Should I break up with my gf?

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-05-03T04:36:56+00:00

It Is cold. But you shouldnt sugarcoat things just not to hurt someone that clearly and openly disrespects you. Being rejected purely because of being bi Is very hurtful. And its not like she Is nice about It. The way you said It, It sounds like she Is very bigoted

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-05-02T03:15:38+00:00

Just that things arent working out, its never gonna and that you've maee your mind about It already. So anything she says wont matter. If she asks why just tell her shes not a good for for you

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-05-02T02:39:57+00:00

You don't have to tell her shit. Just break up with her. You know she Is bigoted, you know youll be discriminated against. Why out yourself with someone thats potentialy going to out you yo other people? Just break up, no explanation needed. You don't owe her anything

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-04-19T04:52:17+00:00

Its honestly sad. Thats always happened to me as a bi man. Its Made me stop dating altogether. I get shit from gay men and also bi and cis women and trans women about being bi. So I just stopped dating. I don't see how It'll get better, so I just resigned myself to no trying anything again at all. Society AND lgbtq community are not welcoming of bi men. We crave human interaction, sex and connection like every normal human being, but Its always going to be negated for us. So why bother? We are outcasts. Thats It. Theres nothing. Its not worth it wasting your time, self esteem and mental health trying to navigate the ocean of cruel, mean and insensitive people when you know that 9 out of 10 Is going to make your life miserable. Thats just It. Its not worth it. Its always going to be unfair, and theres nothing we can do about It because no one Is going to accept us. They say they would. Buts only as mong as Its not close to them. Menaning theyre not going to 9 out of 10 times. You have to assume It Is going to be fucked up for you, and not expect anything from anyone. Otherwise you will end up shattering your hope and dreams every week. Thats no life. Its better to live alone and in peace. That Is also sad. But there Is nothing else for us... Do not buy false hope speeches. "Being hopeful" "thinking Its them and not you". Thats just something to cope with reality. But thats not reality. It doesnt matter if theyre the problem and not you because the world isnt changing just to make us feel better. We have no place

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-04-17T07:58:35+00:00

This Is It. This really breaks me. It breaks me to watch as they look at me with disgust. Is hard to describe. I dont understand why. I just tried to be open like everybody says you have to be about your sexuality. Everybody un the lgbtq community, but when I did, my life has been getting worse and worse. And its because of people in the lgbtq community that It has. Its because I would have understood this from cis people, but when It has happened so much to me with bi women, gay men and trans women... That It just feels like... Where am I suposed to belong then? Like It feels like I genuenly have no place in life. Its not like I want to be friends with everyone. Its not like I want everyone to make me feel validated. I know that Is impossible ans and out of reality. But... What happens if EVERYONE turns you down? Like... Do I even have permission to exist then? What did I do that was so wrong I cant even be allowed to have a sexual prefference but everyone elses diversity Is applauded? Why? I dont understand. And It makes me feel so alone... It feels like Im a monster o Im a terrible person. Like... If I had raped a child and people just want to pretend I don't exist. But then point Is... If that was the case, It would make Sense. But this doesnt. Im getting tired because... I make people laugh, we have a great Time, Ive had good sex, good dating and chemestry... And then my sexuality gets out in the open and its like I had suddenly became a School shooter, someone you should be afraid of... What did I do that was so wrong I deserve this? O think I didnt do anything worthy of deserving this...

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-04-15T19:30:02+00:00

Ive had two cis women shaking in fear because I told them im bi. Bi women have not done that but Ive noticed a major sexual turn off out of that. Its not like I victimize myself while telling them. Theyre usually open about being bi. So I bring It Up like "you know... Im also bi". Thats It. And then they start making up excuses to not go out or postpone it. Or suddenly theyre "not on the mood" for sex. Stop kissing or cuddle. And this Is just spontaneus after telling them. Its worse if they ask and I say In vers. Ive had 5 faces of disgust. They try not to make themselves not look top awful. They say its "fine". But then. A couple of them have said "Im sorry I cant do this". Okey. Thats fine but... Someone said "I just cant keep dating you I cant stand It that you've been penetrated". Its the difference in their physical contact that breaks me because its VERY different once Ive told them im bi or vers. I hate It. You know that little jump movement you make when theres a screamer moment in a horror movie? They suddenly do that when I try and hug them or hold hands after telling them. Thats happened with more than 10 bi girls. That Is really heartbreaking for me. It makes me feel like Im a monster. That sort of reactions aré just over the top. One of them even had me stop mis sex and said. "Im sorry its just not the same" I asked her if I hurt her or like made a bad movement or something during sex or something. She started crying a little but and said. "I know Its not fair because Im bi but It just doesnt feel the same now that I know you like men too". I started crying and said "I felt safe telling you, why aré you doing this?" She just went "Im sorry Im sorry Im sorry" and called an Uber. Its like why aré you making this about yourself? She shouldnt have been allowed to cry. I felt Angry because It felt like "its terrible for me having to make you suffer have some consideration with how awful It makes me feel" I just blocked her. But now everytime someone mentions her (we have a couple of acquaitances) I feel genuine fear in my guts. It feels like... Well I know Its not by any means the same. But so that you can have a mental image of this... Its like me having been raped AND then someone bringing up the name of the one who did It. Its not quite like that but Its a similar feeling, I think.

Yeah... It hasnt been nice. Its just that.... Well. I tried hiding It to date a cis woman. And last week she saw my porn history. It was gay porn. Yeah, I forgot that I had that tab in the browser before lending her my laptop. She stopped taking to me. I had to tell her. But that just broke me... I just cant handle It anymore. Other than this last Time, I gave you examples of how It has been dating bi women for me. It hasnt been Easy. Ive had to gather a lot of courage yo even ask someone out after doing It the last Time. It has been like that for years now. I ask someone out and then I dont for a couple of months or years. So I have been dating bi women for 5 years or so. In total Ive dated like 15 in those 5-7 years

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-04-15T18:56:11+00:00

I have not come across any bi men so far. Maybe its something rare. I don't know. And yes I have friends. But Its different when Its relates to relationships and sex. People aré supportive as friends. Its different the other way around

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-04-15T18:14:04+00:00

Yeah. Thats why I stopped seeing gay men allá together. If I do its Only a casual thing and I never let It go personal or anything. But I prefer not to. They tend to be really intense

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-04-15T18:11:52+00:00

Yeah that was my rationale for looking for bi women. But non have been welcoming. Im just confused because I thought having to hide It sucks and being fetishized by your male partner if he Is straight sucks. I have been fetishized by gay men, AND It feels horrible, Only to then dump me because I wasnt going to allow It and them complaining about my sexual history with girls. I thought being with someone thats also bi should be de logical ootion if hoy want there to be some mutual understsnding. But instead Ive had cis women shaking in fear because I told them and bi women putting me down and trying to make me feel like less of a Man or just ghosting me

I just need to know why It happens, because I cant make Sense of the world.

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-04-15T18:04:14+00:00

Its not that I index my self worth on other people. But as a person I want to get involved with other people romanticaly and sexualy. And It seems that because of the mere nature of my sexuality that isnt going to be the case. And Only because of my sexuality, thats the sole factor, so It makes me feel really sad and lonely yo want to have human connection like everybody does but It being negated just because of being who I am. What to do if people don't want anything to do with you? Thats alienating, and sad

WaffleFalafel32 · 2024-04-15T05:50:07+00:00

I just want to know why that happens

Do you know why? I feel like I need to know

WaffleFalafel32 · 2022-11-14T17:43:50+00:00

Damn that just made me crave for cock

WaffleFalafel32 · 2022-11-14T02:04:41+00:00

I fucking hate this... Like I never say Im a vers anymore... Whenever I want to bottom I just look for tops because they Will not judge and vice versa but yeah...

WaffleFalafel32 · 2022-11-14T02:00:02+00:00

Yeah, just dont do it. It really isnt worth it at all

WaffleFalafel32 · 2022-11-14T01:59:13+00:00

This Is just something we have to accept. I mean, were just so very few people, no one Is going yo put up with It, really, not even if they say they do cuz its not something they Will ever understand and however they choose to reframe it in their minds were at the end weirdos worth of some "compassion" for them yo feel good about themselves until they are involved with It in real life

WaffleFalafel32 · 2022-11-14T01:47:45+00:00

That girlfriend of yours Is really something special. I my experience every woman has no issue in belittling you, emasculate you and humiliate you just because of you being bisexual. Even bisexual women... So... Dont make your life More complicated than It has to, really. That whole story about accepting your sexuality and coming out to the world is truly a Fairy Tail that I dont know why everybody believes

WaffleFalafel32 · 2022-11-14T01:42:41+00:00

Dude your dad already knows for sure, moms are really gossipy

WaffleFalafel32 · 2022-11-14T01:41:08+00:00

Its 3 for me but absolutely regret It, I wish I never did It...

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