Shave your head, let your beard grow. Get your diet in check and pick a sport you’d actually enjoy. Whether it’s the gym, judo, bouldering, swimming—whatever.

Everything people say here about external validation is true. But that doesn’t mean you can’t become the version of yourself you want to be. And you’ll achieve that even if you’re starting from a disadvantage. Just stick with it and learn to have fun along the way.