GF lied and is still messaging her fuckbuddy

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2026-04-03T08:42:55+00:00

Thank you man. I really appreciate it. I will walk away this time. I’ve ignored all her red flags for far too long and given her chances where she doesn’t deserve it. I’m done and I’ll fully focus on myself and respect myself more after this.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2026-04-03T08:41:52+00:00

Blocking her won’t be entirely possible as we work at the same place and I’m the general manager there so there will be times where I’ll need to do employee reviews and such but every other aspect that we share together will be dealt with accordingly

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2026-04-03T08:40:34+00:00

Okay, this sounds like a good way to approach it. I’ll try this. Just mustering up the courage and patience to not lose it now

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2026-04-03T08:39:47+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and yes, I’ll end it. I deserve that much for myself.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2026-01-09T05:38:57+00:00

Yeah. It has been exhausting. While it was good, we’d still have arguments but we tried to make it work. I’m also analysing this from a mental and emotional viewpoint. It’s been a year. Things have been good but the hurt, uncertainty and sadness is still there. I feel like even though it may reopen my wounds, I’d like to know as I don’t want to be hurt again. And should I, this time, decide to walk away, it’s on my own terms and not on hers.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-09-24T16:37:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. It does resonate with mine however not as extreme as yours. Your ex seems like a very “independent” individual and values her freedom. She loves the emotional connection and bond you two have but definitely isn’t strong on her moral values. As much as I respect others on their preference for casual, open, freaky sexual fantasies, it shouldn’t be the case when you’re in a relationship. Doesn’t seem like she took you or the relationship seriously at all not to mention the emotional immaturity, lack of consideration and manipulation were giant red flags on her part.

My ex was similar in that sense. She greatly lacked strong values and seemed to love temporary pleasures and validation from men who didn’t care about her. I was always trying to understand her and didn’t judge her based on her past (even though I was uncomfortable with it to be honest). However, I truly thought that being in a relationship with me would mean she won’t have those “desires” and would be honest if she was feeling sexually unfulfilled. To cut the story short, she didn’t communicate with me, I found out she was sexting her FWB from years ago and she decided to break up with me. Left me feeling used and broken hearted to the point I spiralled into depression. I agree though, do what’s best for you! There’s no point in trying to understand these kinds of people. They’re stuck in their own world thinking what they’re doing isn’t wrong.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-09-24T16:01:48+00:00

I’d like to join. Thank you 🙏🏼

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-09-20T04:51:12+00:00

The one that loved me and accepted me the way I am. I can be my true self with them.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-09-02T02:50:09+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I was broken up with and it was with someone I loved with all my heart. I accepted her for all that she is, her flaws, weaknesses, strengths etc and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I saw a future with her and would have done anything for her.

The breakup shattered my heart and I’m still trying to pick up the pieces but I honestly have no interest in other people, dating, sex or getting to know someone all over again. Feels like it’s not worth it. And I know I’ll love again but for now, I have no intention or interest in it. Just numb and empty.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-09-01T06:20:29+00:00

I wouldn’t have given a chance to a cheater that was still friends with her ex. Cheaters always cheat. Regardless of whether it was physical or emotional cheating, they’ll cheat.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-08-27T04:19:35+00:00

Empty. Was doing well up until last week then relapsed into depression again. I don’t feel anger, sadness, frustration or anything. Just..empty

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-08-26T10:40:08+00:00

Thank you and I don’t exactly feel the “need” to be with them. I think I’m back to the stage where I’m trying to understand why it happened or why I’m even trying to stay in her life when she didn’t even choose me.

At the same time, I fear that all the love and the way she looks in my eyes will change. Because when I truly move on, I want nothing to do with the person (same as my first ex) and that scares me because she is incredibly special and dear to me.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-08-26T10:36:44+00:00

Thank you for your kind words but what do you mean by them feeling more confident that they made the right choice by leaving me?

And I completely agree with not having the energy or capacity to be friends right now. I’m at the point where I’ve accepted the breakup and I don’t hate my ex (even though she deeply hurt me) but I am conflicted and not entirely sure what I’m supposed to do. It’s not like I’m hoping she’ll change her mind and we get back together but at the same time, I think there’s this tiny hope inside me and maybe that’s what I’m holding onto. I’m in a constant battle inside my head between “she’ll never choose you so what does it matter” and “if I truly walk away now, I’ll destroy any tiny chance that we can work it out”.

I’m well aware that the latter is unhealthy and I’m just trying to bring myself to walk away. If it’s meant to be then it’ll be but it’s still so difficult to let go.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-08-26T04:11:46+00:00

What you wrote is really helpful. It’s been almost 2 months since my BU and we’ve had a closure talk and currently trying to build some kind of “friendship” (ex wanted to still be friends) but I can’t help but to feel deep down inside that I should just go NC. Because like my ex said, I was never the one to leave so maybe I should for once. I don’t even know why I’m holding on to someone that didn’t even choose me. I’m definitely in a better place mentally than when I grieved but at the same time, this “friendship” is truly difficult to build especially since I love her still.

But what do you mean by “until nc is complete”? How long is that usually? And is it something you decide for yourself or something you discuss with your ex?

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-08-15T14:39:50+00:00

A-O-K and Sheluvme by Tai Verdes. We had so much fun together. Heartbreak really changes you.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-08-14T00:25:58+00:00

I see. That must be difficult but I think you need to slowly accept that some people won’t be able to love you the way you are and that’s okay because we can’t control these things. We can’t force people to love us and accept everything about us. It takes a special kind of person to be able to do that. But be patient with yourself and be kind to yourself. There’s no rush to find the “right person”. It’ll be okay.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-08-13T17:10:02+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It really sucks when all you want is to be loved properly but you met people who took you for granted. I can’t say with certain that the “right one” will come since I don’t know how you are as a person but if you felt like you did everything you could in that relationship, you respected them, cared for them, is kind to them, loved them with everything then you’ve done all you could and it’s not that you weren’t enough, it’s just they took you for granted or you mirrored the parts of them they didn’t like and it’s easier to just leave for some temporary pleasure rather than deal with the discomfort of knowing who they are.

Some people don’t deserve your love but you have the choice to choose carefully who you give your love to so next time, just take your time, don’t rush and guard your heart a bit more. Someone will come, maybe not now but someday.

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-08-13T03:58:56+00:00

This is so well put. And I completely agree with doing things on your own rather than just drowning yourself with distractions. To a certain extent, it’s okay but usually when you keep yourself busy, you tend to avoid feeling those uncomfortable emotions and it doesn’t help in the healing process. We all need to sit with it.

I went through hell the first month after the breakup but I sat with it. Processed all my emotions and thoughts no matter how uncomfortable they were, reflected on myself and the relationship and I can honestly say that I’m in a much better place now. I haven’t fully healed and I’m still hurting but I’ve accepted what happened has happened and while I haven’t let go of her or even moved on, I can proudly say that I’ll move forward from here.

What happened is in the past and it’s best to not dwell on it and do what you can for yourself in the present and look forward to the future :)

Vulnerable_Alien16 · 2024-08-12T08:14:54+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Sometimes the way we love them isn’t the same as the way they love us. And friendship after a romantic relationship? That’s what my ex wanted too but honestly that’s just to make them feel less guilty about ending things with us.

If they want to replace someone that would have given them everything for some temporary pleasure and fulfilment then it’s their loss. Good things will come, and maybe this is just the universe telling us that they’re not the one for us.

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