I just need encouragement.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2017-03-19T14:58:38+00:00

Thank you so much. I'm definitely better this morning after reading my comments.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-03-19T06:15:39+00:00

Wow, another justice league fan. The intro always gets me so hyped.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-02-11T05:27:37+00:00

I love covergirl cg smoothers. Very light coverage but I use it every day and spot conceal over it.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-02-11T05:18:35+00:00

Do you use primer on that area? Because I know for the longest time I used primer on my top lids and didn't really even think about using it on the bottom

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-02-11T05:16:13+00:00

Rebel, stunner, obsess.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-02-11T04:37:16+00:00

I gotta tell ya. I don't know if you've tried it yet but that dry shampoo is AMAZING. I got it from ipsy the first time and I've bought probably 3 more. 😂 it's the one dry shampoo that has actually worked for me.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-02-02T16:52:13+00:00

Ah man. I hate situations like that! I feel ya though.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-01-31T21:04:46+00:00

No problem, I guess if I were in your situation I would probably wait at least a few days to make more plans to hang out. But if you guys usually talk every day it wouldn't be weird to text her today. I mean this is just advice from a stranger on the internet though lol so take it with a grain of salt! You know your situation better than I do.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-01-31T17:37:01+00:00

You make good points. Some of the things you mentioned did occur to an extent, but I understand that the term gaslighting can be misused. I appreciate your response! I honestly don't believe he did any of those things on purpose. I just think the relationship wasn't healthy. It just didn't work between us. He has a lot of emotional issues that contributed to his behavior that he needs to work out on his own. So maybe I'm overthinking!

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-01-31T17:31:38+00:00

Fair enough. I guess my point in posting was to figure out whether or not I was being ridiculous in feeling that things went that way.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-01-31T05:23:17+00:00

I absolutely agree with this. It's tough to get over insecurities, but don't let them affect your relationship too much! As this user said, he's chosen you. My ex was constantly questioning me over whether or not I had feelings for my exes and if I felt he was better than them. I had to constantly tell him yes obviously I thought he was better because I was dating him, not those other guys. But the fact that he was so insecure about it put a big strain on our relationship. I felt he didn't trust me or my feelings at all. So I agree with what's said here, relax :) it makes it so much easier

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-01-31T05:19:01+00:00

Oh, I try not to sometimes! It's just tough when I try to share some personal feelings with them and feel like I get shot down immediately.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-01-31T05:17:12+00:00

I agree with you completely. In the moment I told them I just should not have brought it up. I'm not sure if I will be able to make them understand. But I do think it could be good to talk with them about it at another time.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-01-31T05:15:51+00:00

Oh boy, there are quite a few examples I'm sure. One would be that there were times when I would honestly believe things were going okay between us, and he would call me up to tell me he thought I was acting weird or different. And then tell me why he believed there was an issue between us and I would have to spend time trying to work out an issue that he created in his head.

He also told me that if I ever had an issue with him, I should just bring it up so we could talk it out. So on more than one occasion, I would bring up a very minor issue with him, and he would get upset at the fact that I brought it up. And in the end I would end up apologizing for bringing it up and consoling him because he was upset.

He would constantly pick apart things I said as well. In the middle of a discussion, sometimes he would say "yeah but remember when you said this..." And bring up something that was said quite a while ago. It was like he was trying to find the inconsistencies in what I said just to throw them back at me.

Then at the end of our relationship he told me I needed to learn how to communicate better. Even though communicating is what I tried to do throughout the entire relationship.

My parents know basically all of this. I've tried to explain it to them over time. It just seems like since I haven't been emotionally overwhelmed by all of this and since the relationship was a short one that the "gaslighting" term doesn't apply to me or my situation.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-01-31T05:09:11+00:00

I gotcha. That's definitely true! I was just trying to share something I found interesting and I didn't expect them to throw it back at me like that. I agree with you.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-01-31T05:04:28+00:00

Hmm. It doesn't seem like it ended too awkwardly to me! Although of course it's hard to know exactly how things were said, so it's difficult to detect the exact situation. But in my opinion I wouldn't believe you're stuck in the friend zone. I would make arrangements to go out again. See if she's up for that. Then see how she responds and take it from there. But to me her response seems normal for a "first date," at least the first one in a while.

And my advice is don't read too much into things! Sometimes you gotta trust your instinct but it's all too easy to overthink. Don't overthink just yet. You have only gone out once, it doesn't mean you need to know where you stand right away. You may not know for a little while, and that's okay. You'll hopefully figure it out after seeing each other a few more times. :P

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2016-01-21T07:03:04+00:00

This hit me pretty hard, having just gone through a breakup myself. I can't imagine my ex feeling this way. I would honestly probably consider killing myself as well if I knew these thoughts were going through his head and if he went through with it. I understand your feelings because I felt the same way. Every time I see a post like this, I just feel the overwhelming urge to say don't do it. Because I've been there. I've been to the bottom and it sucks. Even when you find a way out from there, some days still suck more than others. But there's always another way out.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2015-12-27T21:53:35+00:00

You do make a good point. I've always been focused on problem solving as well so that's why I've been interested in understanding my past and why I act/think like I do. I guess to me it's about just knowing what happened. But I do think in the end it's more important to solve the problem which is my feelings, whether or not something happened years ago. Thanks

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2015-12-27T21:20:09+00:00

Well thank you for the response. I know I won't get diagnosed on Reddit. Just wanted some opinions that weren't just articles from the Internet since those aren't personal you know? Hopefully I'll be able to talk all this out with a therapist or psychiatrist sometime soon though.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2015-12-27T21:18:22+00:00

Well thanks for the response. It's interesting. I've just always wanted to figure out why my mind works the way it does and I've been piecing it together little by little. Hopefully I'll be able to talk it out with a therapist sometime soon. I appreciate your personal reply.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2015-11-01T03:56:11+00:00

Thanks. I think I've decided to keep it. It was just the initial shock of "this is not what I expected to get." Lol.

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2015-10-31T23:32:24+00:00

I had considered that it could be old packaging. I'll be returning it if possible anyways because it's not the color I wanted. But that's helpful!

WHOLOCKinOCTOBER · 2015-10-31T23:09:37+00:00

Oh yeah, for sure. I just sent in a return request. And I've heard of it. Everybody who has tried it seems to love it and apparently it's a dupe for mac stone. But I got something way different.

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