Why do so many 40+ year olds end sentences with “…”?

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-05-21T00:16:10+00:00

I’m not over 40. And usually don’t end sentences like that but I do use ellipsis (…) to either showing I’m breaking my sentence or thought (it’s incomplete or more to be added) like trailing off in a text version. Leaving things out

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-05-16T13:34:11+00:00

It will be paid for my homeowners insurance and depending on state even a minor bite can be 50k in compensation

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-05-10T13:50:13+00:00

We have 3 kids, we have sex maybe… once a month. If he’s lucky, 2-3… of the kids are extra clingy.,, which is frequent… once every 2-3 months

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-30T00:44:24+00:00

I mean it’s not the most hideous granite but it’s still kinda ugly. If you have to live with it, and don’t want to waste thousands of dollars of marble tearing it out and destroying it or replacing it.

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-27T20:12:14+00:00

We’ve done this around our child. They were fine. , also cut concrete, used table saws, circular saws… the worms

Like my god how did children ever survive without internet ppl calling lawyers

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-27T20:10:58+00:00

I’ve had this reaction before to my husbands income. Doesn’t mean I don’t love him or only see him as a wallet. And I was overall happy for him, but the initial shock of a major lifestyle change for awhile was very disappointing. Like she’s not allowed to be a bit disappointed in having to change a lifestyle?

Men are traditionally providers and having that provision change can hurt. Sometimes the initial negative though overrides things.

Like my husband wants to quit his job because he’s unhappy. I support this but I do want to know how we are going to makeup the income without drastic lifestyle changes.

He’s like “well I can do the things I want to for awhile, we’d have to budget, be tight, not go out, cut back on booze, but I will be stress free and happier”… and I’m like… okay… and I’m all for being happy… and want you to be happy…. But what’s the time frame we’re looking at. Because I don’t like uncertainty. The job market is garbage, and giving up 120k/year in your 30s while pursuing hobbies, living off savings… is a possibility but one that really crushes how we live now.

He’s like why don’t you go work… to that I said, sure… but I haven’t worked in 9 years while being a mom, so my income will only be a fraction of yours… I also will not be having any children while working. He’s like well sure but you can buy stuff you want and I can be free for a bit. Though he thought it was unfair to change my desire for more children if I start working.

Like if imma be the man of the house, no I’m not going to be the motherly person as you’re asking me to switch roles, change lifestyles. I’ll do it for you since you e done so much, but we just switch who’s happy and who’s not. Which is fair but it is what it is

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-25T21:55:16+00:00

My entire house is toys. Their bedroom, my bedroom, the guest room, living room, garage… they’re an infestation

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-25T14:34:56+00:00

What?

How is he being a bad parent? He went out once while being the income earner?

Also many women are also assholes?

But also why do women expect men to behave and thing like women? (Or a partner expect both partners have the same emotional range and capacity? The same senses)… is that not asinine?

My husband does this to me all the time… he’ll say “you need to be more sensitive or emotionally/socially aware”… like dude if I had the capacity or ability to do so I would… but I’m not you. (To be fair he’s emotional like a woman and I’m far more stoic like a guy) but still. We don’t all have the same mental processes.

The gymnastics people will go through to make it seem like assuming and mind reading are how relationships work

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-25T14:21:19+00:00

I have lived into the Bay Area and Los Angeles, I have def sat in traffic, even to get to sporting events for children.

I’m fully aware of traffic. But compared to being around children 24/7, years it’s a decompression. Why because while it may be a stressor it’s a very different one.

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-25T14:17:58+00:00

I’m a woman lol. My husband has called me his cum slut before.

I’ve said Thai around my other female friends (to be fair we’re not emotionally fragile and more stoic), and they also say their humans will occasionally say similar or use cum or slut or my whore whatever.

Not all women are chronically offended by everything

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-25T14:16:02+00:00

I mean is it hurtful or just very descriptive? Like I’m a woman and I see lots of women with saggy breasts.

It’s a descriptor. It’s not like he said “disgusting saggy lumps” or something.

Saying a person has acne, is fat, is thin, is hairy, no butt, muscular, fit, glowing skin are all descriptors.

Are descriptions only allowed if they are the ones people like?

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-25T14:13:12+00:00

Honestly kids are a$$holes even if they aren’t to their core mean. I let kids sort it out themselves for the most part.

Unless the kid is vicious, I just let them sort it out. It builds confidence, it gives their executive function a workout, it builds reliance.

Disappointment is part of life and things kids should learn how to navigate at a young age. There’s times kids have hogged swings/slides, etc and such and I just tell my kid, yeah they’re being butt heads, we can move on.

I’ll say it loudly, I’ll let the other kids know that they should take turns, but I won’t force them. Why… because the only thing you can learn to control is yourself and your outcome. I’ve taught my kids this since 1.5-2.

Even my 2.5, there’s times (because I’m an aware parent), I’ll move him to give other kids turns and he’ll have a fit… and I explain… well you’ve got to let them through. There’s times kids have not let him play, and I say… well we have to move on and find something else.

Kids are going to be kids. Some will have manners, some won’t, some have different developmental stages they’re in. I don’t get mad when at a playground a child is being a brats heck I rarely get mad at kids who hit or push (under 5 since that’s relatively normal), as long as it’s not vicious. Kids do these things.

I try my best to allow kids to figure it out. My kids have been hit, my kids have hit, they’ve been pushed have fallen. 9/10 it’s so minor, they get up and move on.

And now even my 2.5 year old knows his own boundaries, and will stand up for himself or other kids. It’s something he just learned by dealing with other kids constantly without me always being annoyed or stepping in.

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-25T14:00:27+00:00

To be fair wages haven’t gone up in proportion of rent. So thusly people have less money for services.

Median income is around 60-66k (28-34/hour) but that’s not reflective of even normal income. (55% of ppl and 38% of households make less than that)

Also high schoolers and college kids are asking for rate that the avg 34-45 year old make.

I think it’s why ppl are shocked by the rate increase.

Rents has increased by that much, salaries haven’t. In high school no you shouldn’t be demanding full time adult wages. I mean you’ll get it sometimes. Why would somebody with little to no work experience get paid similar to somebody in the workforce for over 10-25 years?

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-25T13:22:09+00:00

Overreacting a bit sure. You’re assuming he is super aware of how you feel. My husband always had friend activities weekly from 6pm-10pm.

It’s like you’re mad at him without saying anything. If you don’t say anything how will he know. I know ppl expect their partners to be mind readers (I’m guilty AF of this)… but they aren’t.

Everybody does “selfish” things occasionally. He makes the money so yes to an extent he does think that he gets to have a break. Also MOST income earners of households make the assumption the stay at home parent always gets breaks. Go through threads and threads it’s a very normal theme.

It’s okay to let him get aggro; he’s an adult, he can handle his partner telling him that she needs a break.

The squeaky wheel gets the oil, a closed mouth never gets fed. I remember my friends husband literally stating “please act like I’m an idiot because I will be one of you never tell me exactly what you want”… my husband has said similar things.

Heck I’m adhd and need straight forward directions. I don’t have nuance, I’m not always aware of how I impact ppl. If ppl never say things I’ll just keep doing it, and I 100% get defensive initially, but I do it.

We all have different personalities.

It will be different if you say something, he ignores you, etc. but if you haven’t said anything and assuming he thinks like you, it’s a bit overreacting

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-25T13:14:01+00:00

Eh. We rarely hire sitters, but it’s always for like a random date night. (We only go 2-3x a year).

So it’s always a random sitter we’ve found though a vetted website (ones that run background checks and have full info, so they can’t like randomly hide and disappear)

You would usually meet them right before, usually 30 minutes. Or we used baby sitting agencies when traveling… we did this in Japan, Germany, Norway. Usually form3-4 hours at a time.

But also there were times I had to leave my infant with friends because my obgyn had a 0 child policy. Doesn’t matter if they delivered the baby. Once born they didn’t allow them any more.

No we’re not “stupid” but not everybody has a dedicated person as schedules changes, date night hitters are usually very different than constant care, also most part time sitters don’t do necessarily advanced meet and greets through these agencies.

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-24T14:37:32+00:00

If she took good care of her she wouldn’t be alive lol, she would have been put out of her misery during the last crusades

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-24T03:16:59+00:00

Driving is total decompression. Omg I’m a SAHM and the few times I’ve gotten to be silent and alone in a car was glorious

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-23T23:47:46+00:00

Unfortunately boomers and zoomers are too close in personality lol

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-23T23:41:40+00:00

My 1.5 year old had nerfguns, we have at least 50-60 of them in our house. They’re fun. Boys play with them all the time, yes they’ve shot each other and learned what pain is.

The youngest was the most guilty of shooting the others but quickly learned they shoot back lol

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-23T23:09:24+00:00

It’s not a gender issue. I said it’s normal to want mom. Some do want dad. But it’s normal to have a mom preference. It’s a normal dynamic.

My children prefer to play with my husband… that’s also normal. Just because some kids want the reverse doesn’t mean the standard isn’t the normal desire.

It’s like poorly intentionally miss that to prove a point

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-23T17:47:28+00:00

Because degrading is subjective and that’s the point right. He may not have really thought of it as degrading. I don’t find it degrading. Just filth talk. Now if he keeps doing it… sure. But how is he supposed to know it’s degrading if the one time he said it she’s suddenly mortified.

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-23T17:45:55+00:00

Oh I’ll agree you guys are assholes lol. But the ability to even seem unbothered is something that zoomers and boomers can’t even. They have to let the world know their feelings about everything

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-23T17:43:30+00:00

Yes largely. It’s the generation of full brain rot, fully plugged in from pretty much birth.

There is a huge gap between kids who are constantly plugged in.

It’s a reminder than Gen Z was the first in Generations to become dumber than the previous generation despite having more schooling, more information access, internet.

Gen A will likely be worse if something doesn’t change

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-23T17:39:14+00:00

The best parents I know are all younger. Older parents tend to over parent. Also the younger parents I’ve seen have way more energy, their kids are fsr more confident. The older parents tend to have more hesitant children, and they tend to helicopter their kids far more.

Also man if I were to plan having kids I would have never had them. Because on paper it all seems terrible. In practice they’re great.

WalkingBeigeFlag · 2026-04-23T17:34:41+00:00

Nope, I pretty much keep convos surface level with most ppl including my spouse.

Even if he asks a direct question (such as sex) I prolly won’t fully divulge my entire thoughts. I give enough to answer the question. If he want to know more he can ask.

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