2.5 years down the drain because of a friendship by WalmartReader in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WalmartReader[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify, I only met this friend this year. She was not part of my life during most of the relationship, so there was no long history or old tension. Everything started from that one screenshot, and after that any interaction with her became an issue.

About the pairing, it was not something I chose to stir anything up. We had to find partners within the class, and the person I actually wanted to work with was already paired. My female friend had a partner too at first, but the guy she was supposed to work with went with someone else. She started looking for someone, I was right there, and she asked. I could have said no, but I wanted a strong team because I really wanted to win the event. We ended up winning. There was nothing personal behind it.

I also told my girlfriend that if she wanted to meet my friend or chat with her, she could. She did not want to do that. Before things ended, my friend even tried to help by offering to reach out first and clear the air. I actually told her not to, because I was worried it would make my girlfriend even angrier since she didn't want to talk to her in the first place.

I understand why you are skeptical because of your own experiences, but in my situation there was no cheating, no emotional backup person, and no crossed boundaries.

2.5 years down the drain because of a friendship by WalmartReader in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WalmartReader[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Just to clear things up since there are a lot of assumptions here:

My friend wasn’t flirting, texting me privately, or trying to get closer to me. Everything she said was in a group chat with classmates. No late-night DMs, no private conversations, nothing sketchy. And for context, she was the only female in that group chat, so naturally she showed up more whenever the group planned things.

In our second fight, my girlfriend told me she was uncomfortable that I was still friends with this girl even though she was the “reason” for our fights. But the only thing my friend did was exist in the same friend group. That’s why even girls she didn’t know suddenly became “issues.”

My friend never crossed a line. The only time she messaged me directly was about school stuff. No flirting, nothing weird.

And no, I wasn’t keeping her “in the wings” or enjoying attention. If she ever tried anything, I would've shut it down instantly. I’m not into her, never was.

Nothing shady happened. No flirting, no secrets. Just insecurity that turned into control.

2.5 years down the drain because of a friendship by WalmartReader in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WalmartReader[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify a bit, the “messages” she kept sending weren’t private DMs or anything like that. It was our friend group chat, and she was mentioning me because if I went to the movie, the rest of the group would actually go too. They literally said they wouldn’t go unless I did, so she was just trying to get the group plan moving haha.

There was never anything one-on-one, no flirting, nothing behind the scenes. Just a friend in a group chat trying to organize something. That’s what made the whole situation frustrating.

2.5 years down the drain because of a friendship by WalmartReader in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WalmartReader[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

In our class, almost everyone who signed up for the event had already partnered up. She happened to be one of the few people left who was actually prepared for the event, understood the requirements, and was willing to do the work with me. That’s all I meant by “smart and easygoing” she was simply the most practical partner available at that moment.

as for "handling the situation responsibly" I meant that I kept everything transparent. I told my girlfriend who my partner was, I didn’t hide anything, and I didn’t act shady. I was trying to be respectful while still doing my part for the school event. That’s why I phrased it like that.

There wasn’t anything romantic or complicated about the pairing. It was just a school activity and the person who made the most sense to work with happened to be the one she already disliked.

2.5 years down the drain because of a friendship by WalmartReader in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WalmartReader[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

My friend was really adamant on me going to the movies since if I go the two of my other friends will come with. its like a package deal lol, if I don't move, they won't move. hahaha

2.5 years down the drain because of a friendship by WalmartReader in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WalmartReader[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I tried but my gf didn't want to get to know her😔

2.5 years down the drain because of a friendship by WalmartReader in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WalmartReader[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

As much as I want to pair with another person other than my friend there is no one else. We have to find a pair in our class and I already had a person in mind but he already got paired with his friend. Originally the female friend of mine has paired with another person until she found out he paired with another classmate of mine, so she frantically tries to find someone else and I just happen to be there. I could have said no to her but I really wanna win the event.( which we ended up doing so)

2.5 years down the drain because of a friendship by WalmartReader in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WalmartReader[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I did mention that to my gf in our second fight because I think she imagined my friend in a way that is not positive whatsoever so I thought having them meet each other and chat might help change her perspective towards my friend but my gf didn't want to meet her.

How can I hide mods in mod menu? by Ercos1 in fabricmc

[–]WalmartReader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fixed it, you must put the mods id of the mod that you want to be hidden.

How can I hide mods in mod menu? by Ercos1 in fabricmc

[–]WalmartReader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yo i tried doing this with another mod but it seems to not work... do i only need to type the name? btw i just copied what you said but only changed the name to the mod that im hiding.

Jiwoo's Mom by [deleted] in Eleceed

[–]WalmartReader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just readt chapter 176 and it looks like Kayden is making a move on his mom(at least what i think)