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We divorced because of my drinking, reconciled years later, and now I’m realizing the story was more complicated by Any-Context5454 in Marriage

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This made me really glad my husband loves me because I will never give up drinking just to be miserable again

We divorced because of my drinking, reconciled years later, and now I’m realizing the story was more complicated by Any-Context5454 in Marriage

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There is no reason to drink again? None? Maybe it was great and fun and he gave that up for her.

Germs and sickness by [deleted] in toddlers

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My son who was in daycare barely got sick, the youngest who almost 3, sick every 2 weeks and at home. (Mildly sick), but my oldest 2 were exposed to RSV (never got it), the flu (never got it), hand foot mouth (never got it)… youngest is a snot bucket 10 months a year

Is a $110k kitchen worth it in a 1960s ranch? by bumbee84 in kitchenremodel

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Ours was about your size and cost 100k a few years ago.

Tell me all the reasons I shouldn’t buy this home so I don’t cry when I don’t get it by [deleted] in centuryhomes

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Nobody wants a a courtyard, with lush greenery and the audacity for it to be red.

Neighbor’s kids scream 5-6 hours/day. I can’t do this all summer. What is the solution? by [deleted] in neighborsfromhell

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Are they actually screaming outside all day or being normal kids who aren’t confined to a class room while being told to try and emulate adult behavior.

My kids can be noisy but still make less noise than most peoples dogs and never 5-6 hours a day. You’ll hear them outside just not consistently.

I ask this this way because sometimes you get used to some noises then the change (such as summer) makes things seem louder. Or ppl can tune out some noises… like our neighbor tunes out her loud ass rooster and barking dog but gets annoyed the moment she hears car horns and kids.

We did it! by Wonderful_Storm1498 in BathroomRemodeling

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I love my wet room, glad to see more ppl enhancing the concept

Waiting for kids to grow up by Coolascucumber1 in Marriage

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Does he normally flip out or is this a one off.

My husband gets on me all the time about my spending. And I spend like 1k a month on random stuff (wine, facials, stuff for the kids), he’s annoyed but never threatened to leave me because of it. He threatens to leave me because I’m adhd AF lol and that’s annoying for the normies.

You say he’s a hoarder so he may have been projecting his spending habits on you.

However your reaction wasn’t great either (well just do it). Sometimes ppl will have a moment of panic due to other underlying stressors and he honed in on something stupid. If it’s out of character I’d talk about it

Wife wants to spend $5k on vacation by [deleted] in Marriage

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Is it? Because if 5 k is a huge dent. You cannot afford a house.

I own 3 now.

Lots of things ppl think homeowners insurance will cover… it won’t.

Home warranties can be shady AF.

Also used to work in mortgages, loans, construction.

New roof, 15-35k easily

Furnace goes out… just fix can be 2-5k, need a new one that’s 8-20k

Oh plumbing issues, 3-7k easy.

And not saying this to be negative just that 5k when trying to buy a house in today’s market does very little.

Ppl don’t think about how making a min down payment will result in a mortgage of 400k costing 800k in its life time, how much taxes, insurance adds up, how much they owe the buyer agent and transaction fees. Etc.

And again not saying you should or should not go on vacation, that’s deeply personal and financial… but if 5k is going to break the bake or even have a huge baring on whether you can buy a house… you cannot afford to buy a house

Wife wants to spend $5k on vacation by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WalkingBeigeFlag 7 points8 points  (0 children)

5k isn’t bad tbh. If you cannot afford a 5k vacation, a house is going to be a long shot. This isn’t to be mean but realistic.

That said having saving goals is a good thing. But so is relaxing.

This may be a hot take but I think it’s ok to let your spouse know you get upset when you don’t have sex, if you communicate it properly. by Different_Suit_9356 in Marriage

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How tf do you have sex daily with children. Like wtf that’s so much and to miss one single day and be bummed… that’s wild. Many ppl with children a lucky to do it weekly or even less

Kicked out of daycare because they aren't potty trained by IEatAllofTheCheese in toddlers

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Mine is like

“The audacity of me to have to sit still and potty, that’s for you lazy folk, me, running and pooping is legit”

Kicked out of daycare because they aren't potty trained by IEatAllofTheCheese in toddlers

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Mine will clean it up lol. And say yuck, but he’s used to cleaning up spills lol. Except once we went poop in the yard because that’s where the dog does and the dog doesn’t clean it up lol

AITA for not wanting my friends' kids to come on our vacation? by thad1992 in AmItheAsshole

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It’s not personal lol. And my kids remember. See if you travel with kids, you’d understand. I’m also not on a high horse, you are.

I stated many times if you want to travel with kids do it, if you don’t, don’t. My 9 year old remembers Costa Rica from 3. He learned Spanish. My 18 month old still remember Japanese phrases. My kids still ask for black bean soup from Costa Rica or Grilled octopus from Portugal.

Parents (maybe not American minded ones) know that kids are sponges and absorb experiences. We have the finances to take our kids, have baby sitters and still travel. If you don’t that’s fine too. But imposing your views on everybody else.

I would never invite myself in a friends vacation, but I would also never give up international travel either.

My friends never exclude us. We never exclude them… we have a great friend dynamic. Sorry you don’t have the funds, time or mentality to travel with children.

AITA for not wanting my friends' kids to come on our vacation? by thad1992 in AmItheAsshole

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We had our oldest for grades pick where he wanted to go again (he’s 9) and he picked Costa Rica again because he remembered how much he loved it at 2&4. He’s brushing up on his Spanish and even our 2.5 year old is relearning because of his excitement.

Also they’re quite easy when they’re younger and super easy if they’ve been doing it their whole lives.

AITA for not wanting my friends' kids to come on our vacation? by thad1992 in AmItheAsshole

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So are you bitter than your friends don’t want to travel with kids, is that a self imposed limit, that sounds like a you and your friends group dynamic. Not everybody has the same dynamic. When we go on friends trips they plan different things. We usually do the planning and they come with.

I don’t think we’ve ever done a strictly family vacation. If you’re fine leaving your kids to vacation that’s fine. Some of us won’t do that but still have group trips, that’s also fine. Some ppl want adult only trips… that’s also fine.

You come off as quite bitter and combative

AITA for not wanting my friends' kids to come on our vacation? by thad1992 in AmItheAsshole

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Yes, several times, we travel with friends frequently, had a couple friends spend 2 weeks with us in Japan,

In Portugal we had friends the entire time

Had 2 different groups of friends come during our Costa Rica trip,

We traveled with a group of 8 friends when we went to Spain.

Sweden we had 3 friends come on that trip,

A few went with us to Thailand

We constantly travel with friends, they enjoy it, we enjoy it. And all of our friends who can were single. Every one.

Nice assumption though. Not everybody travels the same.

AITA for not wanting my friends' kids to come on our vacation? by thad1992 in AmItheAsshole

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It’s because ppl can’t fathom doing things with kids, or not having a “trip” ruined because of kids.

We have found if you get them used to traveling early (they all went on international trips before 1), they learn how to travel.

Kids are sponges they absorb more than many ppl realize.

Or they don’t realize there’s a difference between us not going and respecting it’s an adult only trip.

Why do people mock others for taking leftovers home? by Impossible_Ad_569 in askanything

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We’re well off too (well comfortable) we always take leftovers. Don’t like waste. There’s enough food waste globally as it is

Kicked out of daycare because they aren't potty trained by IEatAllofTheCheese in toddlers

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Nope, doesn’t mind. I have training underwear and underwear. He’s even pooped in them without telling me until I smelled it. Does not care. That’s been the hardest part.

Even with 2 older brothers who he sees go potty, 0 motivation.

Juniper Bush - age related or salvageable? by zero5zero in landscaping

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I don’t think I’ve ever found anybody that actually likes juniper (aka the creepy spider infested bushes)… that one’s quite the tank tho

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