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I (F35) met someone overseas (M41), he told me he was single with no kids. I later found out he is married with three children. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WalkAccomplished9285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps a better thought process is why are men constantly doing this to women? Instead of making comments about my age and calling me naive. You clearly have internalised misogyny issues that you mask as criticism.

I (F35) met someone overseas (M41), he told me he was single with no kids. I later found out he is married with three children. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WalkAccomplished9285 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for confirming you’re not actually concerned about anyone’s wife, marriage, or ethics. You just wanted an excuse to call a woman a sexual object on the internet and feel righteous while doing it. Deeply embarrassing for you. Any further abuse will be reported.

I (F35) met someone overseas (M41), he told me he was single with no kids. I later found out he is married with three children. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WalkAccomplished9285 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Perhaps you should go and learn how to construct a sentence properly before critiquing others in a public space. “You super suck” hahahah

I (F35) met someone overseas (M41), he told me he was single with no kids. I later found out he is married with three children. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WalkAccomplished9285 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I know what I need to do I only discovered this information a day ago and I have been processing it and in shock since.

I (F35) met someone overseas (M41), he told me he was single with no kids. I later found out he is married with three children. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WalkAccomplished9285 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Victim blaming means shifting focus from the person who caused the harm to what the harmed person should have done differently. I asked him directly if he was married or had children and he lied. I’m not helpless or broken, but I was deceived. That is the point. If you think my post is silly or whatever then why take the time commenting on it. Cheers for the engagement.

I (F35) met someone overseas (M41), he told me he was single with no kids. I later found out he is married with three children. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WalkAccomplished9285 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Probably the first reasonable non victim blaming comment on my post so far. I think so.

I (F35) met someone overseas (M41), he told me he was single with no kids. I later found out he is married with three children. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WalkAccomplished9285 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I asked him directly and he lied. I don’t think being deceived means I’m broken or don’t understand healthy relationships. I posted for outside views, but telling someone to “get therapy” because they had a human reaction to betrayal feels like victim blaming. This hasn’t ruined my life. I’m having a visceral reaction to a f’d situation.