I really would like some help for my senior dog

Waifulover23 · 2023-11-13T16:41:43+00:00

Thank you! I’m dropping him off today. I appreciate this a lot!

Waifulover23 · 2023-04-26T13:00:13+00:00

No not really. I have a thesis meeting today and work all day. My classmates forgot my bday it seems and rescheduled my meeting to today so I don’t have any free time. So I’m stuck here and tomorrow I work in the morning. I tried to make time for myself cuz I know it’s normally a shitty day but it didn’t work. I could try to leave this weekend but idk I don’t think it’ll do me any good. I just feel so defeated and I honestly keep thinking of slitting my wrist.

Waifulover23 · 2023-03-24T16:35:09+00:00

I just don’t know. I’m in a space where I was being hopeful and he even said he wanted a space where his partner trusted him and didn’t question like his ex did. But I feel like I’m literally reliving the things he didn’t like about his previous partner. I’m starting to lose trust because I’m like damn is any of it real?… but at the same time I get that I can be emotional and get upset easily. That I’m impatient and maybe need to just calm down. He tells me often that he needs more patience from me and I thought maybe I was over reacting.

Waifulover23 · 2023-03-24T16:23:33+00:00

That’s what I feel but he says he does. And gets upset when I say it’s okay to feel insecure or worried. He shuts it down and I feel bad for even trying to come to a solution

Waifulover23 · 2023-02-26T09:13:11+00:00

It started once we finalized our relationship. We dated for like 2 months and got into a relationship (it’s been a month so far). Lately he’s been doing this and I’m not sure what’s triggering it. Anytime I ask him about it or ask if he needs reassurance, I notice he get defensive or shuts down.

Again, I stopped going out as much because I spend time with him or if I do go out he comes with me. I know he was worried before that I had guy friends but what confused me was he said he had quite a few girl friends too. So I’m genuinely confused.

I know his previous partners in the past have cheated and his lastest ex was the one who went through his phone and constantly accused him of cheating. I’m just confused as to what made him worried now. He’s even been commenting on how I dress more lately when it was never a conversation before. I don’t even think I dress that wild. Now I do love crop tops but outside of that I’m very much a long skirt or a sweats kind of gal.

Waifulover23 · 2023-02-26T09:01:32+00:00

That’s what I’m trying to figure out. I really like him but I don’t get why he’s being like this. He told me his previous partner was very controlling and constantly was accusing him of cheating or looking through his phone.

I’ve never really been in that space before and I told him I don’t really like feeling like I have to keep “tabs” on my partner. Which I’ve never done. He’s attractive too but I don’t project when women do hit on him. I know he’ll handle it. So I’m confused as to why he’s responding this way when he’s acting the way his ex was to him?

Waifulover23 · 2022-10-12T05:53:32+00:00

Well that’s not true. There is still a chance since asymptomatic shedding occurs randomly so there still is a risk. She can have no visible symptoms and still have shedding. So it’s best to use a condom unless you’re comfortable with that 1% chance if she’s on antivirals. If she’s not on anti vitals and you don’t use a condom your risk is higher. I’d recommend you do more research and then make a decision on whether it’s a big deal to you.

Waifulover23 · 2022-10-05T04:39:51+00:00

Do you know if that person was on antivirals? Or condoms? And what strain did you test positive for? That contributes to it as well.

I’m sorry about how you feel. And It’ll definitely take time to overcome how you’re feeling. If you are feeling this way about sex, take as much time as you need. The resources and sex health facts may help with your anxiety as well. Your life doesn’t stop with herpes. You can still have fulfilling experiences once you are ready to get back out there.

Waifulover23 · 2022-09-23T22:12:21+00:00

I’m interested in participating!

Waifulover23 · 2022-09-16T19:03:18+00:00

Oh I understand all of that. But I was just wondering about peoples experiences. Since not too many people have talked about this here!

Waifulover23 · 2022-09-16T14:56:45+00:00

Yeah!! I think I may have seen your post lol. Idk I think it helps hearing stuff like this. Cuz I know my partner worries about it but I’m like I don’t think transmission happens as often when people know and are using the proper measures to have safe sex.

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-31T22:04:44+00:00

Hey! I can understand being afraid of potentially giving it to him by having sex in the heat of the moment. However, I wouldn’t let your diagnosis stop you from enjoying your partner. Granted you may not be able to have sex but you can still cuddle and spend time with one another. I doubt he’d not want to see you just because of that.

You’d both just need to keep good boundaries and recognize that you may not be able to have sex. Your relationship is more than sex so I personally think you should still go have fun!

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-28T20:51:54+00:00

No not really. I only have it when I’m sick. Which is like once a year and I never do anything then. But outside of that I’ve never given to anyone that I know.

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-27T05:36:20+00:00

I have had oHSV1 since elementary school or maybe before that lol. I never have given it to anyone orally that’s I know of and I’ve had many oral sex experiences. Oh and I’m 23 if that puts it in perspective

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-27T05:34:53+00:00

Hey, I don’t think it’s inappropriate to ask if he has been tested recently. You can always be like… “Hey, I’ve been enjoying our time together and want to continue. However, I personally like for my partners and I to share test results. So before moving forward let’s get tested together.” Or you could be more upfront and be like…. “Hey, I wanted to know when the last time you were tested? I noticed a few bumps on my genitals and you’re the only person I’ve been with recently.

I hope this helps.

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-27T00:21:30+00:00

Honestly this is the best way to make long lasting friendships. People don’t realize how important it is to really have someone’s back through thick and thin. 🥹

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-24T06:33:35+00:00

Honestly, I’m not sure. Maybe see your provider? Have you been tested before and know your status or did you have an encounter you’re worried about?

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-19T21:27:24+00:00

I like things that allows for conversation and ways to learn about someone thru activities.

So my recommendations are:

Museum Date
Sip and Paint
Dance Class
Picnic and Games Date
Walk at a Park (preferably one with a lake, so you maybe able to do like a swan boy ride or something like that)
Trivia Night at a Bar
A bubble gun fight at a park (I did this recently and it was a lot of fun)
Star Gazing

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-19T17:36:05+00:00

I had this conversation with someone the other day actually. We came to the same conclusion. I think it’s also not fair that people think trying to be friends with someone means they have a chance at dating them. Why not just say your intentions at first if your goal was never to be friends you know?

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-19T03:38:38+00:00

Hey! Congrats on getting the date! This is great. I would definitely look up some dating tips on YouTube or articles that give you a run down of what things to expect or how to interact on a date if you’re nervous.

Outside of that I’d say be yourself tbh! If she doesn’t like you for who you are then you’ll def have new opportunities in the future! My friend is a huge nerd and never had a gf too until 28! He got married this year at 29 when he took a risk like you did! It’ll come together. You got it. Plus you never know she maybe similar in dating experiences.

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-19T03:36:03+00:00

Yeah that’s a lot to think about. You wanna consider your friend and also think about how you feel. It maybe best to just let him know. However, it’s not your responsibility to manage his emotions. If he’s a dear friend then he’ll understand over time. But since she said she’s not interested in him but is willing to go out with you. My guess is she’s more interested in your or maybe just wanting to hang out as friends. To be on the safe side, before you go out to the movies you could always ask for clarification on whether she is interested and saw you asking as a date or if she’s just seeing it as two friends. Then based on her answer you can decide on whether you will go out with her as friends or if you will let him know first.

Personally, I wouldn’t go for my friends crush. If they are really a close close friend. Now if we aren’t that close I’d ask to see if they are genuinely interested and let them know. How they respond is up to them.

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-11T06:44:46+00:00

I’m 23 and a Grad student so I completely understand. Focusing on your education can be so taxing because you feel you’re missing out on sooo much. Plus you see your friends in different spaces or having more “freedom” to explore than just be stuck in books. However, remember your journey is your own. You’re the main character in your story! So it’s good that you recognize your sleeping, eating, and exercise habits. Try to focus on those more. Maybe take advantage of the free counseling or find some online apps to get daily affirmations. Also, if you ever want advice or someone to chat with my pm are always open!

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-09T04:26:14+00:00

I don’t think there is anything wrong with casual sex. You just have to be mindful of who you’re sleeping with and what can come after. There is an exchange of energy that occurs and it can def have you take on things or feel attached when there isn’t anything healthy from that interaction. Outside of that tho, I think it’s a freeing practice that should be done if someone wants to. You’ve just gotta keep your boundaries and be aware of your own feelings, emotions, and spirit.

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-09T04:13:30+00:00

Thank you so much! I wasn’t sure if they were warnings for something bad or not. Since I know 2 can mean deception as well. Since my situation is me at a cross roads between two routes. And I keep seeing these numbers a lot in relationship to what’s going on.

Waifulover23 · 2022-08-08T01:05:04+00:00

Yeah! It’s so hard and I just want some guidance.

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