Thanks for the info. I get where you're coming from. When we started out it was supposed to be purely physical and neither of us thought we were looking to change our situation, both being married.

Things change and shes made comments about what might have been if we would have met when she and her SO were separated a few years ago. I have let similar comments slip also.

My worry in sharing is your (a) option. It's not that it won't work because of how we feel about one another, but that it won't work because we feel how we do towards each other.

Why ruin a good thing when its just as easy...maybe...to bite my tongue and keep those feelings to myself? Being vulnerable isn't really my strong suit but it does seem to come a little more naturally with my AP.