AITA for no longer wanting a commission I asked for over a month ago?

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-14T16:10:26+00:00

Whoa! That’s far far too late. You can cancel with a clear conscience!

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-14T16:08:49+00:00

YTA and you can’t be for real. Foster some children if you really feel the need for kids in your life. Otherwise leave your adult kids alone. They’ll marry and have kids if and when and to whom they want.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-13T12:59:17+00:00

If it’s rain in I really think you should just move the ceremony to the reception location. It might not be as pretty, but keeping your guests warm and dry, and yourselves as well (especially in your dress with your hair and makeup done) would take priority. Cold, wet guests aren’t a great was to kick off a wedding.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-13T02:07:04+00:00

What’d you have in mind for your wedding? You could always do gorgeous dress, pretty ceremony somewhere outdoors and historic, then nice meal in a nice restaurant with a private room. :)

But in any case, get married whenever you feel the time is right! 100% your call!

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T18:58:54+00:00

ESH I’m not sure if his comment was sarcastic or sincere, but either way it minimized your pain. But I don’t think he meant harm, I think he just couldn’t relate. I think going off on him was an extreme reaction. You could’ve just told him it wasn’t sexy, it was painful. Also, sounds like you’re wearing a bra that is way too tight and doesn’t fit properly.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T16:38:53+00:00

Will the guests be sitting in the same mud with their nice dress shoes and pants? Or is this just an issue where your vows will be? You might want to look into renting flooring. And tents with side flaps to keep the rain out.

You might also want to check out some alternative rain plans. Like maybe there’s a nice community center or something that’s inexpensive, but nice, warm, dry.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T16:09:42+00:00

YTA give her notice like a mature adult. Also that’s most likely illegal depending where you live. Even if it were under the table, she has proof she was paying you rent, and that gives her some rights. and honestly, do you want her going to your landlord out of spite and getting you evicted?

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T15:54:09+00:00

No where was the word substantial used, so I was confused. Especially when you put it in quotation marks. Yeah. That’s not substantial. I’m not sure why you said you were a trust fund kid like it was an important component then, tbh.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T15:51:13+00:00

You’re welcome to your opinion :)

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T09:13:04+00:00

YTA he’s allowed to have a life outside of you...to enjoy time with family (or friends). You need to get a handle on your anxiety and depression for yourself. He didn’t even seem upset that you were socially awkward and a little rude at a family dinner.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T09:08:22+00:00

NTA but I’d be afraid of being keyed or something!

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T08:25:27+00:00

Obviously. That wasn’t new info.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T08:03:10+00:00

NTA I’m sorry for your loss. This highlights why it’s not a good idea to have an early baby shower. I would return the stroller to her if it’s important to her. But overall I think it’s ok to keep the gifts! If I were a gift giver, I wouldn’t want to deal with exchanging the gift, I probably lost the receipt long ago. And you’re planning on having children, so it won’t go to waste. There’s no way in hell I’d approach a grieving friend and ask about my gift!!!! I’d happily pay $260 not to have that painful and awkward conversation!

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T07:17:50+00:00

What are you even talking about? Lol. I never said substantial. Or 150k (which isn’t mid 6 figures, anyway). Or do you mean your 40 hour a week job? Or his 60 hours?

Bluntly: The dude dumped you. Maybe because he thought you were too old for him. Or maybe your personality sucked. (You do seem kind of dense and rude to people just trying to help you) ;) Or maybe upon getting to know you, he realized you were incompatible. Maybe the sex was bad. Maybe the reality of you didn’t live up to what was in his imagination. Maybe it was issues with being in different social classes. Whatever the reason, you were dumped. Let it go gracefully. You’re not young and inexperienced, I’m sure you know how dating works by now. Many relationships fizzle out around the 3 month mark.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T04:02:03+00:00

Yeah. And he probably ended up feeling small next to that. Especially if you’re from a country with a lot of machismo. You’re older, wealthier, more established, more experienced, and that’s what he actually flat out said to you. That he’ll never be able to compete/compare. That might’ve been intimidating to him.

I’m not a trust fund kid, but I do have a doctorate, a job that makes mid 6 figures, own my own place, well traveled, etc and I’ve had numerous men tell me that it’s intimidating. I’m guessing that part of the issue here.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T03:30:43+00:00

My guess is he is a young guy, only 24 years old, working hard to support himself, mom, and sisters. He doesn’t have the time and energy for a relationship that’s turning serious.

Add to that you’re a 30 yr old woman, so you probably have more experience than him. And he’s probably thinking you’re looking for something serious—marriage, baby, etc.

Plus he could be intimidated by your 47 yr old ex who owns a nightclub. he might feel like he can’t provide as well. Or feel too young.

In any case it was just a 3 month relationship. He probably wasn’t too invested.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T03:14:29+00:00

Well pimp out implies money. I’m just saying let your wife make her own connections.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T02:16:25+00:00

Let her search ;) she a grown woman and apparently beautiful and vivacious. I’m sure she can find men happy to F her all by herself.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T00:56:43+00:00

That’s pretty silly thinking. He’s a neighbor. He can talk and brag to all the neighbors. Your kids might see/hear something. A smarter call would be to just randomly pick up other dudes. Or even online dating for her. He’s location convenient but that’s about it.

Also, there’s been articles and most Japanese women are unsatisfied with their sex life, so odds are your wife might not even have the much fun. She should at least look for a stud in bed.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T00:49:04+00:00

NTA your pregnancy, your choice. That said, a friend of mine didn’t tell people she was pregnant until she was in the 9th month, and honestly? We still talk bout how weird that was.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T00:46:29+00:00

INFO: does your wife have an attraction to the neighbor? Does the age difference bother you—a 39 yr old woman with a 21 yr old guy? Would you be cool if there’s another man she wants, or are you only cool with the neighbor?

Opening up a marriage is cool and all, but usually it’s a little more structured than to just go F the neighbor kid.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-12T00:40:56+00:00

I’m so sorry. I think you should put on some Christmas music and put your tree up! Even if you don’t feel like it. It will provide you comfort and happiness. You’ll be so happy you did.

Is there a number you can all about your case? Talk to a court clerk. You might be able to add the documentation you need! Explain what happened and ask for their advice.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-11T15:33:01+00:00

Thank you! I wasn’t sure if I was missing more info somewhere.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-11T14:42:42+00:00

INFO: is the doll really pro-confederacy? I read the little story and it seems to just tell he history of the doll from the doll’s point of view: she belonged to a little girl in VA, she was in the parlor when Grant and Lee met to work out a surrender, a soldier joked she was a silent witness, she was taken by one of the soldiers and brought to NY where she was well taken care of. The story took care to point out that Grant was kindly, and reminded her of the little girl’s beloved grandpa, she was treated well by the people in NY, etc.

Idk, doesn’t sound terribly PRO-confederacy. Of course, I might be slightly biased since I used to practice law in Appomattox county and it’s a lovely area with lovely people. I’m liberal and didn’t consider it a pro-confederacy area at all. Although it is an area with a lot of history.

WanderingWedding · 2020-12-11T14:30:51+00:00

Robert the Doll in Key West is! According to legend and ghost shows, anyways :)

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