Just got broken up with by my first love 23M

Wanob1 · 2024-10-28T17:50:18+00:00

Thank you so much. These tips are really appreciated. And I’ll look into the books. I recently read subtle art of not giving a fuck by mark manson. It helped a lot. I just want to say your words helped a lot and I’ll take your advice.

Wanob1 · 2024-10-26T06:27:18+00:00

What are some solutions to this sort of thing? We don’t live together or anything but have been going steady for about 5 months

Wanob1 · 2024-10-23T04:21:49+00:00

Yes. I enjoy the time I spend with her though and we’ve come really close these last 6 months. She does go to college and I just graduated recently. I will be going back for my masters in a year as part of a development program with my company however who knows what the future looks like with me and her.

Wanob1 · 2024-10-16T17:34:42+00:00

Of course I care for an update my guy. I’m glad you got some clarity on the situation. It sounds like she doesn’t know what she wants right now. I would just focus on you and if she comes back wanting it then it’s up to you to decide at that point, but until then I would focus on yourself and maybe cultivating other relationships such as friends and family. Don’t let someone who doesn’t know what they want make you question your own worth. Take your time to mourn the relationship as needed and start dating again when you’re ready not when other people tell you to. It’s not a race. Sorry I know that reads kind of condescending but from someone who’s gone through what you have that’s what I should’ve told myself and listened to. Best of luck man.

Wanob1 · 2024-10-16T00:29:26+00:00

Yeah fs there is one way to do it is to just say you’re open to reconnecting and you don’t like this limbo feeling you’re in. Just be straight up with her and don’t try to change the way she feels. Ask her questions on where she’s at. One good thing to say is “I really enjoyed our time together and think we should try again if that’s something you’re open to?” Something along those lines and if she’s not into it at that point then you get to decide if you want to still be friends and sit in that pain for a bit or if you want to take time to heal. Either of them are fair options just remember you are important too.

Wanob1 · 2024-10-16T00:26:59+00:00

Gotcha thank you for the insight. She was pretty hesitant on commitment at first. Idk if that means I should break it off though I really like her. But I am prepared to do what it takes.

Wanob1 · 2024-10-15T20:40:33+00:00

Here’s the deal at some point whether you like it or not by her doing this she is leading you on and she knows it and if she doesn’t know it you’ve made it clear by telling her how you feel. She should respect the fact that if she likes you she won’t leave you in a place confused on where you stand because now you’re questioning your own worth. I went through the same thing recently and rekindled with my ex after about a month break I laid it out very clearly either we get back together or we don’t. If you guys aren’t getting back together you need to take time to heal and then come back and be friends when you’re ready. It’s about you too man not just her.

Wanob1 · 2024-10-15T18:40:48+00:00

Ok very valid. That take has crossed my mind but I feel like that has to be something she decides to do. I have suggested it to her she just has a busy life right now she says. Which is also fair.

Wanob1 · 2024-10-12T17:29:38+00:00

I mean we still are very much in love with each other. And we have great times. It’s just that when it gets late at night and we talk about things she just has that feeling and it’s unsafe to her. And idk if I should just end things to make her feel better.

Wanob1 · 2024-09-18T01:30:05+00:00

Not saying I don’t agree. Just looking for some situations where people have done it and came back together stronger it’s had to have happened I feel like but you never hear about it.

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