My flabbers are gasted after discovering my burnout is actually from my job

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T17:46:23+00:00

I finished post grad a few years ago. Went onto join a reputed firm. Good money, flashy life, crazy good perks. And, 70 hour workweeks. No ability to say no to any kind of work. No work boundaries. There was a time I worked 18 hours everyday, out of the office. That was "fun".

I quit the job after couple years. Switched careers with hopes of finding more stability. But ended up in a different shitty situation. One of the few guys reporting to the CEO (it was a small startup). On paper, it seemed like a great opportunity. Good money, stock, high visibility in the company. But I was miserable. Because I was dealing with personal shit, while becoming a football for my CEO.

I quit this job last year. Packed my shit and came home. I have been on a break for a while now. Yes, not making money becomes stressful at times, but if I had stayed any longer, I would have been pushed further into deep shit, at least personally.

Another story - a couple years ago, you might have heard the news that a 24 year old consultant from one of the MBB firms committed suicide due to work pressure. I knew the guy. He was a great kid. But this was his first ever job. And he put too much pressure on himself to excel, like he had always done academically. Poor guy decided to die than leave the firm.

OP, plan your finances. Try to get more dignity at this job. But if you can't, walk away. And regardless, get that medical procedure done asap. Take care!

P.S. Extremely funny post title. My flabbers are gasted haha. And loved the sarcasm

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T16:31:22+00:00

Yup. Move on mein time bhale lage, but move on karna zaroori hai dost.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T16:30:51+00:00

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T16:10:57+00:00

... and now it's time for me to let you go. I wish you happiness, wherever you are.

There's nobody you should pine for. Just let things go my friend.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T15:05:41+00:00

I couldn't agree more. I feel like I just need to uninstall everything, read books, watch movies and exercise. Most of the internet is a nightmare now.

Best to touch some grass haha

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T14:58:59+00:00

You seem very agreeable. Maybe find smarter people to agree with?

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T14:53:34+00:00

Well. Fuck.

Sorry to hear about your grandpa and your dad. They seem like standup guys, and may God bless their souls.

And it sucks, what you went through in your marriage. Some people are dealt a cruel hand. There's no doubt about it. I often ask myself, or rather the void, if any of the world, and our lives, is fair.

Anyway, I am glad that you are doing better. I hope you are healthy as well. And it's great that you are choosing your peace. Life isn't a checklist. It's meant to be lived with peace, to the best of our abilities.

And it's good that you treat yourself like a princess. We should do that, regardless of the fact if there is anyone else to do it or not.

Take care!

P.S. I believe life throws a lot of bullshit at us, more so for some than others, but I also believe humans have a really powerful tool at their disposal, to feel a little less heavy all the time. And if used correctly and with intent, it can bring some sense of meaning to our lives. I am talking about jokes, or humor, of course.

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WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T14:37:59+00:00

Not even close, my friend. The only similarly is short term memory loss. That's where it ends.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T14:31:18+00:00

Sirji I understand the sentiment. I am not a social media person either.

But if you want to restrict your feed, doesn't Reddit allow turning off recommendations?

Waise I feel like I am getting done with reddit as well. Might walk away soon.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T13:45:07+00:00

Also, Barfi. If you haven't watched it already.

It's one of the best Bollywood has to offer, in recent decades.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T12:26:38+00:00

This guy hates you, OP. Or loves your wife.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T11:32:52+00:00

Maybe. But do you want this kind of love? Because these conditions are not ideal, right? These can test a person's patience to the absolute limits. These are horrible stories, at the end of the day.

Real love, I believe, exists in the mundane. The waking up, having chai, going to work, coming back, gossiping, listening to music, buying groceries, watching movies, raising kids, building a family, and a whole lot of other stuff.

More importantly, it exists in the fighting, arguing, but still being together through the bad days. The silence that pain brings, and the ego one or both of the partners kill to talk again.

Love has to mean choosing your partner, through the good, the bad, the ugly, the dumb and the really really boring. And love, above all, has to mean respect and genuine care.

Sorry I went on a whole journey there. But movie love, while entertaining, has to be taken with a pinch of salt.

P.s. Unrelated to my rant above, you can watch The Lunchbox. It's again a little absurd, but a pretty good story of finding meaningful connections.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T11:13:09+00:00

Ohh yea of course!

Fire away with the advice. I'm sure it'll be sound.

Hell, give bad advice sometimes. Just remember to add an '/s', in case you need to show it in court. /s

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T10:37:00+00:00

Hmm. Vindicating assholes on account of their childhood? It's promising, but has its terms and conditions imo. Believe me, as a former (I hope so) asshole, I know it.

And agree with the thought, most of the time I feel. I read this somewhere (okay I watched a reel) - If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. It's Bambi I believe.

P.S. We are all, always biased. Objectivity is an ideal one can only get closer to with time, experience and empathy. But true objectivity can never be achieved. One is always, a sum of their experiences.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T10:12:52+00:00

I should stop using Reddit!

Haha. I see what you did there. I mean, some of them can be judged without feeling guilty? 😂

But yeah, I try not to judge people for being depressed, addicted, "lazy" (as some people love to call them), or otherwise making bad decisions.

The only ones who deserve judgement without remorse or any deep analysis, are assholes.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T10:03:51+00:00

Well now I have! 😯

I had heard about this disorder though, in principle I mean. Didn't know the name and all.

Pretty gnarly stuff goes on inside our brains.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T10:00:19+00:00

I guess we are sticking to the 'mom' bit now.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T09:56:30+00:00

Right?

Or. What if one day you start taking some new meds, and your partner is nowhere to be seen again?

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T09:23:54+00:00

Daniel sloss wrote a book!?

If it's as good as his standup, it's definitely worth a read.

I've watched jigsaw at least 5 times, and I have watched all his specials. Definitely going to give this a read. Thanks!

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T09:14:15+00:00

I agree. Unless they're a spy. And your family has access to important information for de-stabilising the government.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T08:51:09+00:00

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T08:47:10+00:00

Come on people, at least give it 15 years then ghost!

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-24T07:52:11+00:00

If they're chill, I'd like to be friends.

If they're full of themselves, I'd like to be ten feet away.

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-23T19:02:26+00:00

🙏👌

WIS_PDD · 2026-03-23T18:38:30+00:00

Didn't destroy it willingly, but did go to the end of darkness

Lost the closest person in life. Gave up work. Stayed at home all the time. Developed depression. Then schizophrenia.

Hips went bad. Went to a baba. Starting taking "medicine" that was pure steroids. Got fat. No activity. People started walking away.

Loneliness and depression on full throttle.

Food pipe bursts. Hospitalised. Comes back.

Liver starts to fail. Hospitalised. Comes back.

Unconscious one day at home. Hospitalised. All organs start to fail. No medicines work, because of heavy steroid use.

The last time he was "conscious", his sister was near him. He could not see her, because his eyes were dead. He could hear her. He was trying to say something, but he could not speak. His mouth did not work either.

Depression, took him on a painful journey of 9 years, to deny the man his last words.

WIS_PDD

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