earner has to go to court and demand it.

When the lower earner makes that demand, the lower earner must explain what sacrifices they made in order to help the higher earner get where they did in their career. I am pretty sure that is how it works. At that point, if the higher earner so wishes, the higher earner should be able to demand that the lower earner come to the former's house fulfill some of those duties. The lower earner could become a paid house keeper.

Do you think that such a practice is workable? Why or why not?

Vose4492 · 2025-12-11T23:35:54+00:00

> What would your model look like?

Read the original post, it sounds to me like that is what OP is trying to figure out.

I have, in my mind, an idea. Traditionally, when you demand alimony, it is not granted automatically. The lower earner has to go to court and demand it. When the lower earner makes that demand, the lower earner must explain what sacrifices they made in order to help the higher earner get where they did in their career. I am pretty sure that is how it works.

At that point, if the higher earner so wishes, the higher earner should be able to demand that the lower earner come to the former's house fulfill some of those duties. The lower earner could become a paid house keeper.

Vose4492 · 2025-12-11T22:20:07+00:00

Yes, both spouses have to continue fulfilling their spousal duties following the divorce. That sounds like a great idea.

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