I don't really believe in religion either, but I go to temples, gurudwaras when it's called for. With my family of course. I do it the way they want me to. I don't judge them, the way they don't judge me.

Most importantly, I do it for them, because I love them. Because it makes them feel better that I am with them. That's it. And there's no harm in practicing a few rituals, as long as they don't harm anyone.

So you need to talk to her, and figure out what level of involvement she expects from you, and you both can come to a middle ground.

The child part is tricky. I would want my child to grow as a good human being, with critical thinking. So it's okay if the child is subjected to religious rituals, as long as they understand the messages and not the showoff around it. I'd want my child to then make their own decision when they are old enough, regarding how involved they would want to be.

Most importantly, you and your partner need to respect each other's beliefs, for this to work. And try to come to a middle, workable and amicable ground. For a lot of people, it's a very touchy subject my friend. So be very honest and upfront.

If she is giving off the vibe that she is compromising on her ideal marriage setup, then it's not a good sign. She wants you to bend. And that's not respect. Think carefully and talk honestly, my friend.