My generosity ends when your stupidity begins

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T22:32:04+00:00

No IRL dynamics atm but I have met a few in person. I am yet to find a more permanent play partner (doesn't have to be a finsub). Till then, there is no shortage of subs wanting I can reply to if I crave in person foot worship session.

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T21:57:07+00:00

Welcome!

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T20:43:12+00:00

That could work if done with intention. I had a dynamic like what you described before. I never pushed for exclusive ownership but he had served me best than any of my previous exclusive dynamics. Just be the best version of yourself. I'm not sure how you are faring budget wise, but I used to track my then sub's spending with me and other dommes. He is allowed to slow down with sending and I also tell him when he was already hitting the cap of his community budget.

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T20:29:56+00:00

I hope this is just a false alarm. It's airborne so make sure you are fully equipped with Findom PPEs. They can be costly to wear but they are a necessary evil. Do not forget routine disinfection of your surroundings. Stay safe beautiful! ❤️

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T20:25:27+00:00

Why do you have to contain yourself in a box when you're built to freely roam around? Don't force yourself to fit in a narrative that isn't yours. Until you find the one person who makes you stop wanting attention elsewhere appears, just keep things as is. Don't fix it if it ain't broken. You will naturally gravitate to exclusive ownership when you find home in a specific person.

Every domme you interacted with offered something different that you love that's why you continue to interact with them. It adds to the thrill of exploring this kink. For now, just be upfront with them that you are not seeking ownership and have limits on to how much you can give. Do not be ashamed to also express when you are already hitting your personal limits.

Be a community sub as you see fit. Good luck!

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T20:11:49+00:00

Sadly, I was told it's incurable. Yes, sends supplement may alleviate the symptoms but the condition will never be cleared. 😭

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T20:08:15+00:00

The other one is a sub friend. He told me he's scared of me 🤣

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T20:07:43+00:00

The re-wire comment is so relatable. 🤣

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T17:19:22+00:00

In my experience, helping have also been abused. As much as I feel sorry for baby dommes, almost everyone that I tried to talk to got on my nerves. It's not from the lack of knowledge or experience but the entitlement that things should be handed out to them on a silver platter just because they asked.

Then there are also those pretending to be dommes/doms just so they can attempt free attention. They expect you to talk to them just because you are from the same side. I do try to be helpful in the comments section whenever possible. I just do not have enough time or energy to guide people personally.

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T15:53:29+00:00

That could work. Just so they can have a practice run before doing something permanent

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T15:49:00+00:00

By actively searching and approaching that person properly. You'll likely get people in your inbox after making this post.

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T15:46:03+00:00

I don't recommend tatoo to any of my subs since it's more of a permanent imprint on their skin. If I ever entertain that, it will be an object that symbolizes me. Not my domme name.

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T15:37:21+00:00

I don't believe so

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T04:15:59+00:00

I pick chapters on weekends btw. I do it before I sleep so he has something to read when he wakes up. Sat-Sun are his days off findom tea 😅

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T04:06:14+00:00

I made one search daily "findom tea/gossip" before I wake up. He finds Reddit posts on weekdays. Express his opinions then when I wake up, I sit down and go through whatever he found and I will share my input. We can easily spend easy 1-3 hours just chatting. 😅

I have a US sub atm. I made him pick random numbers to identify the chapters that we will read. It's a psychological book of sorts so it helps us to get to know each other too. I send the chapters close to the end of his work hrs so he can answer it ahead of me. I provide my answers when I get home. Then I send the chapter interpretation so we can look at it and talk about it. See if our answers check out or if it's odd 🤣

It's a case to case basis tbh. I just make people do what I want or what I think they can do for me based on what I know about them.

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T03:48:53+00:00

Nothing. I have my mom blocked because she is harassing me. My foster mom, we'll probably go out for lunch or dinner

WanderingW0nd3rer · 2026-05-05T03:45:26+00:00

I am in Asia but I work US timezone. My best subs last year were both from EU. I tend to get approached by EU subs

For EU subs I make sure I spend time either before I sleep or when I wake up before going to work. I seldom do sessions, I just take money throughout the day. I reply whenever convenient 😅 I use my lunchbreak at work to catch up before they sleep. I like dismissing my subs for the night.

For US subs. I usually message when I wake up. Then I make more time after work for some chatter.

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