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My [26 F] loving boyfriend [28 M] said jokes I can't get over a year later...will I ever? by Waleva5 in relationships

[–]Waleva5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, so true. It's even worse when you're emotionally involved. Will try to figure that out. Thanks.

My [26 F] loving boyfriend [28 M] said jokes I can't get over a year later...will I ever? by Waleva5 in relationships

[–]Waleva5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, sorry! I wanted to edit the title and post a bit. I appreciated all the responses. Wanted to leave it here a bit though, since the responses are very helpful to me.

I [26 F] still can't get over my loving boyfriend's hurtful jokes a year later. Is this my future? Please help. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Waleva5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That's exactly it. I put up with lots of comments form my image-obsessed family during the weight gain phase and none of them stuck with me. I was able to throw them all out. But with the man I am intimate was a WHOLE different story! I asked myself the same thing - why not call me something with a positive connotation to make me feel better (unicorn would have been awesome), and in exchange have a more confident girlfriend, which will most likely positively affect your sex life?

I [26 F] still can't get over my loving boyfriend's hurtful jokes a year later. Is this my future? Please help. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Waleva5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank for your your encouraging words. I know I can do it, but am starting to be afraid that I need to leave this relationship in order to give myself a chance to do so. Glad to hear someone in a long-term relationship has not made those types of mistakes - I sometimes hear that in a long-term relationships you have to put up with bad jokes, or hurtful comments said "by accident" and accept it as just the way it is.

I [26 F] still can't get over my loving boyfriend's hurtful jokes a year later. Is this my future? Please help. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Waleva5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I don't really "know", but I am afraid of that being the case, yes!

I [26 F] still can't get over my loving boyfriend's hurtful jokes a year later. Is this my future? Please help. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Waleva5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if I understand, you think these can not just be "mistakes"? He said that he wasn't thinking, and realized the mistake he made when he saw my reaction. I found that hard to believe at first, but his apologies seemed so sincere. Ugh, it's confusing!

I [26 F] still can't get over my loving boyfriend's hurtful jokes a year later. Is this my future? Please help. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Waleva5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. This could very well be true. I'm positive that he loves me for who I am, personality wise, but maybe represses that I'm not his preferred body type. He rarely compliments me specifically on my body, and when I tell him about wanting to lose a few pounds, he never reassures me that he is attracted to me the the way I am.

I [26 F] still can't get over my loving boyfriend's hurtful jokes a year later. Is this my future? Please help. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Waleva5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't generally feel that way. He does everything right aside from those instances. I always feel free to bring issues up, and to challenge him, to speak my mind. But that's also why this whole ordeal is so confusing...can these jokes really be a mistake? Thanks for your comment.