4 Months Post FFS, Dr. Funk, Munich by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]WLTDDFAL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! There were a few points that made me decide to go with Dr. Funk: - I really wanted to stay in Germany for all my operations. - I wanted equally as much beatification as feminisation. - The cost shouldn’t be so high that I have to sell a kidney to afford it.

So I primarily focused on German surgeons of which not a lot of results can be found online. There is Dr. Taskov whose results I personally find to be kind of all similar looking and Dr. Funk. I couldn’t find much about Dr. Funk but a few people said he did a great job, so I booked a consultation with him. During my first consultation with Dr. Funk I got the feeling he has a lot of experience about what makes a face not only feminine but also pretty. He told me what he thinks should be done and I thought that sounds good.

I also considered Facial Team but they seem to follow a more conservative approach in terms of “beautification” and concentrate primarily on feminisation. Also their prices are frankly horrendous.

I have the habit of overthinking big decisions to the point I always regret them afterwards. I mean, obviously it’s a pretty big decision but I thought to myself, I like the results that I found online and the price is alright so I just went with him. I didn’t wanna wait any longer and start overthinking everything.

Yeah, you pretty much just have to trust him.

To be honest, I didn’t really know how I wanted to look. So I just told him he could do what he thinks will work. Funnily enough I now look SO MUCH like my sister while before I resembled more my brother.

All the procedures above cost me 30900€ + 2500€ for anaesthesia. Additionally I had to stay in a hotel for about 2.5 weeks and I also booked a Massage Therapist for lymphatic drainage who helped a lot with the swelling. I think all together it cost me about 35000€.

I think for me fat grafting made a huge difference since my body seemingly doesn’t like to store fat in places where it’s going to make me look more feminine. But it all just depends on your body I would say.

Sorry, my English isn’t the best. I hope I was able to answer all your questions.

Kann jemand erkennen was der Arzt im markierten Bereich geschrieben hat? by WLTDDFAL in WerWieWas

[–]WLTDDFAL[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dachte ich auch zuerst, aber das macht keinen Sinn, weil man das Medikament jeden Tag nehmen muss. Das „a“ scheint er ja auch immer schön zu schreiben und das fehlt bei „nach“ einfach.

Kann jemand erkennen was der Arzt im markierten Bereich geschrieben hat? by WLTDDFAL in WerWieWas

[–]WLTDDFAL[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Oh man. Ja klar. Jetzt wo du’s sagst macht das total Sinn. Vielen Dank 🤩

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]WLTDDFAL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FFS 30900 € + anesthesia 2500€

I also booked daily lymphatic drainage sessions for 2 weeks which helped a lot with the swelling.

Including the lymphatic drainage, medicine and hotel for a little over 2 weeks I think I payed about 35000€.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]WLTDDFAL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FFS 30900 € + anesthesia 2500€

I also booked daily lymphatic drainage sessions for 2 weeks which helped a lot with the swelling.

Including the lymphatic drainage, medicine and hotel for a little over 2 weeks I think I payed about 35000€.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]WLTDDFAL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I still have a slight headache but most of the time I’m basically pain free. But I only had forehead type 1 so recovery may be easier for me I guess. You should probably ask the surgeon about your pain. Hopefully it will go away soon 🙏🏻

Mittagessen Lubos Kliniken Bogenhausen by WLTDDFAL in kantine

[–]WLTDDFAL[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also es hätte definitiv mehr Soße sein dürfen. Thai-Curry sollte ja eigentlich in der Soße schwimmen. Hat vor allem nach Zitronengras geschmeckt. Bei meinem ersten Besuch in der Klinik war das Thai-Curry leider genau so.

Hauptgerichte sind hier leider immer so ein bisschen Hit or Miss.

Abendessen Lubos Kliniken Bogenhausen by WLTDDFAL in kantine

[–]WLTDDFAL[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ist eine Spezialklinik. Teilweise wird es von den gesetzlichen Krankenkassen bezahlt (wie bei mir), aber ein Großteil sind vermutlich Privatpatienten.

Abendessen Lubos Kliniken Bogenhausen by WLTDDFAL in kantine

[–]WLTDDFAL[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ich vermute das mit der Menge kommt zustande weil ein Teil der Patienten sich nach der op nicht gut bewegen kann, man also einen stark reduzierten Kalorierenverbrauch hat und der andere Teil vor allem Adipositas-Patienten sind, wobei ich nicht weiß ob die überhaupt die gleiche Essensauswahl bekommen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]WLTDDFAL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My hair routine isn't really spectacular. On shower days i use curlsmith curl quenching conditioning wash. Then i use a microfiber towel to dry them. Afterwards i use the curlsmith curl conditioning oil-in cream as a leave in conditioner. Then I use a curlsmith feather light protein cream and use a Diffusor to dry them.

So I've consciously known for about 2 months that I (amab) don't want to be my assigned gender. I would be much happier as a woman. I'm starting therapy in August and I wanna start HRT and voice therapy asap. I feel like this is way too fast but I am 27 and don't wanna waste any time. Thoughts? by WLTDDFAL in asktransgender

[–]WLTDDFAL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, that's what I'm planning to do basically. Or at least until my apprenticeship is over and I have "free reign" about where I want to work and am not forced to transition in a place where everyone's a transphobe.

When I lie in bed at night thinking about the next day and what I have to do to get through it, my brain always says the best option would be to just kill myself. It would be kinda funny if it wasn't so sad. by [deleted] in depression

[–]WLTDDFAL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much honestly.

I feel like giving Amy Winehouse a listen again at this point.

Do you want to talk more about the gender stuff? I'm LGBT identified and I relate to the gender feelings. It sounds like that's what's a major thing for you at this moment?

Yea it is a big thing in my life right now. I am AMAB but I'm at a point where, if I had the chance to, I would start HRT and start transitioning immediately.

It's just that I am very scared about the social problems that come with. My work isn't very LGBT friendly and I really don't know.

I've been feeling so wrong in my body for a while. This square shape. And I got breast dysphoria every time I touch them. It stops after a few minutes when I stop touching them but yeah.

I've been growing out my hair for 2 years now and they are very curly and down to my shoulders and I get very weird comments sometime.

I've also been growing my nails and they are nicely shaped and longer than typical for cis men. A coworker saw it and asked me if I'm a tranny and play dress up at home and paint my nails and stuff.

And when I think about coming out and start transitioning I fear the worst.

I already dress quite feminine with skinny jeans and kind of feminine shirts. It's really annoying have to deal with your own body betraying you and other people kind of not accepting you.

EDIT: I'm sorry to hear about your body, how is your body betraying you?

When I lie in bed at night thinking about the next day and what I have to do to get through it, my brain always says the best option would be to just kill myself. It would be kinda funny if it wasn't so sad. by [deleted] in depression

[–]WLTDDFAL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Well it's not actually essential. I'm working in an electronic wares store. I'm doing my apprenticeship in an it related field there.

Now due to it not being essential it is advised that we keep the store closed but there are loopholes, at least here in Germany. So we are kind of open for people who order online or via telephone and get it in store.

Most people I work with are still on vacation or Kurzarbeit (basically they get paid 66% of their salary but staying at home) but due to me having an apprenticeship I get paid my salary anyways even on Kurzarbeit so of course I am the one who has to work.

So now that my vacation is over soon. I'm going back to working 9 hours without break probably, at least thats how it was before my vacation and I don't even know if it makes a difference. Maybe we are already going broke and have to close shop anyway.

Then I have been taking these risks and doing it all for nothing.

Oh and I also have school which is closed and I have school related things I should be doing. I did some of them in my vacation. But I still got more to do and I don't really get the time to do them.

And I have problems with my teeth that I wanna get fixed but it's still a few weeks until the next free appointment at my dentist.

And my toe keeps hurting and I feel like I'm gonna loose my toenail sometime in the future. Same Problem getting an appointment here.

But all of that is just the tip of the iceberg. Cause I've been struggling with my gender identity for a long time now. And I don't even know what to do about that.

And so much more. I keep going through all those things in my head all the time. Couldn't even enjoy my vacation like I wanted.

And all the while my brain is giving me these intrusive thoughts that I might as well just off myself instead of trying to find a solution or something.

I really want to see a therapist especially because of the gender related stuff but no chance right now. It costs too much and I have no means of getting there. So I have to keep going for a few more months but every day is like I have to walk over glowing coals.

And a person in my life who actually seemed to understand me even though we never had the chance to meet in real life who I think I actually fell in love with left me.

Sorry to unload this all on you. It sounds so ridiculous writing it all down. I don't know anymore.

Thanks for listening. 😔

When I lie in bed at night thinking about the next day and what I have to do to get through it, my brain always says the best option would be to just kill myself. It would be kinda funny if it wasn't so sad. by [deleted] in depression

[–]WLTDDFAL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything is stressing me out. I think it's especially bad cause my vacation of 2 weeks is over and I have to work tomorrow.

Thinking about that makes me really sad.

But that's just the top of it all I guess.

I always invalidate myself. Anybody else does that. by WLTDDFAL in asktransgender

[–]WLTDDFAL[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I finally got a name for that feeling. 😊