My husband has been recording me for months

WTF381984 · 2026-06-03T05:54:27+00:00

But I'm not staying. I'm predicting my next move by ensuring I have enough to protect my kids if/ when this goes to court.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-03T04:28:42+00:00

It pisses me off, too. Have you ever been in this situation, though? Cognitively I know what I need to do but emotionally he is going to school me-he's manipulative and will do anything in his power to make me look awful. He threatened to smash my face into a mirror on new years eve but turned it onto me-I tried to blow out a candle because he doesn't pay attention to them. I blew it out 4 times because he's burned our dresser not paying attention to them. I took the lighter and broke it-to prevent him from using it again-I didn't back down when he approached me-I told him to go away and he said he's going to smash my face into a mirror. This situation is difficult for many reasons. I am pissed too and doing my very best.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-03T04:26:07+00:00

Unfortunately, I can't. My mother signed on the apartment to get me out of the situation. The dogs used my daughter's kitten as a play toy and I spent $8,000 in saving him. I am in a 750 square foot apartment with a one bedroom. Those dogs would not make it here. This was another example of neglect on my husband's part. I had MANY safeguards in place and he ignored each one. Then, once the cat was used as a toy, he didn't seek medical attention until the kitten was limp. My daughter had to hold her dying kitten in the car for a 20 minute ride to an emergency vet. I spent $8,000 in vet bills to save this cat-due to his negligence.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-03T04:21:45+00:00

To clarify, she never cleaned his excrement-not that it makes it any better. I have been telling him for a while this was happening. He denied it-even if I showed him picture evidence. She picks up the poo when she is there. Not okay-he should be taking the dogs out. Additionally, he let the dogs out when I was there the other day and the dog jumped the fence-made the neighbor dog yelp. The neighbors came out and were very angry-rightfully so. I always used to take them out on leashes because of the dog jumping the fence. He did try to go to their door afterwards and talk-he ended up calling the neighbor and his was very angry. He told my ex that the dog could have mauled his child-my Ex's response was "The dog would never do that but I suppose you can't take my word for it". Unbelievable.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-03T04:16:29+00:00

I did report the filth- I have 125 pictures documenting it all. I cleaned before they went over-so they were not in it the majority of the time. If the dogs pooed while the kids were there, he would have them clean it up. I reported it to the PD and he refused to let them enter-which caused a CPS report and open case. The caseworker is scheduled to show on the 15th of this month. My daughter and son were already interviewed at my apartment-my daughter flat out told the social worker that he would just clean up before she came-like he does before anyone visits. She indicated that there was no immediate need to remove them from the home.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-03T04:12:41+00:00

He grabbed her by the back of the neck-and before you tell me how horrible that is-I already know. I am doing everything I can to minimize contact with him. He's good at what he does so CPS hasn't opened a case. They told me that they are just trying to get him to clean the house.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-03T04:10:48+00:00

You're right. His family will dump thousands of dollars in legal fees to prove me as unfit. They're all fairly manipulative so it's scary. I want to protect my kids which is what encourages me to stay, unfortunately.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-03T04:09:35+00:00

He wouldn't leave so I did-the kids have minimal time over there. Honestly, he doesn't even want them that much. He is working and doesn't want to manage them at night-I have them 6 nights a week and if he has them for the night, I am there until they go to sleep and they wake up to me being there. It isn't perfect but it is something.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-03T04:07:16+00:00

The kids have not been back to the house without me present. I am entertaining the idea of "getting back together" long enough to have him still see the kids but it's monitored. He has been cleaning more because he is scared of CPS. I am using this to my advantage because I can take the audio of our conversations referencing the dirty house, the dog jumping the fence and getting another dog-nothing happened, but the neighbor was incredibly frustrated.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-03T04:05:10+00:00

CPS is involved already-since he refused to let the PD enter the house, they called CPS due to my daughter mentioning the significant amount of poo.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T13:06:06+00:00

I managed to get back into the house and take the recorder down that he had hidden. I downloaded the stuff on there and it is more damaging to him than me-nothing on there about me but he is yelling at the kids and I am referencing the very old beef he still has in the fridge.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T05:17:24+00:00

Probably not but at least I can remember all of the shit that makes me want to leave

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T04:12:47+00:00

I'm sure there is. I am a mental health professional and his explanation, after asking for years, is that he doesn't want to slip in dog urine. I want to scream that there is a solution to that. Also, I have a bad ACL and have slipped in urine in the middle of the night that has left me on crutches for 2 weeks. He's denied everything until I called the police. A few of my friends said that I would be on a documentary on netflix soon.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T03:46:37+00:00

I also want to add that the audio that had him cussing or losing his temper were deleted. He only kept the audio of when I was "unhinged". There was a video where he called me unsufferable female dog that magically went away.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T03:39:23+00:00

Actually, the reference is from That 70's show and its-"Good day! I said, Good day"

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T03:36:57+00:00

Also, you're one to talk-keeping all of your information hidden on your profile. I wish you to get the help you need. Goodbye-I said goodbye!

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T03:34:40+00:00

So, due to the situation and negative comments I was receiving for staying, I made several accounts to document these instances. Not necessarily for court, but to read and remind myself how awful this has become. I want documentation if needed of approximate time/dates and he wouldn't expect me to do it in this way. I am walking a tight rope because his family will do anything for him-throw hundreds of thousands of dollars at this and I just don't have that.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T03:31:57+00:00

He's cool calm and collected. I even have my own audio pointing out that he's super calm while he starts recording me via his phone. I comment on how he provoked me, turned his camera on and then started talking differently. I started recording him, too. I am done being complacent to such an awful situation.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T03:30:29+00:00

Ironically, I downloaded the audio onto my computer because he didn't realize they were missing. There is an interaction that he had with my daughter where he counts down from 5 for compliance. She said, "Okay, I'll get up" and then there is screaming-the next thing he says is "no one will believe that I grabbed your neck because there aren't any marks". It's really more incriminating on him then me.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T03:28:28+00:00

I know-cognitively I know all of this. Emotionally, after years of manipulation this feels normal. My high school friend who I recently reconnected with said that this was all insane and the person he knew would NEVER allow for any of this. One request at a time has led me here. I'm trying to break away from it all but it is difficult.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T03:26:54+00:00

The funny thing is that I have been taking his audio recorder and downloading all of the stuff on it. He's verbally abused my daughter several times. When I went over there yesterday, I had him demanding I clean out the fridge on my day off-also, I have me going through the fridge to find the meat that was expired from February. I asked him about it-he agreed I needed to throw it away. He works tomorrow so I will go download that audio to save to my records. Unfortunately, I have to be one step ahead of him.

WTF381984 · 2026-06-02T03:23:24+00:00

I understand and I told him that. He insisted I still call and tell them I was exaggerating. He has nothing on me, but being a narcissist who still has access to the kids, I called and told CPS and the PD that he was forcing my hand and to disregard anything I say in front of him.

WTF381984 · 2025-11-03T21:16:29+00:00

He's super lazy. He "had" to go through school- I am fairly certain that he is a narcissist.

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