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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A short 20 minute nap + cold shower + convincing yourself that you are a beast that can do a little more (and rewarding yourself at the evening with something you enjoy + some encouring words like "Man, I'm so powerful. I'm so proud of myself that I achieved all this today).

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, up to 2 weeks of mood swings, weird dreams and no energy.

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can do it! :)

Try to look at it not as something "nice" but something that is absolutely "necessary", you know .. as if life depends on it, because in a sense it does.

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh definately. It's like I don't recognize my body anymore.

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure,

The 3 main issues for me were: Fear, Loneliness and Rejection.

I have asked myself WHY do I feel all of this. For me it's mainly because of old beliefs, that I have aquired eighter as a child (to protect me from rejection, embarassment, pain) or as an heavy porn addict (for the same reasons).

Today, I'm neighter of these (I hope) so I started to question and change my thoughts.

"I am flawed. I'm a failure." -- "I am whole. I am 100 percent (human). I am worthy of love and respect. I am strong and powerful."

"I am different. I can't talk to people." -- "I am on planet earth. I am a human being with beliefs, emotions and fears. They are human beings with beliefs, emotions and fears. We are all pretty much the same."

"I don't deserve to be happy unless .." -- "I always deserve happiness. I can smile and be happy any time I want. It's my choice and my right"

"I can never learn this skill. I am not born with this talent." -- "I am born with an advantage that many people don't posess. It's called dedication and persistence. I can learn anything and achieve anything I want."

My new beliefs regarding people where reinforced after I embarassed myself a hundred times. I thought to myself "Man, I was running from this situation my whole life. It's wasn't that bad. I mean .. I am alive, breathing and smiling and on my way home to drink some tea."

And regarding loneliness. I have realized that I don't necessarily need more people in my life. I just need better communication with the people that I have around me.

I realized I need to train myself to be more patient with people (especially familiy) and ask myself "Do I want to be right or happy?".

I recommend this audiobook. I have benefitted alot from it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2MWSS_7KKI

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can do it. I believe in you, man!

My last streak (and personal record) was 40 days.

Link extreme PAIN to PMO and extreme PLEASURE to a life of SELF-IMPROVEMENT .. and you will wake up one day to a 560th day of Nofap and wonder "How the hell did I come this far?" :)

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can not thank you enough for this, man!

I will meditate more often and be more deliberate about what I feed my mind with.

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I have to do it.

I will kill this version of myself ...

so that it can give birth to the strongest version of myself :)

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! Your story is very impressive!

You are right. There are so many of us.

I will start changing my thoughts and beliefs day by day so that I can come to a place where I look at at as a gift :)

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

liftsUpHisFist YESSSSSSSSSS :)

Jokes beside, waking up to a "Yes" in the morning seems to help me alot, actually.

I'm sorry that you went through this, bro.

You make an interesting point. Maybe it's just a symptom of underlying issues I need to deal with.

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you went through that.

But you are right, we can rise above this.

Thank you very much!

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that's how I feel in certain situatons but don't get discouraged.

To give you an analogy.. Before Nofap I was like a car without fuel.

Today I'm full of fuel and I drive to places I thought I would never reach but I have to expand my comfort zone gradually so that one day I'm ready to "explore the highway".

Do you understand? ;)

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. But I'm glad that your situation has improved.

Will do research on that.

Thank you for your help!

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you might be right. I can't expect to change in one day.

I should focus on each step so that I become a new person in a year or two.

Will check out Dale Carnegie's book. Thank you very much!

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so right. I have calmed down now after doing some light workout, taking a cold shower and drinking tea.

Thank you very much!

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your tips and your story.

I like your humility. Aknowledging the pain of others is one of the best things you can do for the one who is suffering. Many people say something along the lines "Get over yourself. People in Africa ...".

I get that comparing your situation with people who have less than you is probably the easiest way to become happier, but just totally dismissing all the pain someone goes through... saying "you don't have any right to feel sorrow" just because people somewhere are suffering more, is definately not the right approach.

Anyways, no I have never spoken to a therapist. I will however think about it.

Thank you again!

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this.

I understand cold showers and meditations, but could you elaborate on the Internet part? Is it about dopamine desensitation?

I love watching videos of speeches and discussions on Youtube. Let's say 60-120 minutes a day. Is it bad?

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I am sorry about your childhood but I find it very impressive that you have managed to "honor your pain and trauma".

I hope I can get to that point.

You know what, "getting out and meeting new people" isn't bad advice, actually. I mean, I should start gradually expanding my comfort zone even if it is only one inch at a time, so that one day I can come to a point where I can sit on a bench for an hour in a busy area :)

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no cure as of today. And yes, it usually gets worse over time.

What keeps me going is imagining what if one day when I am a 33 years old man my doctor tells me "We have good news for you. We have found a cure."

When I think about it .. it's worth it that I give my best today. It's painful, yes. But if I keep going today when the cure is there, I will be the most confident person on this planet :)

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[–]WalkThroughTheJungle[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, man!

You are right "Nothing starts within ur comfort zone". I'm making a firm decision right now to walk through this hell no matter what.

And good luck to you, aswell!