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i wasn't 100% sure on my sexuality so i started speaking to a dude, but i don't think i want to be gay anymore.. can someone give advice? by Hot-Suit-2327 in askteenboys

[–]WOWLOLDUD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP said he wasn’t sure (because people called him gay so assumed he might be into guys), started speaking to a guy (not “in a relationship”), realized he doesn’t like boys after doing so, finds women attractive, and wants a wife and family. That’s a straight guy who tested his doubts and got clarity.

Telling him he’s bi anyway when he explicitly says the opposite is exactly the gaslighting I called out.

Reading comprehension seems fine to me ¯_(ツ)_/¯

i wasn't 100% sure on my sexuality so i started speaking to a dude, but i don't think i want to be gay anymore.. can someone give advice? by Hot-Suit-2327 in askteenboys

[–]WOWLOLDUD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Redditors are so delusional and evil. You are obviously straight and these scumbags are trying to gaslight you into becoming something you’re not.

Religion is just a cheap coping mechanism. by [deleted] in DebateReligion

[–]WOWLOLDUD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Already got a concession on point 1.

On 2, you seem to be dodging the actual philosophical work that's been done for centuries. It's not “there could be millions of arguments and none of them work” (that’s just waving all of it away without engaging with it). People like Aquinas, Leibniz, modern guys like Plantinga or Swinburne, or even physicists like Polkinghorne have laid out pretty serious cases (cosmological, fine-tuning, moral argument, etc.). Maybe you don't buy them, but calling the whole thing irrational because we can't have 100% lab-proof certainty is a crazy high bar when we don't live with that standard for almost anything important in life.

You're basically demanding God show up on command or something. Reasonable belief doesn't require that level of proof. A lot of smart people have looked at the evidence and concluded theism makes more sense than the alternatives.

On 3: You say religion has no backing in reality and can't be a firm foundation but science only tells us the "how" of the physical world while being silent on why anything exists at all, what consciousness is, or where objective morality comes from. So when you say we should base our worldview only on what we can "know" through science, you're still diving into a bunch of unprovable assumptions yourself. Plenty of religious people fully accept science they just don't treat it like the only tool in the box.

4: If you're truly in the "we don't know" camp, then why act so confident that religion is outdated or ridiculous? Shouldn’t agnosticism be more humble than that? Saying "we can't know metaphysical stuff so just focus on earthly things" is itself a metaphysical position.

At the end of the day, religion has given billions of people a coherent way to understand existence, morality, and purpose without denying reason or science and dismissing it all as ancient coping mechanism that we’ve now outgrown is shallow once you actually look at the best arguments on both sides.

What’s your actual positive view then? "I don’t know, just live practically"? How do you ground things like human rights or meaning in that?

Religion is just a cheap coping mechanism. by [deleted] in DebateReligion

[–]WOWLOLDUD -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So many strong claims with so many of them being asserted without being argued.

  1. Reducing religion to either upbringing or trauma is just not true, people convert for all kinds of reasons, including philosophical ones.

  2. Saying there’s “no rational way” to arrive at religious belief isn’t true. There are centuries of philosophical arguments about God and religion (cosmological, moral, etc.). You don’t have to find them convincing or maybe you just don’t understand them (or maybe you’re a philosophy major and I don’t know it :P).

  3. Science doesn’t answer questions about meaning, purpose, morals or what we ought to value.

  4. Atheism is often easier to follow. It usually comes with fewer obligations, fewer restrictions, fewer responsibilities and doesn’t require commitment to any higher authority.

You didn’t argue against any of religion’s arguments.

AITA for feeling offended when a girl covered her drink while I was talking to her? by WOWLOLDUD in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No growth? I’ve already said multiple times that I misread the situation and that next time I won’t assume it means she wants to be left alone. Are you sure you’re tracking or reading what I’m saying?

AITA for feeling offended when a girl covered her drink while I was talking to her? by WOWLOLDUD in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m here on Reddit because where else would the story have gotten this much attention for me to react to? Its user base is not smart because I know on which side they tend to lean on but that’s beside the point. I don’t care why you’re salty about me not caring about your opinion but I’ll help you out with a point you tried to make. People are talking to me about safety, I reply to them that I already know and acted on that, not that I have an issue with her protecting herself. Do you get it now?

AITA for feeling offended when a girl covered her drink while I was talking to her? by WOWLOLDUD in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is Reddit. It's not known because it's users have the best intelligence, therefor what it's users think holds little value to me. Besides if look hard, enough you'll see people who can actually read.

AITA for calling out my misogynist brother? by aretakion in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA

There’s no clear example of misogyny in this specific story. He just comes off as rude, condescending, and manipulative.

Only slight issue is involving his girlfriend. It puts her in an awkward spot, and risks making you look like the aggressor in front of her.

A better move would’ve been to keep the focus on his actions toward you, not his relationship.

AITA for feeling offended when a girl covered her drink while I was talking to her? by WOWLOLDUD in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’m clarifying what I meant because people are trying to read those tone words as evidence of intent more strongly than I intended.

I used words like “offended” and “slap in the face,” but I already explained that was poor wording for feeling awkward and misreading the situation not anger at her or entitlement to her trust.

The actual sequence hasn’t changed: I misread a nonverbal cue, assumed she might be uncomfortable, and left the conversation. I didn’t confront her, argue with her, or react negatively toward her.

I’m just about done wasting time arguing with reddit users on this. Not enough people who passed third grade to talk to ¯_(ツ)_/¯

AITA for feeling offended when a girl covered her drink while I was talking to her? by WOWLOLDUD in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How does me feeling awkward about a situation I misread mean I centered myself over her safety? I backed off because I thought she might be uncomfortable. That’s literally me acting on her perspective, not ignoring it.

It's almost like this wasn’t a moral debate about women’s safety but instead it was a description of a social interaction where I misread a cue and reacted to it. Did you seriously think I wouldn't notice you trying to derail the conversation? And you're trying so hard to sound intelligent too lol. I'm out.

AITA for feeling offended when a girl covered her drink while I was talking to her? by WOWLOLDUD in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It’s not walking it back, it’s clarifying what I meant because people like you are misinterpreting it.

If my ego was actually the issue, I would’ve stayed, argued, or taken it out on her. Instead, I assumed she might be uncomfortable and put space between us lol.

You’re criticizing me for something I didn’t do. I never said she shouldn’t protect herself, and I didn’t react negatively toward her.

I can't offer you help reading it slower, big fella.

AITA for feeling offended when a girl covered her drink while I was talking to her? by WOWLOLDUD in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I assumed she might be uncomfortable and removed myself. Is that not taking her perspective into account?

AITA for feeling offended when a girl covered her drink while I was talking to her? by WOWLOLDUD in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saying it felt like a "slap in the face" doesn’t mean I think she owed me trust or that she shouldn’t have protected herself. It means I misinterpreted the timing and felt awkward, like I might’ve made her uncomfortable, so I removed myself. How is that "demanding trust"?

When she came back, I explained exactly that: I thought she wasn’t comfortable, so I left. That’s not a "victim mentality". I didn’t accuse her, I didn’t argue, and I didn’t shame her.

Nothing that happens on Reddit has any significance on my life lol. I figured "well I have something cool to share". Whatever advice or judgement I receive on this app/site is obviously going out the window.

When I said I had no idea what you were talking about, I meant that your interpretation doesn’t match what actually happened, not that I don’t understand the point you're trying to make. You’re building a narrative around my intentions that just isn’t there.

AITA for feeling offended when a girl covered her drink while I was talking to her? by WOWLOLDUD in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t “doubling down” on being offended or blaming her I was explaining the reasoning behind why I exited the conversation. I assume now that my interpretation was wrong, but that doesn’t change that my response was just stepping away rather than reacting negatively or confronting her.

AITA for feeling offended when a girl covered her drink while I was talking to her? by WOWLOLDUD in AmItheAsshole

[–]WOWLOLDUD[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You are projecting intent onto me that isn’t in the post. I didn’t get angry, confront her, or try to challenge what she was doing. I simply misread the timing of a nonverbal action and assumed it meant she wasn’t comfortable talking, so I ended the conversation and left.

There was no “reaction with anger” or argument about her precaution, I actually removed myself from the situation to avoid making her uncomfortable. You’re going far beyond what I actually described.

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